In some Christian circles (not C of E that I know of) if a man deviates from the norm and commits adultery in some way, the wife is blamed for not being enough.
Even if the man is unfaithful or a bully, it's all your fault as a woman. You deserve it, because YOU married him. Now you are responsible for him being happy and doing the right thing. If only you were "enough" for him, he would be a faithful man and not an abuser... (SIGH)
This kind of misogyny years ago could stop women asking for help where there was none. If she had, it would probably have been her, not him who was blamed (and then disciplined) What woud her options be in that instance, married to an abuser? She would either have to put up and shut up, live her life being faithful to her vows or she would have to walk away completely to start a new life- because there is no reasoning with unreasonable people.