anyone watch "grannys moving in"? documentry

I watched it Biker. I thought the daughter was a bit harsh too, and her husband. The old lady was sweet. Still, I suppose you don't know what went on behind closed doors. She seemed happy at the end though, in her new granny annexe.

I missed it hope they repeat it.

I watched it and thought the daughter and her husband were very kind. Their aim was to keep be able to keep an eye on her as her dementia progressed. She was at times verbally abusive and foul mouthed towards them which must have been very difficult to take when they had completely changed their lives in order to help her. Also, the daughter confessed that her relationship with her mother had always been a little difficult. They even moved to a house with a Granny bedsitter so as to give the old lady a little independence. Good for them I say.

Can you tell me the name of the programme and the Channel - I would like to watch it on my computer,via iportal.
When I move to NZ it will be to live in a 'cabin' in my daughter's garden. We are both people who like our privacy and independence and whilst I enjoy staying with them for protracted holidays at the moment, I would not like to have to share their house on a permanent basis. Perhaps when I am much older I will need more care and that will be the time to consider our options.

Found it through google!

I watched it on i-player at 3 am when I couldn't sleep! They were an amazing couple taking on a feisty lady - but you couldn't help loving her. The daughter was so obviously devoted to her Mum as were her family and I wonder how many of us would up sticks and move an hour away from our comfort zone in order to home an elderly relative for what may be only a short time! (I think it was on 4)

I hope there will be an update in the future - I see many problems ahead! I did think the daughter spent too much time trying to reason with her mother, it only made her more awkward. It is great that she goes out dancing etc., but the time will come when she cannot find her way there (or home) and her outings will be difficult to prevent or monitor.
The family has made a huge sacrifice which I admire greatly, I don't think I could have done it for my Mum who was never pleasant, even when younger. I just hope they don't all end up ill through the stress.

I thought the daughter - and her husband were saints. I couldn't have done it. I agree though that she tried to reason with her mother too much and spoke quite harshly at times. Mind you, the language that emitted from the mother was horrendous to say the least but at other times she seemed a sweet old lady. She certainly enjoyed her dancing and to my surprise just before the credits rolled was able to do the actions including knee lifts and kicks backwards! A tough lady methinks. I hope it works out but it's a responsibility for the rest of the family.

I did not watch this as it would have reminded me of all that husband and I went through. We moved house so that FIL could live with us after he had had a couple of 'turns' and seemed to find everyday life a bit of a chore. We (two quite intelligent sensible folks) thought he just needed a bit of structure to his days, three decent meals and help with the housework. Oh how wrong! Once we were all under the same roof we soon realised that the dear old chap's deep seated intelligence and social charm hid a whole range of problems eventually diagnosed as vascular dementia. We coped somehow for twelve months with only a little bit of 'baby sitting' so that we could go out and get a few chores done. It was a blessing that his increasing physical problems ment that he was not able to go out without our help but we still had to make sure front door was locked and that he was safe in his bedroom at night. We became very adept at waking up when he would pace about at night, try to get dressed and come down for breakfast at 3 in the morning. We had thought we were quite ready for all that was needed but we were very wrong and our memories of a dear sweet man who loved his family and was full of so many stories and life experiences were somehow spoilt by the relentlessness of the last few months we had with him before we finally found a suitable care home for him.
Because FIL was obviously in the 'self funding' league no one offered us any advice as to what was really needed. We managed to get him assessed properly by a voluntary aided organisation (social services were nowhere to be seen) but by then he was already living with us. Looking after frail elderly people is a tremendous responsibility and should never be taken on unless you really know what you are doing and you have plenty of back-up.

We have a disabled daughter of 48, due to very bad rheumatoid arthritis. My husband and I are both aged 68. We are worried about what will happen when we are gone, although she says she`ll sort something when the time comes. One of our sons last week was asking us about the same topic, and came up with an idea that we`ve vetoed, and he can`t understand why. His idea is that they sell their house, which they were already planning, we sell our house, which is all paid for, albeit not worth very much, and put our money, with their equity, as a downpayment on a fairly large dormer bungalow that they`d seen for sale. We said that we can`t afford to start paying a mortgage at our time of life and with our limited finances, he said that we wouldn`t need to, they`d pay the mortgage. We`d have our own bedrooms, and sitting room, hubby would share another room with their 2 boys as a games room, but we`d be sharing kitchen and bathroom. Firstly, neither my daughter or myself wants to live with anyone else, secondly, they don`t have a very good financial record, what happens if they fall behind with the mortgage? Thirdly, their marriage isn`t the most stable at the moment, what if they split up? And fourthly, our house is our legacy to our 5 children, it`s not worth a lot, but it`s all we have to leave them, if we sell it to move in with them, our other 4 children will get nothing. I hope I haven`t posted this in the wrong place?

Doesn't sound like a good plan to me! You would all lose your I dependence and security.

My parents had my Dad's Dad aged 87 to live with them for 2 years when he became too frail to look after himself in his own home. He had his own bedroom, sitting room and bathroom and my Mum did everything for him, including the cooking. His other children wanted him to go straight into a care home, but my Mum (his dil) said he deserved to be with family in his declining years! He nearly drove her mad and on one occasion when he went too far, she threw a chicken carcas at him which she happened to be holding at the time - she said it was worth having to clear up all the mess to see his face when it hit the spot! He started to do the getting dressed thing at 2 am and wandering off and became a bit of a liability, so he spent his last year in a lovely care home nearby. I admired her for doing what she thought was right, but I don't think I could have done it for her or my Dad - but then the situation never arose so I will never know.

numberplease It sounds like a really bad idea. The only one to benefit would be the one son (and his partner even if they did split up). Say no. From your post, you know it is not right but don't be bullied into agreeing.

We`re not agreeing, instead, we`re going to have a stairlift fitted, because the stairs are the main problem at the moment, daughter sleeps downstairs, but I struggle on the stairs these days.

Look for a second hand one. They are much cheaper and a lot of them hardly used. I couldn't cope without mine!

That`s what we`re doing Jeni, going for a reconditioned one.

Very sensible all round, numberplease.