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Hotel etiquette - has it been forgotten?

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ordinarygirl Thu 18-Jun-26 14:18:28

I've always tried to be quiet in hotel corridors and not have the volume too high on the hotel TV. Yet last time we stayed there was a family with young children still shouting and screaming after mid-night. No attempt by the parents to get the children to be quiet. We had 2 nights of loud noises. Then when they left we had a group of women going back and forth between the rooms and having discussions in the corridors.
The spyhole in the bedroom door was a good 6 inches above my eyes. I did not enter the corridor as I had a short nightie.

Was it just bad luck or have people forgotten that hotels are shared spaces and people need to act accordingly ?

Wyllow3 Sat 20-Jun-26 15:18:54

Oh yes and choose my room as I know where they all are.

Wyllow3 Sat 20-Jun-26 15:18:12

NotSpaghetti

Is the answer to use more "upmarket" hotels?

I admit we always ask for a quiet room. There's always a few it seems yo me.

Well I stayed at a lovely quiet small guesthouse recently and it was lovely and friendly and very peaceful but not a place families would choose.

My fave hotel is more upmarket and old and thick walls and I save up to go one a year as its somewhere I can hang out all day when I want come and go and the bar for coffee and drinks open and friendly all day. Nice as I am on my own there.

I'd rather go there once save up than cheaper and more often and fret about noise etc. 6 days off season were about £1200 B,B, and dinner.

mokryna Sat 20-Jun-26 15:06:55

Gingster

My brother 85 and SIL 83 stayed in a premier Inn last weekend and were kept awake by a couple having a long lasting row/fisty cuffs in the corridor. Then later by a couple having a noisy, amorous time in the next room. They phoned down to the reception who came to investigate.

Did the staff actually knock on the door?

Gingster Sat 20-Jun-26 10:52:27

My brother 85 and SIL 83 stayed in a premier Inn last weekend and were kept awake by a couple having a long lasting row/fisty cuffs in the corridor. Then later by a couple having a noisy, amorous time in the next room. They phoned down to the reception who came to investigate.

JaneJudge Sat 20-Jun-26 10:48:57

oh the dressing gown thing is certainly becoming more common too!

JaneJudge Sat 20-Jun-26 10:47:49

I think it depends where you stay. I have only had this when we've stayed in city centre hotels

Franski Sat 20-Jun-26 10:42:31

I travel a lot for work and agree.....other hotel guests can be clueless. It's not necessarily the norm, after all you don't hear people being quiet!
Personally, i think there needs to be a bit of tolerance for guests arriving at odd hours. However, loud conversations in corridors and that furniture moving!! Madness!!
Try and request end of corridor or top floor room.
If things get out of hand, I would call reception or have been known to go down in pjs to complain. I have found Premier Inn excellent..they sell ' a guaranteed good night's sleep" and have always been responsive to constructive complaints with full refunds.

Sago Sat 20-Jun-26 09:50:41

GrannyGravy13

Sago

We stayed in a beautiful hotel in Kent.

I was very shocked when a group came down for breakfast in their dressing gowns.

If the hotel had a Spa, seeing folk in dressing gowns for breakfast and lunch is fairly commonplace nowadays.

It didn’t😬

NotSpaghetti Sat 20-Jun-26 08:36:33

I think if it wasn't a spa I wouldn't like that!

Himdowntheroad Sat 20-Jun-26 08:30:18

Sago

We stayed in a beautiful hotel in Kent.

I was very shocked when a group came down for breakfast in their dressing gowns.

The staff should have refused to serve them, as they're inappropriately dressed.

Send them back to their room(s) and come back in day clothes, like most of us manage to do.

GrannyGravy13 Sat 20-Jun-26 08:27:26

Sago

We stayed in a beautiful hotel in Kent.

I was very shocked when a group came down for breakfast in their dressing gowns.

If the hotel had a Spa, seeing folk in dressing gowns for breakfast and lunch is fairly commonplace nowadays.

Sago Sat 20-Jun-26 08:09:00

We stayed in a beautiful hotel in Kent.

I was very shocked when a group came down for breakfast in their dressing gowns.

