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LauraNorderr Wed 17-Jun-26 07:58:55

FriedGreenTomatoes2

That said, some people can just talk a glass eye to sleep.

Priceless

Luckygirl3 Wed 17-Jun-26 07:53:10

Maybe she is lonely ...

Magenta8 Wed 17-Jun-26 07:46:38

I have met people who do the opposite. They are conversation blockers and resist any efforts to engage them in small talk.

A recent conversation I had went something like this:-

Me - Have you been a member for long?

Them - No.

Me - When did you join?

Them - A while back.

Me - Do you come to all the meetings.

Them - No.

By now I am beginning to feel like I am interrogating them so I say something like "Lovely to talk to you" and move away.

Grandmabatty Wed 17-Jun-26 07:27:42

I have a dear friend like that who talks over you. When we get together as a quartet, we let it go. I think she is becoming increasingly deaf and doesn't always hear others are still talking

Retread Wed 17-Jun-26 07:08:08

People like that talk at you, rather than have a conversation.

A natural reaction is to avoid them, but that doesn't solve the problem! I read somewhere that a way to stop them is to interrupt them politely but use their name as in "Rita, I think ... " and keep doing that.

It reminded me of a woman that has popped up in various singing groups in our area, she doesn't sing, she bellows, complete with avcompanying hand gestures, and no one wants to sit next to her. I'm amazed she doesn't get the message. She will often say something like "I trained in theatre so I project my voice". She's a bit Florence Foster Jenkins ...

fancythat Wed 17-Jun-26 06:21:20

I know any number of people like in the op.

friendlygingercat Tue 16-Jun-26 23:56:58

some people can just talk a glass eye to sleep

I love that expression, Never heard it before.

Nell82 Tue 16-Jun-26 23:50:45

I have two friends who tend to do this. One day I realised they take a breath in the middle of a sentence so that they can run on continuously. The constant barrage soon does my head in so I resort to jumping up to go to the loo, faking a coughing fit or dropping my handbag - anything to create a diversion and allow me to get in to change the subject or remove myself entirely!

MawsRosie Tue 16-Jun-26 23:19:56

Or perhaps you come across as a sympathetic listener- goodness knows they can be few and fae between. I’d be flattered. Of course she has probably bored the bloomers off everybody else before you..
Do you wear a hearing aid? You could take the batteries out!

FriedGreenTomatoes2 Tue 16-Jun-26 22:50:20

That said, some people can just talk a glass eye to sleep.

FriedGreenTomatoes2 Tue 16-Jun-26 22:48:58

Some people do forget that conversation should be like a game of tennis - me to you, you to me etc. Otherwise it’s just a monologue.

jeanie99 Tue 16-Jun-26 22:45:53

Some weeks ago, I joined the age UK social group and I have to say that I have enjoyed going. It’s very sociable there’s about 20 maybe 30 people turn up including a few men.
What I have noticed is that many of the women don’t understand the art of conversation. It’s a difficult one because clearly they want to get something off their chest but don’t allow breathing space for anyone to say anything. I’m not sure what the answer is, unfortunately I seem to be targeted by one particular woman. The other ladies seemed to avoid her because of this and she complains that she can’t make any friends.