Precocious or just confident?

Sounds like he’s been well brought up. Some children have an innate sense of being social and are confident.
My 11 year old GD introduced her class individually to the new class teacher when she was 7!

I think that was super.

He is very much into drama and music so I think that has made him like this.

My youngest GC (8 & 5yo) both do this. It’s an after effect of Covid, I think, when they were so deprived of company, they’d stop and talk to anyone!

I think I would be impressed as long as he did it in a kind considerate way,
your other son sounds a touch jealous/ envious.

It is certainly unusual behaviour for a child of that age but I wouldn’t label it precocious. Everyone is different and it is lovely that a child felt confident enough to do this. It should be encouraged.

kircubbin2000

He is very much into drama and music so I think that has made him like this.

When my 16 year old GS, obsessed with music and drama, went in for his interview at the Brits, before he sat down he went along the line of people on the interview panel and shook hands with each one.
He is autistic, not suggesting your GS is, but rarely have I found autistic youngsters to be ill mannered.

Polite boy. I would have felt proud of him.

I think it sounds ok, especially if it were to older family members who didn’t have a clue who he was.

“Hello, my name’s John, I’m Mary’s son, she was the niece of Auntie Flo whose funeral this is” or words to that effect.

If that were me, I would be thinking “Oh, so this is Mary’s son”…

I would have been proud to have a son like that. Sounds like he’s a credit to you 😊

It is unusual behaviour I think he’s a very confident young man, I would have hid in the corner hoping no one noticed me at that age Perhaps his drama group has given him more confidence than most
None of my children or grandchildren would have approached adults in this way, they would answer or chat if approached but they wouldn’t initiate it

I imagine is not the way many 11 year olds would behave but all children, like adults, are different, my old mum would have said ‘he has an old head on young shoulders’, which is a compliment.

What lovely manners! Very grown-up for his age, in a positive way.

He sounds lovely - and yes, it could be the drama classes which have helped him feel confident in himself. Mind you, my GS would probably do something similar - he's 'not backwards at coming forwards' as we say around here!

That’s really lovely and shows he is very confident.
I have a 11 year old GS too, but I can’t see him doing that - he is a shy boy , not painfully shy, but shy.

He sounds like a lovely confident, polite young lad.

He sounds a very confident young man and you should be proud of him.
Being at a funeral often means being amongst people who you don’t know well, how lovely that this child struck up conversation with everyone some of whom might have felt a bit isolated.

My Son would do this from about 10 years old, with confidence, he was happy to chat to ladies on the supermarket tills. Even younger about 8 he saw a Wasp in a Car he then knocked on the drivers window, saying "Excuse me, you have a Wasp in your car" the lady flew out of the car thanking him.

Greenfinch

It is certainly unusual behaviour for a child of that age but I wouldn’t label it precocious. Everyone is different and it is lovely that a child felt confident enough to do this. It should be encouraged.

I agree.
It sounds similar to a boy I know with Aspergers.

I have to disagree with most comments here. This sounds like a child who is very attention seeking. I have come across this before. A child of 6 at a family wedding who, encouraged by the mother, stood on a chair to deliver an unscheduled speech. An 8 year old (not a relative) at a an elderly person’s birthday party who decided to conduct the guests in a rendition of Happy Birthday. I have also witnessed the precocious children in school, they are not well liked!

He sounds delightful. It is not precocious, it is called having social graces. Precocious is boasting and having a big ego. I once taught a boy of 11 who wore a signet ring and wore aftershave. He went far in life.

What a brilliant job his parents have done giving him developing his self confidence, politeness, interest in others. Presumably it is considered "precocious" because he is 11 years old? I think its brilliant and setting him up for life

SpinDriftCoastal

He sounds delightful. It is not precocious, it is called having social graces. Precocious is boasting and having a big ego. I once taught a boy of 11 who wore a signet ring and wore aftershave. He went far in life.

I agree - it doesn't sound precocious to me.

One of my GCs, age nine, is like that. They have two siblings who are nothing like that so I don't think it is their upbringing. Neither parent is like that either.

I don't think it is a sign of precociousness and I would far rather see my GCs being self confident than being wracked with self doubt and low self esteem.