nuyork, i have just passed an assessment for a special guardianship order for my 3 month old grand daughter. she too was placed in foster care rather than with me, and i didnt understand it either, but i think thats just what happens in some cases.
i didnt understand why she went to foster care, started bonding with the foster carer and then could be moved again, possibly to me. but they didnt know if i would pass an assessment so i guess thats why.
in the uk they have 26 weeks from start to finish to get everything 'sorted' so there is minimal disruption to the child and the adoption process runs along side at the same time.
i wish you luck.
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