Spiteful mothers

In response to grannygravy we have always got on great with the mother but this has come completely out of the blue and when the child is the first weapon of choice what other conclusion can we come up with .we have done nothing to deserve this and was looking forward to spending boxing day with them as we always have done .

The most important thing for grandparents, in a marriage break up, is to remain, very clearly, impartial. The break up is between the two marriage partners, and is nothing to do with the grandparents.
Hard, I know, when your DC is suffering, and needing your support and understanding. This can be given privately, however, but publicly you must be seen to be neutral. If you can be as pleasant as possible to the ex, this may pave the way to you being allowed access to your grandchildren.
We get on well with our ex DiL and see a great deal of the grandchildren. What we think about her privately is just that - private, and we don't let it get in the way of our relationship with her.

Does son have a court date yet for a residence/contact order re the children?

Or does he have an order that his ex partner is not complying with?

Keep telling yourself that you have done nothing wrong. Sadly some parents think it's ok to use their children as weapons to cause upset.
I have been in your position. I have cried and tried to comfort my DD when she and we were denied access. It is horrible and I feel for you.
Amazingly our situation is now resolved and both DD, DH and I see the children.I hope you too can once again see DGC.

Sorry but I don't think life is quite as simple .

Maybe not calling the mother of your grandchild spiteful and brainwashing.

Sorry but there are always two sides to a story, maybe a kind approach without taking sides, would help your relationship with your daughter-in-laws?

That’s sad sweet pea, I am sorry.

That would be all mothers would it?