JackyB Sat 20-Jun-26 07:57:05

On our holiday in the North East of the UK a couple of years ago we didn't have this trouble at all. We stayed mainly in independent hotels, fairly averagely priced, and had some wonderful experiences. I can't remember any disturbance in hotels in the US either.

In Spain and France I have been disturbed in the night by "honeymooning couples" , (but that was nothing compared to being on campsites where the people in the neighbouring tents are on air mattresses)

Where possible l check that none of the hotel reviews mention noise disturbance before I book. Sometimes however there is only a choice between traffic noise and a closed window/stuffy room. Going to smaller hotels should eliminate hen and stag or other partying groups.

TiggyW Fri 19-Jun-26 22:55:42

At this very moment we’re in a hotel near Skipton. Next door is a family with a baby who isn’t settling down to sleep, probably because it’s an unfamiliar place! Dad is constantly telling him/her to lie down. A dummy would be handy. We always have one available for our grandson. Better than a thumb - our son sucked his thumb until after starting school!

Menopauselbitch Fri 19-Jun-26 21:27:29

I think it depends on the type of hotel. But then again a hotel can’t choose who stays in it. But if this happened to me I would ask to change rooms.

Plevey08 Fri 19-Jun-26 20:27:56

The same applies to living in a flat. I'm in a small 3 storey block. Some people have no understanding of the word communal.

Milest0ne Fri 19-Jun-26 20:14:01

At a Premier Inn, a few years ago, the manager came and had strong words with some noisy teenagers. I got the impression he told them he could ask them to leave , even in the middle of the night.
Has anyone thought of knocking on the door of the noise makers with. “ Your morning wake-up call”

Abcdefg Fri 19-Jun-26 20:06:41

I carry a small can of WD40 for the squeaky corridor doors

mrsba Fri 19-Jun-26 19:26:08

We've booked cabins on overnight ferries, only to be next door to people who seem to party all night or screaming children banging about etc.etc. We need our sleep before the long journey the next day, are we expecting too much?

vintageclassics Fri 19-Jun-26 18:09:33

I was once upgraded to a suite after ringing reception twice to complain about an out of control unbelievably noisy child (I'm talking decibels louder than any fire alarm!) roaming the 1st floor corridor at 2am and again at 3am - my next two nights on the top floor were bliss!

4allweknow Fri 19-Jun-26 17:39:46

A lot of the I paid so will do as I please about.And, I'm convinced a lot of young and 40 somethings are at the point of being deaf. They talk so loudly no matter where they are, surely all the sound blasting inside cars znd wearing if geadphones so much must have an effect on their hearing.

jocork Fri 19-Jun-26 17:36:55

I've obviously been lucky as I haven't been disturbed in a hotel as far as I remember. I don't often stay in hotels but when DD lived in Scotland I always broke the journy somewhere half way as I couldn't do the 400 miles in one go.
The only bad experience I remember was once being given a 'smoking' room which absolutely stank! It's years ago but \I still remember how unpleasant it was!

Ziplok Fri 19-Jun-26 17:30:04

MartavTaurus

Did you phone down to the hotel reception to report it? That's usually the way.

My friend always takes ear plugs. I'd rather know what's going on and be ready to react.

Yes, that could be a solution if the room has a phone. Not all hotel rooms have one now - the one we stayed in recently to break our journey did not have a phone in the room.

Magenta8 Fri 19-Jun-26 17:18:41

Over the years,I have stayed in five star hotels and no star places and everything in between.

Just about every hotel or guest house I have ever stayed in has been noisy. I can't remember any noisy children but I have endured noisy whoopie, impromptu parties, shouting competitions in the corridor, furniture scraping round the room, drunks banging on the door etc.

My memories go back over 70 years so I don't think it is anything new.

MartavTaurus Fri 19-Jun-26 17:03:38

NotSpaghetti

Is the answer to use more "upmarket" hotels?

I admit we always ask for a quiet room. There's always a few it seems yo me.

Probably yes, but as JackyB said, this comes at a price.
I agree with GrannyGravy13, choose a good boutique hotel. Here's what we get in one of our favourites.
Coffee & Tea Facilities
Flat-screen TV
Desk with writing-materials (pen and paper)
Posh toiletries
Slippers and bathrobe
Telephone & 24/7 room service
etc etc etc