Relationship with younger man

Young women have flaws too - everyone has something they don’t like about themselves.

The most attractive things you can ‘wear’ are confidence and a smile!

He chose you, so spend more time making memories and less time worrying about insecurities.

Enjoy what you have with him,he chose to be with you and not anyone younger.

Cubscougar just carry what you've been doing , but never mention feeling insecure about your age difference .

Things must be okay if you've been together for three years .

Some men really prefer older women .

Why would he compare you unfavourably? Older bodies are beautiful and just as desirable - he clearly likes yours, so be proud and confident and feel good in your skin.

I know of several successful relationships where the lady is a good deal older than the man i.e. 17 years and rising. The men seem to be cosy in a relationship with an older woman and we are now talking going into our 70s & 80s. We have one relationship where I live where there was at least a 20 year age difference and the husband became the wife's carer into her old age.

40 years ago when I was in my mid 30's, I fell for a young man in his very early 20's. He was a customer in the private club bar where I worked and we spent hours chatting when the club was quiet.... It wasn't until he kissed me when we were on our way to a club members' party - we were both a bit tipsy - that I realised he simply reminded me of DH who was going through a very bad patch at the time. I soon transferred my affections back where they belonged but the young man and I remain good friends; he taught DD to play the fiddle and DH and I are more in love than ever 40 years on. Having said that, the age difference would have made no difference had I not been already 'promised to another'. BTW my body's still pretty good....because it has been well loved, I think..

How awful maddy.

Franbern I know you can do little about it, but a friend of a friend of mine got herself into this situation and all I can say was it didn’t end well. She lost pretty much everything she had.

Think you are right to be concerned Franbern but little you can do other than advise caution.

I know it is the other way round - but my best friend was married to a man 22 years older. Her was a very loving husband and father. Their first child was born when she was 28 years old, the their last (No, 8) when she was 43 years old. No way could that have worked the other way round!!

However, none of the age differences discussed in this thread are really very much - still the same generation..

A current friend at the age of 70 years is commencing a relationship with a man forty years her junior - he is from a different country and cuture and we are concerned for her.

I have been in a relationship with a man 10 years younger than me for about 20 years. I had had a fall and nothing seems to make the pain better, I am very much feeling old now.
He is so good to me I feel guilty about my current shortcomings

A friend started a relationship at 40 with a man of 25. She has recently celebrated her 80 th birthday and they are still together.
It would not be an issue if this were reversed with an older man with a younger woman .

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My mother had a good friend in your position with 15 years age difference. I remember as a child that she seemed pretty focused on her appearance with exercise classes, facials and manicures and new clothing/shoes etc to always look younger than she was. By the time I was an adult I think she probably had relaxed into the relationship more because she seemed less fixated on it (although she was by then noticeably older).

Her relationship was sound. Sometimes it just works.
She passed away in her 90s. Her husband is still alive.

Thank you all for your advice, you're such lovely ladies and it really helped to hear your views 😊 x

three years is a reasonable amount of time.. and he sounds mature enough to appreciate you for who you truly are.. just trust that

I agree with ann but I also think you have to accept that the sort of insecure feelings you're having go with the territory of older woman/younger man relationships. Not always, obviously, but I think studies have shown it's pretty common. Which is not surprising when you think about biology.

He has compared you to other women and chosen to be with you.

You need to work on your attitude rather than your body, accept yourself for who you are and enjoy your relationship.

If he isn’t the one doing the comparing you shouldn’t worry.