How many of us shared domestic duties, care of children with our husbands or partners?

I don’t feel it matters so much who does what, it’s that feeling of sharing the running of home and family ( if there are children), sharing the emotional load, children, each other, ailing parents, that’s for me what makes a relationship good.

Absolutely this. It doesn't have to be 50/50, just so long as both partners are happy with the arrangements they have in place, and it works for them, it's all good. It's when their is a long standing imbalance and resentment sets in that problems occur.

We are a bit like the Mays is that he does bins and lawns, I do borders in the garden and care more about whether the floors are mopped.
Although we did share and still feel like a partnership, most of the practical things like, dental appointments for the children, keeping a supply of birthday gifts for their friends parties, dogs to vets, were my area. He did more late night pick ups of teenagers than I did. I did more painting and decorating

I don’t feel it matters so much who does what, it’s that feeling of sharing the running of home and family ( if there are children), sharing the emotional load, children, each other, ailing parents, that’s for me what makes a relationship good

We are both capable of all chores but tend to do what we’re best at. If one
of us can’t be bothered the other steps in. I’d say we have a relationship of mutual respect and equality. He would say the same....... if I told him to.

My Dh has always been a full participant in stuff around the home and family. He was in the Senior Service for fourteen years and that knocks off the sharp edges and makes you competent in looking after yourself and your surroundings.

I’m also pretty handy at traditional ‘male’ tasks such as decorating, fixings things that have gone wrong and so on. Dh worked away from home for much of our married life so I had no choice.

I married at 20, first child soon after. DH and I have always shared absolutely everything. Only difference, I do the washing, he does the bins. Ironing, cleaning, cooking, child care we have always done together. Now we are both 76, we prepare meals together. My parents were the same. DHs were not. A bit of training first thing and we never looked back

I considered myself lucky if my ex ever made me a cuppa???

Meant to say, when we had my Nan living with us, she was shocked at what DH did, but thought he was wonderful.

We share tasks, except for washing cars-I evidently don’t do that properly.
Before I had children I did all the cooking, but the sight of food, particularly raw meat when I was pregnant made me ?, so he took over then and now we share.
Some jobs we found we were better at e.g. he’s better at cleaning the shower base, I’m better at windows, gradually became ‘our’ jobs but cleaning, decorating, gardening, ironing etc. are all joint.
When we got married, he’d never done anything in the house, but he was a quick and willing learner. ❤️

I feel for young parents, homeschooling, wfh, juggling so many plates in the air.
Anyone else ?

Well, yes, because I know what it's like but I was young and fit then and so are they now.
Not homeschooling, of course, but helping with homework, caring for elderly parents too.

No.
DH worked away, often for months at a time.
When he was home he did his fair share and we share chores now.

You got one of the good 'uns Smileless! One good thing about having a somewhat reluctant flat out refuser partner is that I learnt to do anything and everything in the house; decorating, maintenance, gardening, there's not much that I can't turn my hand to now. Needs must when the devil drives!

Mr. S. was hands on but it wasn't 50/50 and I didn't expect it to be because he was working and I was a stay at home mum for the first 7 years.

He changed nappies and as both boys were bottle fed, did the 2.00 am feed on the 2 days he wasn't going into work. He doesn't cook unless we're having a BBQ and then I do all the things to go with the meat.

He helps clear up after meals and washes up if we're not using the 'washing up machine' as he calls it. Hoovering is his contribution to the house work and emptying the bins.

He washes and waxes my car and we tend to do any decorating between us. I suppose he could do more now he's retired but on the whole he's pretty good and I wouldn't have him any other way.

Fraid not here Iam64. Whilst I was a SAHM managing the childcare, home, garden and decorating etc was fine, but by the time I was back out to work full time, OH was completely out of practice in taking his share of the load and had no inclination to pick up speed again. It led to a lot of friction and was contributory to the end of the marriage. Long term resentment isn't conducive to a happy marriage.

Shared ?? hahahahaha.

Green eyed girl, it’s the same with my adult children.
My paternal grandparents were both from big families and decided not to repeat that pattern. They were born late 19th century so lost infant then 17 year old siblings in ww1. They both worked in cotton mills, my gran back at work when d]my dad was six weeks old, they shared everything

Same here. We shared everything, apart from cooking, he doesn’t cook. He worked shifts so did housework, shopping and childcare when I was working.
We still share most chores and our sons do similar in their households as it’s second nature to them.