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nananina Tue 04-Jul-17 14:06:38

I am 73 and forsome years ow I've forgotten words but my friends are all the same and we make a joke of it. Somehow though things have changed and I am forgetting words more often ad it's very embarrassing. The early symptoms include forgetting words. I have suffered fro depression and anxiety for 8 years and wnder if there is a connection. I see a psychiatrist every month so I will bring it up with her. My DH who is very supportive gets annoyed when I talk about dementia and thinks it's all down to anxiety but I don't. Anyone got any experience?

kittylester Tue 04-Jul-17 14:15:32

All sorts of things can cause the symptoms you describe including anxiety and dementia so I'd try not to worry and mention it to your psychiatrist at your next appt. Tiredness can also be a cause.

MargaretX Tue 04-Jul-17 14:37:07

Ok so you forget words. But do you know the facts. If you forget a name do you know the person, where she lives and how many children etc.
Do you know the order of things. How to get dressed or get to the busstop. How much things cost and giving change.

These small things seem laughably easy but people with dementia don't carry money and often leave the house and turn to leave in the wrong direction, and very often have an absent look about them.
Your post sounds as if you have thought quite constructively about the subject.

grannylyn65 Tue 04-Jul-17 15:11:44

Above poster is right but checking with GP is a good idea ,

Thirdinline Tue 04-Jul-17 15:25:51

It's a very good idea to raise this with your GP, as they have diagnostic criteria which could either set your mind at rest, or help by stopping your memory worsening and delay other symptoms developing (if it is the early stages of dementia). As with many things, early diagnosis is beneficial. Your husband's response is very common and understandable, given the bad press dementia gets, but there has been so much progress in dementia treatment that these days it's better to know. I wish you all the best. Do let us know how you get on.

aggie Tue 04-Jul-17 15:45:56

OH has just had a long involved chat with me , he was worried that he hadn't wakened this Morning , hadn't got dressed and what would he do ! I can't convince him that the carers showered him etc , he keeps going back to ..... but did I waken ? Now that is dementia sad

kittylester Tue 04-Jul-17 15:51:10

It's not correct to say that people living with dementia often have a vacant look about them or that they don't carry mone*

aggiehard work for you. brew

M0nica Tue 04-Jul-17 15:57:36

I am always forgetting words. Have done since my mid 30s. I read recently that this is perfectly normal and has nothing to do with dementia.

DF was always doing it and lived to be 92. Still active on the committees of three different community groups and had his MP attend his funeral. Don't worry it is normal.

Anya Tue 04-Jul-17 15:58:00

Exactly Aggie

The tests the GPs do are pathetic. My DH passed with flying colours but I insisted and the brain scan revealed the start of vascular dementia. That was several years ago. There's a lot of rubbish talked about new treatments for the various dementias too - very little works.

devongirl Tue 04-Jul-17 16:04:20

I remeber a GP in the Times saying when you need to worry is if you go upstairs to look for keys, not when you forget why you've gone but when you find the keys, you can't remember what they're for.

kittylester Tue 04-Jul-17 16:24:19

The op is seeing her psychiatrist not her gp!

I heard that if you put your shoes in the fridge it's forgetfulness - forgetting that the milk is in the fridge is a worry.

I think it's Maw who has the theory that our brains get full of more interesting stuff and jettison things it's not interested in

That doesn't explain how I forgot the name of a dear friend the other day. blush

ninathenana Tue 04-Jul-17 16:37:04

It's also not true that early diagnosis and treatment can stop it worsening.
It depends on the type of dementia whether or not treatment can slow the process.

ginny Tue 04-Jul-17 18:19:07

MIL seems to be trying to convince herself and us that she has the beginning of dementia. She goes on and on about forgetting words ( so do I and many of my friends). She certainly has no other symptoms that we can see. I think I will show her this thread.

