Struggle

A struggle indeed. I do hope that your OH will be better soon.

Hi Teddy111. Didn't want to read and run. How difficult and worrying for you. It's only natural that you feel a bit shaky - you've had a big shock. Are there any friends nearby who you could share your worries with? ?

You're entitled to feel a bit shaky in the circumstances! Very best wishes to you and to your husband for a good recovery. I hope your son is of some help, despite his own problems? But I trust you're not going to let him smoke around the house when his Dad comes home? That won't do anything to aid recovery. Last year, my OH was admitted to hospital with sepsis when a leg infection got out of control. We were away from home at the time and it was only talking to other people - sometimes complete strangers - which kept me sane at all. Fortunately, OH recovered and I'm so grateful for the care he received but do remember to take care of yourself, too. Your husband will need you fit and well. Big hugs to you.

Sorry to hear about your DH. Hopefully he is in good hands.
Could you go to visit by public transport?

Or try Community Transport ir AgeUk, or rvs. They can provide transport in certain circumstances at a very reasonable cost.

I am sorry for your situation.

Hope your DH does well.These things are always a shock,
Sorry to hear your son has a problem with alchohol, but at least you have him with you to talk to at this time.
Can you afford to take taxis to the hospital, or is there a reliable bus? Sometimes driving when upset is difficult.?

Teddy111 of course you feel shaky. We all would in the circumstances. Good advice already given. Thinking of you and hoping that things get better for you.

A big THANK YOU to everybody who took time to answer,I had kept looking at the watching button and thought I had no replies,it felt quite lonely.Then I pressed the' I'm on' button and you all came up.Also many thanks for the ideas.

Teddy111 sorry to read of your troubles. I hope your DH is comfortable and that you feel reassured by being able to visit. You are giving out a lot of support with DS too so I hope you can be kind to yourself where possible.

All good wishes from me too

And me, Teddy. Hope things start to look a little brighter for you soon.

Stay strong Teddy!
Take care of yourself in all this.
"This too shall pass".

Thank you all,very much.xx

Such a worrying time for you not only about your husband but also your son. It's only natural you will be feeling shaky about it all - just take care and remind your son that his dad will need a lot of care when he's home so he needs to be mindful of his drinking and smoking while he's there.

Thinking of you. Hugs

I’m not surprised that you feel shaky. Just try to take extra time when driving. When I feel as you do (I often do) I sit in the car for a moment, take a deep breath and centre my mind into drive mode. I hope that makes sense. Perhaps you could just gently remind your son that he needs to step up to the mark because both you and his dad need his kindness now. The last thing you need is confrontation. I hope your husband health improves and that you feel a bit better yourself. Take care.