No manners. No more gifts.

I think you are. You asked for her help, she obliged. You have left her a gift and thanked her. End of really.

Ahhh, OK!

No need for thanks for thanks.

I agree with Primrose. You seem to imply, OP, that another time you would ask her to feed your cat and not give her a little thank you gift - now that would be bad manners.

,I would certainly have sent you a thank you text..

It would have been nice to have a text thanking you for the gift/clothes. Next time you ask her to feed your cat don't bother with a gift, just a thank you should suffice!

Shinamae and Shoppinggirl - thank you! I'm thankful that others feel the same way as me!

Wait until you see her and have a chat. She may thank you then. It’s only 4 hours so far after all.

Plenty of time yet .
Two wrongs don’t make a right - just carry on being you. Don’t change.

Is this how neighbours fall out?

I don't expect thankyous for gifts- it's given freely after all, otherwise I wouldn't give it.

This isn't a question of manners disappearing, someone I knew had the same complaint 40 years ago. Of course she continued to give the kind neighbour a thank you present when she fed her cat afterwards, she recognised it was an arrangement in her favour.

I was always brought up to believe that a gift wasn't yours until you had said thank you for it. It's just a matter of common courtesy and good manners, surely - it's not about 'expecting' a gift or thanks.

But she must be a kind person to take time out of her weekend to feed your cat. I would just be grateful that l had someone to do this. . After 4 hours you are hurt and thinking all sorts and already decided you will not be leaving anymore gifts.. Imagine if she knew that's how you felt. She will probably thank you next time she sees you and you will wonder why you got upset .

Jillykins3

But she must be a kind person to take time out of her weekend to feed your cat. I would just be grateful that l had someone to do this. . After 4 hours you are hurt and thinking all sorts and already decided you will not be leaving anymore gifts.. Imagine if she knew that's how you felt. She will probably thank you next time she sees you and you will wonder why you got upset .

This.

I was brought up to believe that you don’t expect thanks for a gift, but that it is good manners to say thank you. The pleasure is in the giving.

I'm not hurt, and I'm not upset! I just wondered what others thought!
And yes, I was also brought up to say thank you for ANY gift; I wouldn't dream of accepting a gift without saying thank you. But ... it would seem that not everyone thinks the same 😞

I've just had a thank you 😊

Presumably this is a close neighbour who was kind enough to care for your cat. A little gift is appropriate for their time and thoughtfulness . Only 4 hours later you seem peeved that you haven’t had an appreciative response.
Yes you are being very unreasonable.

It would be nice if she just confirmed she had got the gift and clothes. But I agree with others, she may say thank you when she sees you and it has only been four hours. I was also brought up to always say 'thank you', even if it was a gift to show appreciation of a job done for someone else.

Crossed posts JackK and pleased to hear the outcome you so desired, Good neighbours are like gold dust, please don’t judge yours for not replying within 4 hours.

Maybe she's busy or has other things on her mind. If you otherwise get on ok with her, then I'd let it go. Meanwhile, you should do what has been suggested - the right thing i.e. get her a gift, donate stuff, whatever.

Obviously she's been out and busy. Or maybe she's on GN

sparkly1000

Presumably this is a close neighbour who was kind enough to care for your cat. A little gift is appropriate for their time and thoughtfulness . Only 4 hours later you seem peeved that you haven’t had an appreciative response.
Yes you are being very unreasonable.

Absolutely. Be grateful that you have someone that you can trust to look after you kitty while you are away. She did you a favour for free and you gave her a gift which was nice. I'm sure that next time she saw you in person she would have said thank you.
I hope she's not on here and that she doesn't see your post or you may be looking for a new cat sitter.

You thanked her with a gift, end of.
My sister does this "thank you for the thank you card" and gets upset if she doesn't get an acknowledgement 🤨