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kittylester Wed 22-Jun-16 10:41:47

I've been wondering what happens on Friday. I don't mean the mechanics if Leave win or the state of the government if Remain win.

What I want to know is whether there is any hope of people showing a bit more tolerance to the other person's point of view.

The country in which I live used to be far more tolerant of the other man and much less strident in it's views. Is there any hope that it will return to that position.

Or, is this country now an intolerant, judgmental, uncomfortable place to be?

Charleygirl Wed 22-Jun-16 10:49:29

I doubt if there will be much change whichever way the vote goes. There will still be long discussions about it and I have had enough- we have to accept the poll vote on Friday.

Jane10 Wed 22-Jun-16 10:53:16

I don't suppose all those strong emotions will just disappear. There will be recriminations as there will be sorely disappointed not to say angry people regardless of who 'wins'.

rosesarered Wed 22-Jun-16 10:56:50

well, shall we see who is full of recriminations [on here] and who just accepts a democratic vote.... that will be interesting.

rosesarered Wed 22-Jun-16 10:58:07

as to the country in general, it will rumble on for a bit assisted by the media and then fade away [hopefully.]

GandTea Wed 22-Jun-16 11:08:55

I fear recriminations and continuing angst from the losing side for a long time. Farage is already talking about a second referendum if Remain wins by anything other than a landslide. I wonder if he would be saying the same for a 51/49 win for leave ?

NanaandGrampy Wed 22-Jun-16 11:50:20

I think there might be a long queue of people with their cases packed leaving the country. And a long queue with their cases packed waiting to get in!

Of course they might just be going on holiday smile

Anya Wed 22-Jun-16 12:19:50

Whatever the decision we must live with it and let bygones be bygones and move on. as those of us who didn't get our choice of government in the last election moved on. We had to accept the outcome then and we will have to accept it on Friday.

kittylester Wed 22-Jun-16 12:27:26

I think that is what is bothering me Anya. Lots of people seem to find it hard to accept what happened in the last election and to move on.

Some people seem to think that anyone who holds a different 'political' view from themselves, whether it be voting in the general election or voting in or out, is all bad. I worry that we will have huge divisions remaining as we did after the last election and more intolerance than before.

harrigran Wed 22-Jun-16 13:10:39

I think there might be riots in certain cities and we may have a long period of unrest.

Welshwife Wed 22-Jun-16 13:23:46

We will all need to live with the decision either way. For me the horror has been seeing hatred of immigrants from people on line and in life. I read a piece written by a Polish man this morning - he has been living in UK since the mid eighties - it is for him the feeing of not really being wanted. It is OK saying to immigrants already in the UK 'you can stay' or 'we don't mean you'
- but they will feel that they are all lumped together. I hope we can just repair this dreadful damage which has been let free by this unnecessary referendum.

kittylester Wed 22-Jun-16 13:35:46

There was lots of vitriol and bitterness before the referendum welshwife. It has been worse in the run up but will it stop after?

Jane10 Wed 22-Jun-16 13:59:17

OK I know I'm a bad person but in the event of a (God forbid) brexit vote I know I will want to run around personally smacking anyone who voted for it! I'm generally a pretty peaceloving person but this has really got me going. Goodness knows how others might react! Sigh. sad

kittylester Wed 22-Jun-16 15:56:46

It has only just dawned on me that getting the results by areas won't help either!

Alima Wed 22-Jun-16 16:11:18

Jane10, I am relieved you live a long way from me. Really do not fancy a smacking. Thought the remainers were supposedly the peaceful lot anyway!

Jane10 Wed 22-Jun-16 16:20:44

Oooh Alima if you could see me you'd be shaking in your boots! (Well not very much actually. Drat this osteoarthritis!)

Jane10 Wed 22-Jun-16 16:24:07

Seriously I don't think people are any more intolerant etc than they ever were before. Its just that the internet and modern communications enable us to share opinions and argue with completely anonymous strangers in a way that was unimaginable even a decade ago.

Welshwife Wed 22-Jun-16 17:02:20

I think people have suddenly decided that it is now acceptable to voice opinions which have lain dormant and not PC for a long time. They may have been quietly intolerant before but now it is out in the open we can see how prevalent it is. I think there are faults on both sides - many immigrants have failed to try and integrate in any way and this has not helped the situation and maybe Brits have failed in many cases to be welcoming enough.
In the sixties I did some teaching in Hounslow which has always had a large immigrant population due to its position near to Heathrow and London. I was teaching Migrant children ( mainly Indian and Pakistani) English. Their Maths work was excellent. When we had an open evening the thing that most of the father's were pleased about was not if I had been teaching their child to read English but if the child had told them I was kind to them!! Interestingly none of the mothers came to see me!

Jane10 Wed 22-Jun-16 17:13:29

We've always had immigrants but somehow some seem to try to integrate much more than others.

WilmaKnickersfit Wed 22-Jun-16 18:02:45

Welshwife I agree with you that the referendum has resulted in many people voicing opinions that would have been previously perceived as intolerance or not PC. This in itself is not a bad thing and above all, the politicians need to listen to what is being said. My concern is this that the perceptions which were not based on facts will not be challenged or corrected, and I worry we will become a less tolerant country.

Jane10 Wed 22-Jun-16 18:28:08

Yes there's no doubt all sorts of nonsense have somehow mutated into 'facts'.

harrigran Wed 22-Jun-16 23:44:23

DH and DS are arguing on FB, I have just been on and told them "enough already" next one to speak is on the naughty step grin

WilmaKnickersfit Thu 23-Jun-16 10:28:29

harri grin

Teetime Thu 23-Jun-16 13:57:52

I think we will slump back into apathy whatever the vote - we do after general elections and just accept what has happened. Jane 10 I have voted Leave and you're not smacking me sweetie!!!

jinglbellsfrocks Thu 23-Jun-16 14:17:11

I'm still undecided whether to go in to M&S today and grab some euros. If they've got any left.