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Diddy1 Sat 07-Oct-17 17:46:55

Hello Gransnetters, this moaning person is here again wanting advice!
DH has his Birthday on Monday I asked him the other day what he wanted, he said " as long as it isnt a trip to Cornwall! well I was gobsmacked because last year he had a combined Birthday and Christmas present which was a journey to Cornwall, that was the flight to the UK, the train to Cornwall, and five nights over Christmas in a wonderful apartment overlooking St Ives Harbour.
The year before last I paid for a voucher for a golf lesson, a refresher lesson, the voucher is still in the little safe at home, now out of date.
My problem is what shall I buy this year, as I cant afford an expensive present which will not be appreciated obviously. Any suggestions please ( not rude ones) Thank you.

BlueBelle Sat 07-Oct-17 17:54:19

You fooled me here did you mean to post in Tv and films

If he’s not liking your expensive presents (not clear if the holiday was for both of you or him on his own) but anyway immaterial I’ d cut it right back to a simple present A nice meal out and a bottle of his favourite tipple

kittylester Sat 07-Oct-17 17:55:33

I thought this was a TV programme I had missed!! grin

Amazon vouchers I should think would be good!

Grannyknot Sat 07-Oct-17 18:04:18

The perennial problem of men (or women for that matter) who have everything and what to buy them. I told my husband a few years ago that I've run out of ideas, and so, for his birthday to expect a special home cooked meal (whatever his current favourite is) and a kiss. If I see an apt card I might buy that, but for the rest he gets as set out above.

As the saying goes "I feel much better since I lowered my standards". smile

lemongrove Sat 07-Oct-17 21:15:26

Sounds a bit ungrateful diddy when you went to all the trouble of a lovely holiday in Cornwall, but maybe he was joking?
Is it a special birthday? Going away to a lovely hotel for a weekend somewhere near you, so not too much travel?
New jacket? Bottle of champagne?

grannyactivist Sat 07-Oct-17 21:59:30

Ask him to tell you what he wants and if he doesn't know tell him you can wait until he does. Alternatively get him something that you can do together that YOU would like and know that at least one of you will appreciate it. grin

Eloethan Sun 08-Oct-17 00:55:02

I think it's very hurtful of him to make such a withering comment about what sounds like a nice holiday that you organised for him. I'm not sure I'd bother much about the suitability of a present after such ingratitude.

suzied Sun 08-Oct-17 02:10:48

Gratitude is a good name for a film, a bit like Fortitude.
Could he have been trying to be funny with the Cornwall remark? Presumably you went with him and could judge whether he actually enjoyed it? I wouldn't worry about what to get him this year , if money is a problem, a book, a shirt or a nice meal should be wecolmed. If not, I wouldn't bother in future.

fiorentina51 Sun 08-Oct-17 08:49:08

A pair of socks.