Sorry, just had a very difficult day with her yesterday and had to help out a neighbour this morning with her DH who actually does have dementia and visited a friend whose DH died a few weeks ago aged just 67.

nananina Thu 06-Jul-17 00:11:33

Many thanks for all your replies. I am getting myself in aright state, keep trying to remember 3 particular sentences. I have them written down in my bedroom and I've usually forgotten them by the time I'm downstairs. I'm starting to almost rehearse what I'm going to say to people so I won't get caught out with forgetting a word. Yes I'm seeing the psychiatrist on 20th of this month but she's new and I've never seen her before. I might have a chat to my CPN. I will see my GP because she's lovely and I've known her for about 10 years and trust her implicitly.

I wasn't sure about the issue of something to prevent the symptoms getting worse -i'm very scared and thinking I couldn't live with dementia, but there's only one alternative.

nananina Thu 06-Jul-17 00:15:17

aggie - so sorry for you and your DH - I have heard of things like this before. You mention a carer - is it difficult to get support and do you get respite

Flossieturner Thu 06-Jul-17 07:57:37

I am 69 and I also worry about the onset of dementia. Part of me thinks that if I am aware enough to worry about it, I don't have it.

Anxiety has led me recently, to sit at a bus stop and let two buses go by, while I waited for a particular bus. Only realising hours later what I had done. Every bus went to the destination and I have done the journey many times.

I also put the electric kettle on the gas hob. Returned to the kitchen to see it alight, picked it up and put it on the work top. I was shaking once I realised what I had done,

I have not mentioned it to anybody as I think that I will not be taken seriously. It is very difficult to judge when to seek help. I have stopped caring for my grandchildren as I am scared I will make a stupid mistake.

kittylester Thu 06-Jul-17 08:03:35

Flossing, please go and see your gp. Lots if things could be causing your 'lapses' but, if you do have dementia, there are things that can slow the progress of some, asnina said.

It is perfectly possible to live well with dementia for a long time but early diagnosis is key.

But, it's a really scary prospect isn't it?

kittylester Thu 06-Jul-17 08:19:37

Flipping phone - apologies Flossie!

harrigran Thu 06-Jul-17 09:53:58

If you are seeing a psychiatrist every month you can be fairly sure you do not have dementia, it would have been picked up before now. Is the forgetfulness not due to the tablets you are taking ?

kittylester Thu 06-Jul-17 10:09:27

Good point, Harri!

Willow500 Thu 06-Jul-17 17:08:31

There are so many symptoms of depression and dementia which are similar but I would make an appointment with your GP and ask for a referral to a memory clinic just to get checked out and put your mind at rest. My parents both had dementia and had totally different symptoms - my husband recognised the problem some time before I did as I just put it down to age. Sadly by the time I'd agreed and got them tested there was no treatment suitable for them. You are probably fine but the sooner it's recognised if it is dementia the better.

silverlining48 Thu 06-Jul-17 21:28:38

Both my parents had dementia. Every time i forget a word or what i want to say ( it happens a lot) i think ...... its on its way to get me. My worst fear.

nananina Thu 06-Jul-17 23:41:34

Flossie yes I think you should see your GP. not that they can do a great deal but he/she could put your mind at rest. Or you could have mild cognitive disorder which is not as serious as dementia.

Harrigan My symptoms only started about 2 weeks ago and that's why nothing was picked up by the psych as I didn't complain. They seem to have come on quickly and I suppose they have to start somewhere. The next one is new so haven't seen her before.I'm hoping I've got mild cognitive disorder though obviously I'd rather not have anything like this.

Swanny Fri 07-Jul-17 00:06:30

I used to work for the Alzheimer's Society and every time I forget something I'm inclined to panic. I just have to calm myself and think rationally that I have a poltergeist in the house who keeps moving things ...

No flippancy intended but this week I have 'mislaid' 3 things. Two of them turned up where they shouldn't have been and I'm still looking for the 3rd grin

kittylester Fri 07-Jul-17 06:55:49

If your symptoms only started a couple of weeks ago it would seem unlikely that you have dementia.