MissAdventure
Surely that's why anything, anything at all to do with inappropriate sexual behaviour needs the fastest, most empathetic systems and responses.
These kinds of things are still rooted in shame, too much to drink.
Should have spoken out.
Must have some way asked for it.
It pees me off that women could respond in that way.
It has to be spoken of, with victims listened to.
I agree. Women can't do right for doing wrong. If they speak out they might be making false allegations. If they don't, they should have spoken out. If they wait for collaboration from others they are jumping on the bandwagon. And what were they wearing? Why were they there (wherever it was) in the first place? Is the man rich, or well-connected? If so, they are probably 'gold-diggers'.
What did the women expect when they went there, wherever it was - an office in the workplace, a nightclub, a hotel room for coffee? Why couldn't she tell that her boss, the man she met on a night out, the colleague at the conference was a potential rapist?
If she reports something short of rape - a grope, an obscene innuendo, sexual remarks, frottage - she is risking the man's reputation, and is probably a man-hater. After all, so much of this is banter and we can't say anything these days.
Still, we can rely on one another for support, can't we?
Oh.