unfaithful husband

Am I being cynical to think she might be after his money? Please take all the financial precautions you can; joint account - make sure there is enough channelled into yours and that he has not made any substantial gifts, savings likewise, do not move out, however distraught you may be, check he has not changed his will , do you feel able to share this with your children, for moral support as well as practical guidance. You may even wish to consult a solicitor to protect your interests.
I am sorry if these all sound practical when you are hurting emotionally, but you must not lose your home, or your share of his pensions because he is having a fling.

2J8DATLAS, is this a love affair or is he paying her ? I'm asking this because an emotional affair is where she not only takes his body but his love also, and in the long run I fear would be more damaging to you both.

My thoughts are with you now. What a hopeless situation. What a silly man, not to value you, but to let you find out is wicked of him.

Or baked beans - that will put her off.

What a disgrace he is - I am so sorry for your situation - you must be thoroughly fed up.

What would he say I wonder if he realised you know. I hope you stay clear of his bed.

Plenty of garlic in his food before he goes out.

thank you wot, I definitely won't lose out. Chelseababy, no he doesn't know that I know and I've no intention of telling him! And yes he goes to see her once or twice a week.

Sorry to hear that OP. Does he know that you know? Is he still seeking her?

Look after yourself first. Do not leave him because you may lose your inheritance. Why should you lose out due to his disgraceful behaviour? Try to amass some "secret" savings. If you can't leave him you can at least treat yourself now and again. My attitude is due to experiencing a similar situation to yours.