I get why you’re frustrated. Decisions about war made by leaders far from the front lines can feel deeply unfair, especially when younger people bear the consequences. But framing it in terms of age or gender risks oversimplifying the issue.
Leaders like Donald Trump or Benjamin Netanyahu aren’t in power because of their age, they’re there because of political systems, voter choices, and party dynamics. History has shown both effective and ineffective leaders across all age groups.
Rather than focusing on whether someone is ‘too old’ or male, it might be more useful to ask: Are they fit to lead? Are they making responsible decisions? Are there proper checks and balances in place?
Experience can be valuable in leadership, just as fresh perspectives can be. The real issue is ensuring leaders, of any age or gender, are accountable, capable, and acting in the public interest. I wonder if the OP's should be aiming their attack on the failures of democracy - and how it can be improved- rather than be triggered by the age and sex.