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Husband’s Indifference.

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Randomactsofpurple Wed 19-Aug-20 02:35:43

My DH is brilliant when I’m ill.

Tonight he asked me if I really wanted a birthday card this week, or not ? it was up to me.

I won’t repeat what I told him.

It seems they are all flawed, just on different things.

Marydoll Tue 18-Aug-20 23:12:24

He probably heard, but doesn't listen. There is a difference.
I have a husband like that, it doesn't mean he doesn't care.

PinkCakes Tue 18-Aug-20 23:11:48

UTIs (urinary tract infections) can be very unpleasant and cause quite a bit of pain. I sympathise, I've been like that myself a few times.

Is your husband always like that? Perhaps because you have a high pain threshold so don't complain, he knows you "just get on with it". My husband is the same. I'm not often unwell, but when I am, I still do everything as normal - housework, etc.

The next time your man feels unwell, perhaps you should just take no notice, see how he likes it.
I hope you feel better soon x

MawB2 Tue 18-Aug-20 23:08:41

Nothing wrong with his hearing , but plenty wrong with his listening, I fear!
Twas ever thus.

Londonwifi Tue 18-Aug-20 23:05:13

AIBU to be miffed about my husband’s indifference toward me? I have a urine infection which got quite bad and I have a lot of pain in my tummy. However, I have a high pain threshold. That means if I am mentioning it then it is very, very painful. Three times this evening I have told him and his response was
1) oh look at the grain in the wood isn’t it lovely? (Youtube video he was watching)
2) That boat’s doing 25 knots! (A different YouTube video)
3) I think I’ll have an apple.
The third time I told him was in the kitchen, side by side, no distractions!
He often does this to me and it’s not because I’m a complainer or a hypochondriac because I’m neither. When I ask him outright about it he says he never heard me even when we are looking each other in the face. By the way there is nothing wrong with his hearing!