Trouble with SIL

@TwiceAsNice
I agree with you TwiceAsNice. I think I will challenge her but politely.

I agree with everyone else but if she said something really awful especially if you knew it to be untrue I might have to say “ why do you feel the need to say something so unpleasant”. Perhaps nobody ever challenges her and they should

I found my BIL very difficult. When we all spent time together I would be polite, provide food if in our house and leave my husband and brother to it as much as possible. If he was being rude about someone I knew in my presence my stock replies were along the lines of "That has never been my experience with *! They were so helpful when …..!" And did not enter into further debate.

Agree with the other posters. I might also, from time to time, offer up a little comment like, "Oh, I don't find him/her to be that way at all" in a light tone with a smile and then just let it go.

Leave her to your DH-I take “responsibility” for my family and try to encourage DH to do the same

It sounds like she badmouths everyone so I wouldnt take it personally and I also wouldnt get upset on other peoples behalf especially if they themselves shrug off her behaviour.

Its not worth getting worked up about. Try to do what others do, let it wash over and be glad you have better social skills and coping mechanisms than her.

To be honest she doesnt sound very subtle, so people will likely take whatever she says about you with a huge pinch of salt so I wouldnt worry about that aspect.

Do you really need to do anything? Shes your DHs sister so how much or little he sees of her is up to him, unless shes in your house a lot then just leave them to it?

Once every 4 weeks. I know that isn’t a lot but it is difficult to sit there and listen while she berates people close to me, Namsnanny.

Londonwifi… Do you have to spend much time with her?