AIB too suspicious - I don’t want to make a fool of myself!

Does he usually pay his phone bill himself? If not, you could hardly avoid seeing it, could you?

As he already has been unfaithful, I'm not surprised you are suspicious.

I'd phone her and ask if my DH was there, next time he is off boating. You could have a million good reasons for needing to phone him and you only need to think of one before you ring her number.

If she says she has no idea who he is and where he is, you are admittedly no further, so it might be easier just to ask him whose phone number it is.

You say you made it clear that you weren't going to share him, but are you prepared to leave him? If you are, then you have nothing to lose by asking him who the heck this woman is, and why he constantly phones her?

I would turn up at the flat ( uninvited of course ) for starters. That way it could settle your thoughts one way or the other, hope for the best but expect the worst.

Way to go BlueBelle!!

And I agree with the suggestion 're turning up unannounced.

Gma29 make sure you are bearing gifts, for example a home made casserole in a very heavy dish.

Then if you do discover anything ungoward, you can tip it over him then clock him one with the dish!

But on a more serious note, I'm sorry to say that it sounds as if he's doing it again.

BlueBelle that is priceless!

I know she knows he’s married, as he told her we are parting after out next holiday, (which is already booked). That was part of the conversation I overheard.

Perhaps ring the number and if a woman answers ask to speak to your husband. If she says she doesn't know him say something on the lines of "oh I am terribly sorry for bothering you but this was the number he gave me to call in an emergency" (hide your number first and do a little voice change).

Otherwise I would go to that bloody flat. "SURPRISE" !

“As I trusted him then” for me that says a lot, he’s the one that has made you sneaky, if you ring the woman he’s going to find out anyway. I’ve been through this and it will drive you mad if you let it , I did what was best for me which was the best thing ever, I challenged and eventually got to the truth, I got divorced. It hurts like hell , you deserve better .

You need to have this situation made clear one way or the other.
I would also ring the number and ask who you are speaking to, if it’s a woman, and she won’t say, tell her who you are and see what ensues.

Love it, BlueBelle.

If you know his address at his boat flat turn up some time unannounced Sorry to be the bearer of bad news but I d be VERY VERY surprised if he’s not continuing his life of bed hopping I hope I m wrong but......

I had a similar situation when I was pretty sure my last partner was having an affair I managed with a bit of detective work to find her phone number, I rang asked her if she knew —— she said yes he’s my boyfriend, who are you ?She had absolutely no idea he was in a live in relationship of 8 years he had told her he couldn’t ask her round to his flat as his landlady was nasty and wouldn’t let him have visitors !!!
She and I swopped notes and we realised he’d never admit the truth to either of us, so together we went to his work place and walked in together You ve heard of rabbits in headlights haven’t you ?

Oh Gma29 how awful for you. Like you I would be very suspicious . What would he say if you suddenly offered to accompany him to the flat near the boat? Or even better just showed up? I would be wondering who it is he meets there.

I don't really think you did anything wrong by looking at the bill. it is HE who has made you feel insecure like this.

I'm not sure what you could say if you rang the number. Unless you have a pretty good idea your H is having an affair with the person on the other end, in which case I would just introduce myself . But that might be the beginning of the end so you would need to be well prepared. Wish I could come up with some good advice for you.

Oh dear I think you have to tell him you checked his phone bill. In my opinion this is justified as he admitted to having an affair.
I don’t believe in doing everything together but I would be wary if my DH spent nights away which were not on business. It is a pity you can’t go with him when he goes to the boat.