So sorry soutra. My cousin died in a hospice last week. He'd been suffering from an aggressive type of cancer. I am attending his funeral on Friday. He was only 62, and is the first of our cousins to go.
Sorry to hear about your friend Soutra. I am always amazed at people who have the ability to read moving poems, anecdotes etc at funerals, as I'm sure I would never be able to.This is an excellent poem to be read at a funeral, very uplifting.
So very sorry to hear about your friend but isn't it moving how our loved ones try to comfort us. It reminds me of the last hours of my mother who was only 59 when she died. She had lots of brothers and sisters and three children and we were all at her bedside. After several hours of being asleep she suddenly woke up looked around the room and said 'What are you all doing here?' and then proceeded to sing 'I do like to be beside the seaside' which made us all laugh through our tears. She then went back to sleep and quietly slipped away.
My godmother was a Joyce Grenfell fan and I read this at her funeral. Very moving... I struggled to say the words. Joyce Grenfell was gifted in so many ways.
So sorry to hear about your friend Soutra. This story reminds me of a dear friend who died 8 years ago - who comforted the rest of us when we visited her and tried and failed to keep it together (not proud of myself for that). There is often a dignity and bravery in people who are dying that is reassuring for the rest of us.
Soutra I'm so sorry to hear about your friend's illness, but yes, this poem does show that she still has an understanding of her situation and the desire to make light of it. for you - it's hard to stand by and wait for the death of a friend or loved one.
JG was an amazing lady with so many different sides to her.
I am sorry you are losing your friend Soutra - it is so hard. Hospice care is excellent and let us hope they will make it possible for her to slip away peacefully.
Those words were so lovely, I had to look up the rest of the poem
If I Should Go - Joyce Grenfell
(Often Called - If I Should Die)
If I should go before the rest of you Break not a flower nor inscribe a stone Nor when I'm gone speak in a Sunday voice But be the usual selves that I have known Weep if you must Parting is hell But life goes on So sing as well.
Moving indeed and emotional for friends and family but somehow reassuring.I hope we all know when the time comes to slip away and are at peace with it. I think my mother was.
A very dear friend is quietly slipping away in our local hospice. She is in no pain, and spending most of her time asleep on morphine. However another friend managed to see her yesterday and told me how our friend was weak but remarkably "compos" and quoted part of that wonderful Joyce Grenfell poem which ends "Weep if you must Parting is hell But life goes on So sing as well"