celeb 
don't give up ((hugs))
Hi all
Oh so very sorry for you Celebgran,my heart is bleeding too.
When I sent my beloved gc their Xmas cards via my nice D, my other daughter opened read and put them straight back in my nice D bag without showing my gc at all! I got them two Birthday cards, one I sent through the post (my nice daughters 'out' as well now) and the other I am keeping till I see them (fingers crossed)
Tuesday was the first day I have slept all through the night! I woke-up and could actually think about my work with a clear mind, I thought 'thank God, I've got my mind back again' but it was short lived, just until the post arrived. They have got a solicitor (so at least I know they will turn-up this time) But the sol. letter was full of complete lies, the most upsetting thing was, unbelievably, you will never guess....they have changed my little Laila's name! not her first name but her middle and last, which were my first and last name (I don't have a middle one) They have changed it to his grandmothers name which is ugly and doesn't flow nicely with Laila, doesn't suit her and is not from any blood relative of hers, but just her step-dads gm. I'm heart broken again
The sol. mentioned the cards I sent for their birthdays, I had no idea if they would be opened, put straight in the bin or returned, but I did know Laila and Jack would not be shown them, so I wrote for my daughters eyes, saying; 'The day you were born (gc) was one of the most wonderful days of my life'. The sol. said the cards were inappropriately written for them, but they were not written for them to read as they cannot read yet, they are far too young.
So big day this Tuesday 2pm, day of the court hearing, it is going to be traumatic for me, as I will be on my own, and it will be both of them and their solicitor and no-doubt a waiting room full of his family ready to through eggs at me! My nice D couldn't get time off work to come this time, she came last time but wasn't allowed in, I've since heard she could have, as a 'McKenzie friend', I actually think she is frightened to come. Friends offered to come but I don't want a friend to see/hear the nastiness of them and the whole situation.
Oh yoga girl thank you yesterday was grim but hey today we had lovely lunch out with friends and start feel better!
A little girl in ladies about my Mollie age noticed my toe nails painted bless her but I was ok!
Sending you lots lots good wishes and support for next tues please let us know pm me if I can help at all even if just to listen stay strong.
Sending you love and best wishes for Tuesday .Whatever happens you have been very courageous and it's better than doing nothing.
Our thoughts will be with you all day
Love and hugs
Yoga, my thoughts will be with you tororrow, what a harrowing experience it will be for you. Try to imagine all of us at your side supporting you.
Yogagirl - hope today wasn't too much of a nightmare and that you got the outcome you wanted.
Hello everyone and thank you all very much for your kind words of support.
Well, they turned up at the court with their barrister, he was huge! and very intimidating. They sat in a private office waiting to be called, when the door opened I could see my daughter(from the back) for the first time in months.
Their barrister came out and asked me to go to the back to discuss the case, which I refused, he went away and came back and did the same thing, I said I would only speak in front of the Judge, he handed me their court papers just before we were due to go in, so I had no time to prepare, it was full of complete lies, as per usual.
Cut a long story short, they oppose the application, so I must now file and serve further statements for the contact order hearing. If its granted, the Judge (different one from the first hearing and not as nice, she told me off for saying hello to my daughter!) it will be in the Chelmsford court and will be set for 2hrs, so going from her saying that, it sounds like it will go ahead.
Never goes how you would think, we sat in a line, so I couldn't see my daughter or s-i-l (that is snake-in-law) Their barrister did apologize to the Judge about them not turning up for the first hearing, as they said they didn't know about it and had not received any court papers. I managed to tell the Judge that they did know, as Jason had phoned the courts a week before the first hearing to ask if he had to turn up! so its on the court recorders; finally they know he's a liar!!
Unfortunately I don't have time to prepare the papers, as I'm on a working holiday next week and have to prepare my work for that now, so I've packed it all away where I can't see it, till I get back and can work on it properly, more lost time!
I was very sad when I came out and did think to myself 'shall I go on?' (thinking of the time factor-the GC forgetting me), but all my friends said 'you must, you've got this far'. So I will continue to the end, the end being my seeing my precious GC again, I hope.
So much more to tell, but I have to stop to go to work, so I'll be back on Friday afternoon.
Yogagirl I think you're incredibly brave, and even if things don't go to plan (though I do hope they will) I'm sure that in the future your grandchildren will be thrilled to know what lengths you've gone to in order to maintain a presence in their lives. I salute your perseverance.
I echo ga's comments. I admire you Yoga.
Hello all my gransnet friends
I'm back from a really lovely working holiday, actually managed not to think about things, until I got back on the plane home, and then it really hit me, I closed my eyes and cried, had tears rolling down my cheeks, hope no one noticed, I was facing the window so, sure not.
No I couldn't pack away the papers before I went abroad, I got up at 5am the Friday before, no wee break, and got the papers to the court by midday!
I was really pleased to have done that, as I could then concentrate on my holiday.
The next court hearing is on the 5.8.13, my nice daughters 30th Birthday!
Its now at Southend-on-sea county court, with yet another Judge.
I was feeling despondent with this news, epically as I had a tarot reading on holiday, she was really good, but said I would be disappointed at the court hearing, but that I wouldn't give up.
Good news, they have now no barrister! don't know if an argument ensued after the last court case, when their barrister found out they were lying about not knowing about the first court case, with the barrister apologising to the Judge for their no-show, the barrister left the court saying to my s.i.l "we need to talk in the office" I know my s.i.l would have no respect for the barrister. Or maybe they got a hefty bill and was also asked for a retainer! My tarot reading said the mother is paying, so now a bit of discord between her and my s.i.l (if you believe that sort of thing)
I'm going to try and get the policeman to testify at the court hearing, re; my trying to kidnap little Laila, it will no doubt cost a bit, but so worth it, to see my s.i.l face when the policeman says "no, that's not what happened at all!"
Not necessarily yogagirl am gunning for you so round of how you got this far.
Keep strong I will be praying for you on 5th x x
Hello gransnet friends and thank you Celebgran
I've just posted on the 'cut out of their lives' link, which is on the same subject and very sad, same as this link. Shame the links aren't put together!
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