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Husband I think is looking for divorce after 50 years.

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welshmist Tue 21-Jul-26 14:37:25

Grandmabatty

Why would you stay with him? As mumsnet would say, "Get your ducks in a row."
Quietly organise your own leaving.

I don't want to leave this small bungalow though when he could buy a more expensive house for himself if we did split. He also has a large yacht, a company worth a couple of million. I just want peace now to be honest.

I have the state pension, he's screamed at me to get attendance allowance etc. for hip ops. Honestly I don't qualify.

He wants the state to care for me after decades of us building a company and other properties together.

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Esmay Tue 21-Jul-26 14:32:22

I'm so sorry that you're going through thus .
Your husband is a bit old for a mid life crisis .I wonder if he hasn't got the beginnings of dementia.
When men are discontented with themselves they can be vicious and cruel .
Don't say anything-just watch what he's up to .
And be aware of your options should you
divorce .

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fancythat Tue 21-Jul-26 14:31:31

What has your marriage been like the rest of the time? [no need to answer that if you dont want to].

You say you are worried. So presumably you dont want him to leave you?

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Grandmabatty Tue 21-Jul-26 14:31:13

Why would you stay with him? As mumsnet would say, "Get your ducks in a row."
Quietly organise your own leaving.

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welshmist Tue 21-Jul-26 14:25:56

I'm really worried now. He's being very devious. He's buying the diet jabs secretly to lose weight. I accidentally saw the bruises on his stomach.

His mood swings have been scary lately. I'm called stupid etc, despite me doing all the financial side of things. He's quite a bit older than me. But I have needed two new hips so have been somewhat disabled for a while, which he said he didn't sign up for. He's been so nasty. Last night he shouted in an unguarded moment that he was getting organised to go. I think he means when he's slim again he'll be irritable to younger healthier women.

He's 5'4". 75 years old. Awfully wrinkled, tight as a ducks arse financially, counts every penny. He's also wealthy. My late mum said once, he knows the price of everything and the value of nothing.

Should I just stay quiet until he thinks he's lost enough weight to be irresistible, let him go and sort out the finances amicably. I'm sorely tempted just to be done with his mood swings.

I've a feeling some lady on his walks has been batting her eyelashes at him.

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