Ok Cari

wot did you mean to put this on the obesity thread?
Is she depressed? All that eating and shopping?

You sound as if you need a holiday yourself! Go on, enjoy yourself!

Cessna, why are you confused because I posted on here in distress???? Bloody hell, where is the support??? You cheeky c.w

Just put it on this thread in a panic.

Probably get deleted.

Just as matter of interest and only that.
How long does a banned poster have to wait before they can reappear in their new persona?

It would seem that although a poster can be banned by the 'powers that be'.
it would be difficult to stop the 'band person' reappearing.
As long he/she uses a new Email and GN name, they would be under the GNHQ radar
So nobody can actually be banned.
The most GNHQ can do is force a new GN name.
And as Obi says
The 'New GN member' has a clean slate.
They can be welcomed on the New members thread
And then either drop hints or inadvertently give themselves away at later date.
If this is so then HQ is a bit of a toothless tiger.

I do understand there are principles here.

Oh don't say that wot, you have helped a lot of people so am sure people will try to help you if we can

I guess I put it on the obesity thread because I feel she's disabled herself by going from 8 st to 19st. I know she can't exercise much but why keep putting all the calories down her neck ??

Grannylyn, I'm no bloody good to anyone.

Oh, wot, I'm sorry you're so distressed. It must have been very upsetting to find your sister couldn't even visit your house.

Perhaps GNHQ could move these posts to another thread?

I've got a nice bedroom up here and that is where I should stay with occasional forays into the kitchen. I just cause havoc elsewhere.

I so wanted to give my sister a nice time

You are upset and very disappointed with how things worked out. I hope you will soon get over it and feel better about your sister and her situation. You cannot change it.

Well, I have 2 older sisters one of whom nearly destroyed me many years ago, I truly wish I could let it go , have had numerous 'therapies'.
Wot, am so sorry, theres a reason I have lived alone for so long.

You sound as if you have a big heart Wot. It doesn't matter if you put it on the wrong thread in a panic.

This thread is also about someone with a big heart, so I am sure you will get support here.

Thank you Ann. Expectations are always a potential disappointment. Anyway, my knee is less painful now, so that's something.

Wot
Not unreasonable I would feel very let down as well.

I would feel very angry with the husband for buying her cakes whe she is already overweight as it seems as if he is making "my sisters" health worse.

I would feel angry and let down by what must really seem to be very selfish behaviour on their part.

I am sorry you are feeling so down. I can't do much to help but have a (((hug))).

Look after yourself is there anyway you could get away for a short break by yourself?

Thanks everyone, I don't know what I'd do without everyone on here.

Her hubby must be what they call an "enabler". He loves her too much for her own good. He used to bash her about and then joined her in her Christianity and has become too "caring" for her. Tough love needed, I think.

I could get away for a break by myself but begrudge the expense. "Partner" loves to have my house to himself! I went to Hull by myself and loved it....all the museum etc. Last year this was.

Have a or something stronger wot put your feet up you deserve it

and a [hug] x

Maybe I should just stay in bed by myself for a week. Insular is best, I guess?

Virtual hugs wot.

You are all so bloody nice!! It's heart warming.

Well perhaps now is the time to plan another little trip wot

I do think you may be on a loser between husband and wife though, things go on that you can't know about and their relationship is as it is. So really if you think about it unless either come to you for advice you must simply be a by stander just as we all are with our siblings and their other halves.

Hope you are feeling a bit calmer now

Thank you, yes, feel so much better for sharing all this! I might be down your way, Whitehaven (causing havoc in Sussex, again)