A Dilemma

Only you know the gentleman I would send an ordinary card

Why on earth wouldn't he want a card with a picture of him and his wife together?In the situation the OP describes I would be delighted that someone would remember that I am a remaining half.

He must be sick to death (oops, sorry) of people tiptoeing round him, not mentioning his wife, not referring to her death, as if she never existed. Someone who remembers him as he still always sees himself, as part of a couple, will probably lead to tears of joy.

Yes, a lovely ordinary card is for the best.

I would just send normal card.

Card only.

"When in doubt, do without"... So I agree with the others - just send an ordinary card.

Yes, send an ordinary card.

I wouldn't do it, there's plenty of really decent cards available

Just send an ordinary card.

Daddima. I wouldn't send a card as you describe but you may like to look at chatbooks online as a present? This is a book that you can add personal photos to with captions. I think if you give it to him privately, he would be happy. He can look at it in his own time.

By the way am not advertising 'chatbooks' I was given one as a present and it is fabulous.

If you’re not sure how it will be received - don’t do it.

I wouldn’t have wanted that after my husband died.