Awful Neighbour now I’m scared.

It doesnt make sense that the neighbour would still want help if he had raped and assaulted her ten years ago- only possible reason could be if she had somehow compartmentalised. I'm sure the police will uncover the problem.

If I were you, I'd phone a solicitor tomorrow and ask to have one on retainer, so you'll have legal cover whenever you want it.

nanny007

OnwardandUpward

"The woman making the accusations was not in any way attractive or likely for him to have been tempted by. His wife is beautiful and lovely, so it seemed very unlikely he would have strayed."

Good grief! I'm saddened to read such a misguided concept around the reasons for rape.

I too was astounded when I read this.

I hope the old woman is already known to the authorities as a fantasist !

I do hope this gets sorted out quickly, it must be a horrible situation for you Suzi57.
I was surprised by some posts, though, one saying someone with MH issues or past trauma can do this so best not to have anything to do with them (how many of the posters friends are on antidepressants or anxiolytics, I wonder; & how many of the rest have "past trauma"?) & also the ones advising never to have the opposite sex alone in the house with you. Really? Whilst it would prevent this situation, is it good to live in a way that is so mistrustful of the people around you & so extremely risk-averse? I think your husband going into an elderly next door longstanding neighbour's home to help with moving things, is perfectly normal behaviour & you have just been very unlucky that your neighbour has become delusional.Don't let it destroy your faith in humanity!

Over Christmas , my father told me that one the nurses in the hospital called him a c--t and told him to f--k off back to the nursing home .
He doesn't live in a nursing home , but I was really concerned about the verbal abuse .
So I asked him about it.
I never said that , he said .

I have no idea whether it's true or not .

Recently, he's said all sorts of things which I know to be untrue , because I've been with him .

Christmas can be a lonely time for many . We are all bombarded with images of wonderful family life, it doesn’t sound that this lady has any family support.

I do wonder if this lady was craving attention and a call to the police was a cry for that.

sparkly has hit the nail on the head -anything could have triggered off this false memory even a TV programme , but I imagine that she thoroughly enjoyed all the attention from
those nice young policemen and detectives !

We had a similar post a few weeks ago on GN from someone who purported to be in serious trouble with the Police for stealing from the firm where she worked. Again, “ought I to seek legal advice”There were so many well meaning replies. This lady told us she was scared and was drinking wine in the morning etc. It all came to nought n the end.

Forgive me for being sceptical about this thread. I may of course be wrong but we do have to remember that students are on their Christmas holidays with time on their hands.
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anything could have triggered off this false memory even a TV programme , but I imagine that she thoroughly enjoyed all the attention from those nice young policemen and detectives

This is shocking, offensive, speculative nonsense.

You have zero evidence that this is a false memory (just as I have no idea whether it’s a genuine or malicious complaint). Nor, quite obviously, do you have any idea of how traumatic, invasive and painful it is to report any form of sexual abuse, nor a clue about how the police respond to such reports.

Suzi57 has posted before, although a few years ago.

Courts do not deal in "he said/she said". They deal in evidence and facts. Very few cases of contemporary sexual assault ever come to court because of lack of evidence. I often wonder about so called "historical" claims against celebrities and people with wealth and am very cynical about some of them.

This does not make it any less distressing for your DH.

Your DH should have been offered the services of a duty solicitor who would no doubt have advised him to give a "no comment" interview. If he was not offered legal services then the police are at fault and it weakens any case they believe they might have.

Hi Siope ,

No offence was meant from me -apologies if I sounded flippant .
I was trying to console the OP by making light of it .

I was just speculating .

I just think that it's hugely unlikely that this elderly lady in her then eighties was assaulted by the OP's
husband .

As a matter of fact , I do know what it's like to be sexually assaulted and having to deal with reporting it .

It has happened to me several times .

The last occasion being a couple of years ago .

Sorry to read of this, probably best to seek professional advice.

Let’s be cautious here people in revealing too many personal events.
At this juncture we do not know whether there might be a ‘fishing’ element in this thread for prurient reasons.
I’m sorry I do realise I’m playing Devil’s Advocate here (and I might be wrong).
On the other hand. ...

Urmston 👍🏻

Umstrong my thoughts too which is why I m not commenting

Suzi57 has posted before. Just saying.

Suzi
How are things? You don't seem to have come back to us 🤔

And 24 hours have gone by on a BH weekend too.
I’d be demented and spilling my thoughts on a regular basis this past day.
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suzi57, I'd like to know exactly who was there when he was interviewed. Did he have legal representation? If he's on bail - then he must have been charged. What is the charge? The police should also have informed him of the next steps. If you are unsure, contact them.

Under PACE 1984 as I understand, a person must be advised after arrest or voluntary custody, that they can consult a solicitor of their choice, and can only be kept in custody for up to 24 hours without charge, or be released, on bail if necessary for further investigations.

Esmay, I’m so sorry to hear of your experiences - must be horrific for you. And it’s nice that you were so quick to make an apology (and a real one, not a mealy-mouthed politician’s pseudo version).

I think it’s easy to forget that, on any online forum, one never just talking to the OP, but to anyone and everyone.

Suzi seems to have posted once nearly 6 years ago and I can’t open it so no idea how regular it is

So sorry Esmay that youve had those experiences.

Oh dear Bluebelle, surely can't be a similar post?

BlueBelle

Suzi seems to have posted once nearly 6 years ago and I can’t open it so no idea how regular it is

Suzi had a rather distressing family problem.
I hope it got resolved afterwards.