alchemillamollis, you should not spend your life "dumbing down". As a lady, you have a lot to contribute to life, and you should make that contribution known. There are ladies in my life who are strong and will take you to task if you hint at bullying them, and there are ladies who are more reserved, not as out going, if you get my drift. If this country was run by women, in ten years time it would be back on its feet, the health service, and all the other services would be working OK. So please, if you have something to say, then say it. Sorry if this sounds like a rant [Flowers]