Hen Weekend crafting walking and boring

I have never been to hen party but if I was ever invited that sounds like my idea of a nightmare.
You have made a very wise decision.

Hen dos of any flavour fill me with horror. Never had one (two weddings) and never accepted an invite. Can’t blame you for opting out.

Sounds like a laugh a minute!

I would thoroughly enjoy a weekend of crafting and walking, but definitely not as part of a hen weekend - and sharing a room with three strangers would be an absolute no no .
But going with one or two like minded friends, and having my own room, now that would be an entirely different matter.
I don't blame you in the least for ducking out of this one GlamM

Never been to one, but it sounds both boring and expensive!
Also, sharing a room with strangers? Nooooooo.?

Sharing a room is my idea of nightmare ( except for best friend who I have holidayed with) never mind the cost. What's with all this getting married abroad?! My hen many years ago was a meal in a local pub. We walked there and it cost next to nothing

They didn't have hen parties, weekends etc in my day. Thank goodness.

Stag and hen parties are just another example of the kind of self indulgence we would never have dreamed of.

The 'last night of freedom' has evolved into a themed extravaganza with money no object. Well, that's OK if you can afford it but pity the poor guest who feels duty bound to go even though she can't really justify the expense.

The happy couple have probably been living together for years. They already have the house, the furniture, the cars and often as not a couple of kids.

Ooo no on no! Why would she think you'd want to spend a fortune to do things you're not interested in & sleep with a roomful of strangers?! Did d it once to please a friend, never again!

I ve never been to a hen party or weekend and I feel a bit thankful personally I wouldn’t enjoy a forced over priced weekend at all so no I wouldn’t be attending
Now a walking craft weekend with a couple of friends might be different

I went along to my now DiL's Hen Party which consisted of 3 parts. I attended the morning and afternoon bits - the afternoon being afternoon tea which was right up my street - but not the evening knees up which wasn't my scene at all and it was happily accepted.
No I wouldn't be attending GlamM I'm not up to walking and the other activities don't appeal and as for sharing a room for a whole weekend and paying for the privilege............

I too am an old curmudgeon when it comes to hen and stag parties - it is all out of control now and OTT.

Just do it!!

You only live once, if you are all friends of the same person you will probably have more in common than you think.
Life is for living and it’s always better to have something to look back on than not !

Please don’t ever waste time thinking if only.....even for this ?

I went to my daughter’s, but it was a spa day and I left them to have a meal in the evening, having given the bridesmaids a major contribution to the day.

I was invited to my dil’s hen weekend, but declined gracefully, as I had no desire to spend the hight sharing a room in a hotel with a young lady I don’t know.

OH heavens sounds like my idea of hell - I wouldn't go.

Goodness me, that's expensive! I don't blame you for not going, a, because it is a lot of money and b, it consists of things you really dislike. A wise decision, I think.

My philosophy is similar to dogsmother’s. If I’m invited to a party, I go. Life’s too short to sit at home. The crafting doesn’t appeal to me either, but with a few glasses of fizz and some good company, it could turn out to be a weekend you’ll regret missing out on. But then, sharing a room wouldn’t bother me in the slightest.

Teetime echoed my sentiments exactly. I think these brides nowadays are quite selfish expecting guests to spend large amounts of money for the privilege of attending their nuptials.

I went to DD’s.
It consisted of cakes, tea and prosecco in her very small back garden with 5 of her friends and I felt very flattered to be invited.
I am like you maggie and would never decline an invitation!

Not in a million years

Why does anybody want to do that? True, I am among the top category of introverts but perhaps I can understand hen partying like I can understand dogs smelling each others bottoms

What everyone else has said. It's a presumption to expect people to splash out on an event of this type that's quite niche and not for everyone. Why can't people just have the wedding and have done with it, God knows that can be more than enough in some cases, without stretching the damn thing into a series of associated celebrations. As for sharing a bedroom or bathroom, no thanks!

My DIL invited me on her hen party which was many miles away in a faded, jaded seaside town. I was going to be the driver for the weekend taking her friends and her. All of our family cried off for one reason or another and then so did her friends. I didn't feel able to drop out even though I couldn't think of anything worse especially as her mother absolutely hated me. It was awful. We stayed in a hostel type place which was just the pits. It was smelly, shabby and the food they served was all out of date.
Her mother was an entirely selfish woman who wouldn't let my DIL do anything she wanted to without making the most awful fuss. We arrived on Friday night and by Saturday lunchtime, my DIL was in tears wanting to go home and wishing I was her mother. It was horrendous and I made up my mind I would never go back to that place and I would avoid anything to do with her mother again. As we lived 400 miles apart it was very easy!

Sounds like expensive hell to me. It seems to me that if you're already paying to go to the wedding then you could reasonably excuse yourself from an expensive hen do.