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Missing a birthday card from my DS for the first time

(107 Posts)
timetogo2016 Sat 04-Jan-20 16:01:35

It`s a card Joannie.
Don`t take it to hear the fact that he had lunch with you shows he loves you and that`s priceless.
You may even receive it today,

Joanny Sat 04-Jan-20 16:00:01

Thank you.

B9exchange Sat 04-Jan-20 15:50:28

Unfortunately I think younger generations see cards as old fashioned and unnecessary, they don't do Christmas cards anymore. If he mentioned doing something later for your birthday and sticks to that, then he is showing he has remembered.

I have one son who announced he is not going to do birthdays or Christmas for adults any more, and last year I didn't get any acknowledgement of birthday or Mother's Day, which really hurt, but nothing I can do. Perhaps when you do meet up he will give you a belated one, but be reassured that he remembered. I do feel for you, it does hurt flowers

Grammaretto Sat 04-Jan-20 15:38:55

I am sorry you set so much store by the token of a card. He may have something on his mind and just forgotten but he came to see you. You had his company which is far more important.
I accidentally sent my DS 2 Christmas cards this year. The dear boy took a photo of them both which he sent with a message asking me when he could expect his third! You just have to smile.

Happy Birthday!!! sunshine

Joanny Sat 04-Jan-20 15:22:00

No don’t think so. He’s never posted one in his life. Always handed it to me.

grannymy Sat 04-Jan-20 15:19:11

Could it still be in the post?

Joanny Sat 04-Jan-20 15:17:41

I have received lots of wishes on fb from all of my friends for my 65th birthday and cards from my husband’s family but for the very first time I haven’t received one from my DS. He came to dinner with his girlfriend a couple of days prior to my birthday but didn’t bring it. He knew my DH was taking me for a dinner and overnight stay on my birthday and did say could we meet up at some point in the near future to do something for my birthday but didn’t pop a card through the letter box while we were gone. I am beyond sad because my elderly parents both have dementia and so nothing comes from them, my only sibling died 25 yrs ago so obviously nothing there as there used to be so My DS’s card is extremely important to me and would still be even if I did have other family. His would still be the most important to me. I’m not worried about a present or anything but devastated there is no card. ?? Am I over reacting?