escape first then..

Good luck, take advice about protection after you have left him and speak to the police if you are concerned about violence. Also take advice from a solicitor about protecting your new house from him as he might try to get a share, I don’t want to worry you but make sure it is watertight. Keep in contact with your true friends. Good luck with your new life, you deserve it.

Someone I worked with did similar and squirrelled away things at her mum’s house in preparation. It took her a year but she left in the end. I lost touch with her then, she ‘disappeared’ because of him.

Well you are doing the right thing by getting out of the relationship for sure.
And thankfully you have the funds for your own property,which is a relief.
You need to speak to someone about your worries about his violent behaviour quickly.
I am pretty sure you will get great advice from gransnetters.
I wish you all the best for your future.

Well done. Make sure he doesn't know where you're moving to. Change your phone number and email address if you can. Tell him after you've left. Talk to a solicitor about the house and money to protect your share and your new house. Do that before you escape. Get all the legal stuff ready.

I didn't have a house to buy/sell but I escaped a controlling man.

You're doing a very brave thing. It won't be easy but it is so worth it. Being free is wonderful.