To stay or go?

I can only echo what everyone else is saying.
Someone who cares about you would have taken you to have tests done, not let you go alone.

Don’t waste any more time on this man, get out with your daughter and have a happy life.

Why are you still with this moron after 12 years, so when you ask for help he says no, what a charmer NOT, you deserve better as does your daughter, Run, or you will be in this same position years from now,

Surprised you have stayed in the relationship as long as you have. The sooner you leave the better for you and your daughter.

Would you include him if you were making a meal for yourself and daughter? If the answers yes, but he doesn't do the same for you, then you have your answer. It's simple curtesy surely.

I'm surprised you're still with him after 12 years to be frank!

He needs a damn good wake up call!

What does the relationship give you that is positive?
If the answer is nothing then make the break now.

He helped your dad with an issue probably to make himself look good. But of course you know he isn't it's not just you to be considered it's your daughter too. It's best for both of you to start a fresh and I hope you do.?

You must leave. Do not stay and hope it will get better - I can assure you it will not. You deserve better. Good luck.

Run as fast as your legs will carry you, and keep running!

I'm just so confused by it all. My dad had an issue recently and he stepped in and sorted that. But when I needed help with something it was an outright no. I'm very independent and can manage most things but just occasionally I would like to be taken care of. That doesn't seem unreasonable.

Better alone which you are anyway, get out no point in staying really is there ?

Yes get out...it's not normal. Look after yourself.

Nope it's not normal sorry.
It's hard to see it from the inside but it does not appear to be a healthy relationship.

So this isn't normal?

As fast as you can and don’t look back

Run