I cared for children for 5 years and then worked (sometimes full/sometimes part time) for the rest of the time. I got no credits for the years bringing up children so my state pension is not full - and neither is my OH's as he spent many years as a student training in medicine and biochemistry and missed out of contributions then.
The only reason we are reasonably comfortable is because we were able to take advantage of rising house prices and down-sized at a critical time and managed to wipe out our mortgage in our 40s. We basically did so as OH had to retire then with ill health, so we weren't left rolling in dosh - but having no housing costs has been a life-saver for us.
The other factor is that FIL left us a small amount when he died so we always feel there is something to fall back on if the house needs maintenance for instance.
OH's NHS pension is small (he did retire in his 40s and refused to acknowledge that it was because he was ill, so we did not get the sickness retirement pension we should have had) and I will get virtually nothing from it f he leaves this world before me.
One DD puts their business excess profits into housing with a view to selling them when they retire and using the proceeds to live on; another works all the hours that are sent and pays into a company pension (her OH refuses to do so); another's OH has a small pension contribution with his company and she herself has who knows what - she works for another DD's business and I have not enquired. I think they are all going to struggle in retirement - and have to work very hard for longer.
When your children are learning to speak

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True, we live in a modest house in the middle of nowhere but we now only need one car and plan our shopping/medical appointments/visiting friends and family trips to make the most economical use of petrol. We work hard at being self-sufficient and do not have to buy wood for the stove, eggs, vegetables and soon (hopefully) chicken for the freezer. We also prefer short breaks to holidays.
