Dating after bereavement

Maybe just see it as a compliment and move on for now

I have been with my husband 23 years and do not think I would be throwing myself in that pool again lol

It’s not disloyal you was a loyal wife for a long time. If you went for coffee with this friend would you anticipate it going further. We as a couple have a few long time divorced and lone male friends. I would go for a drink or meal with them if I was widowed. I wouldn’t be interested in taking it a step further.

Thanks violetsky- I just totally panicked. First date invitation in over 40 decades!

Sorry to hear that wyllow3. I think I’m too trusting. Good luck

If you aren't ready you aren't ready... but there is nothing wrong with friends of the other sex of they are amenable

Then you have made the right decision, for now. Perhaps it took the invitation to realise that, and you were right to say what you did.

I'm recently out of a very abusive marriage: there has been a lot of grief as well, as it wasn't all bad of course. I'd like to meet someone...I think....but I am very, very wary indeed and doubt my ability to make good decisions, as a lot was said and done that was false or a lie.

Feels too soon. Too disloyal. I’d worry that saying yes to coffee could lead to more invitations then possibly on to a relationship which I’m not ready for as yet

I think the best relationships come from friendship, so maybe next time you could go as friends? See what happens?

It was definitely as a date

Aggy21. If you fancy going out for a coffee, drink with someone, don’t analyse it, just go. It doesn’t have to be a ‘deep’ relationship. It’s healthy to socialise with both sexes. Friendships are always welcome. 😊

Did he ask you out for a coffee as a date or as a friend?