Thank you Iam, for pointing out how ace manipulators work. I know our backgrounds are similar and, like others you mention, we have experience of these types of people but still often struggle to see through the web of deceit they can project. Social workers are only human I’m afraid, and we don’t have crystal balls.
There are no easy answers but I think the best safeguards lie in robust procedures, experienced managers with the time to have proper oversight, quality supervision, peer support and manageable caseloads, none of which come cheap. And it always comes back to a willingness to ‘think the unthinkable’ even when a couple have passed all the steps of assessment and present as ideal adoptive parents. I think when a child is placed is where the true assessment begins.