Shopping with hubby

I've never driven but it's easy to get anywhere by cab, bus or train. I'd hate to have a lift everywhere as I like a bit of fresh air. Why does Flutterby rely on him for transport?

Hi,
I always feel rushed and pressured to hurry up. It drives me bonkers.
I’d sooner be on my own.

Even though I can drive I always ask my other half to come shopping with me. I don't have any female friends to ask and I actually value his opinion of things I try on. He's far better than I am at finding my size in a shop too. I'll often just give him an idea of what I am looking for and suddenly out of nowhere he finds exactly what I want even though I'd thought I had looked everywhere!
I would add he doesn't actually enjoy coming with me so I make a point of not going too often, although in the last week we have been clothes shopping in both Watford and St Albans 4 days running for about 2hrs each time and I think we are both feeling 'shopped out' now

I often wander round one of the largest shopping centres in the country and the number of arguments and miserable looking men I see makes me wonder why they are there, surely they can't all have volunteered or suggested it. I try to go on my own but if my DH comes along he usually wanders off for an hour so I go round the clothes etc and we meet for much needed cup of tea!

I can’t stand mine hovering over my shuolder when doing the weekly shop, so we have now agreed, he will wait in the car. He doesn’t mind this arrangement at all because he can make phone calls and google etc .

When I have finished shopping, I ring him and in he comes with shopping bags and helps me pack shopping.
A good arrangement I think. Well, it suits us.

Shop on line for Christmas as far as you can

would it help to give him a list of things to get? Or would he be no good at that? As he is your transport to wherever you want to go, then you are stumped. But could he drop you off and then return when you`re all done?

My OH is a rotten shopping buddy too.

Like others, that could be my post. I feel pressured and unable to make any decisions on clothes when he is lurking in the background. Even if I leave him in a coffee shop I feel pressured not to spend too long shopping. You would think that after 49 years together I would have overcome this, but I haven't.

My hubby is a shopoholic he loves it whether it is for me, for him, just grocery shopping so its a pleasure to go shopping with him because he wants me to buy everything.

GrandmaKT - was it that your husband didn't want to go shopping or didn't want to go shopping in 'Liverpool' when he said - "I'd rather cut off both my arms and legs". Liverpool is an amazing city to visit with a fabulous shopping centre, museums, art galleries (including the Tate Modern) and a beautiful waterfront, not forgetting the warmth and friendliness of the people there, so he wouldn't get bored as there would be so much for him to see.

My DH and I used to love to go shopping together but then he decided it was not for him. Despite this, he always wants to come when I (very rarely) go. He is only interested in things for him (shirts, wine, cheese etc.) and acts as if he is pained and bored if I am am looking for something for us, the house or myself. It's like taking a seven year old out. If I do get something for myself he then starts looking to do some 'revenge spending' so everything costs more than twice the price. Most frustrating.

Hubby? Are we in the 1950s?

We both enjoy shopping, but seperate when we get to the mall, he takes ages,I am quick, but like to wander even if I know what I want, annoyingly my Husband rings me when he has finished and wants to go home, he has to wait!

I can't understand the horror of a husband accompanying you shopping. It used to be hell when mine smoked because he would get to a certain point and then insist on leaving for a cigarette. Nowadays, I've learned just to shop as I want to and he will eventually take himself off if he is not interested in accompanying me any more. Until then, I value his opinion if it is clothes shopping and enjoy his company whilst shopping for anything else. I can't imagine being irritated by his presence but I do enjoy shopping on my own occasionally.

I go shopping on my own or with friend I wouldn’t take mine with me : he’d say everything looks great come on let’s go in the first ten mins lol

I agree with those who say that DH’s should be left at home ( preferably doing something useful)? or taken to Sainsbury or supermarket of choice and put in the creche ( the cafe, with a newspaper.)It works for me.

We just split up and meet for lunch. He goes to man shops, clothes, electricals, TVs and computers.

* a way*

I can't stand shopping with anyone else!! Not my husband, not my daughter, not friends, and definitely not my late Mum, so I am more than happy to ALWAYS shop alone. Find away to go alone.

I don't go shopping much but when I do I choose to go with my daughter; if DH comes I feel like you do, that I need to hurry because he's waiting (not that he ever complains, it's just that he's there). Probably your best bet is to tell him how you feel - it's nothing against him personally, it's just that you feel more relaxed if you don't feel he's there waiting.

Can't stand shopping with my husband either, we usually end up having a domestic! Just easier to do it on my own to be honest. Had to laugh at some of the posts, as can really relate to them. Go on your own ladies!

Flutterby I don't understand why you have your husband go shopping with you if you don't want him there. Tell him! Take a cab, or go with a friend, anything as long as you get him to understand that going shopping with you is strictly off limits!

Magpie why on earth do you put up with it? You say your husband "won't go anywhere on his own". Well you become a person who "won't go shopping with him". Why does his dislike of going out on his own have to impact on your life? That's a problem for him, not you, and one that he should find a solution to that doesn't involve you having to grit your teeth for 2 or 3 hours. Seriously, just say no!

Now I don’t want to sound like a nagging, ungrateful wife (but)
Flutterby; I've filed your remark along with; " I'm not a prude, but" and "I'm not a sexist, but" who go on to demonstrate that is exactly what they are!
Of course, it will be claimed that all this denigration of hubbies is designed to be funny, and I hope it is, but I can think of much funnier ways of wasting thread space.
Solo shopping is not difficult; if it was I'd go in for home delivery.
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Flutterby
Learn to drive /get the bus/taxi.
Not joined at the hip ?

Do the bulk of your shopping online. Get a few bit and pieces when you are together then have a good lunch. Simples! X