Black Dog 30

Wise post there, HVDY.

Sweetpeasue here's one for you, with love...
www.youtube.com/watch?v=MUB1O2cT2gM&list=RDMUB1O2cT2gM&start_radio=1

there are matters out of our control. I'm very political and historical knowledge - maybe that makes it easier to cope with events as the sort of winds of change do come and go over time, and I have people to talk it over with,

But atm yes I do limit what I watch and thats the way to go. Believe that love of our nearest and dearest matters every bit as much to humanity.

I wouldn't want to go to a farm in this heat, HVDY. Its lovely that you have not lost bits of family but gained as regards your lunch yesterday, credit to you.

Spot on re D. since she is in hospital sent a how are you (medically) but sticking to that sort of conversation.

I stayed up far too late last night singing along to u tube favourites so very tired, and no probably not the park. Earlier, I did one fifth of my long (expensive) resin path as, as long as it's weed free, the rest of the garden looks acceptable! I use dabs of Weedol which I dont' like chemicals wise but...

Got the big shop, but Sainsbugs is air com.

ScaredyCat LG is such a happy, easy child. She didn't want to go in the sandpit at the park - perhaps because there's no shelter from the sun there - and she fell asleep in the car coming home, and continued to sleep for another hour. You really do make the most of your days, which I think is great. I ought to do that (but I'm too lazy and like lounging about).Son2 believes in filling his days off work with things to do - he and his mate have gone away for a couple of days to visit museums and an air show.

EllieAnne Glad you had a bit of sunshine yesterday. It's been really humid and too hot here.

Wyllow3 It sounds as though D wants to be your friend, but you don't need her friendship, and I think you're right in wanting to stop communicating with her. The Mr A situation has taken up so much of your time. Will you go to the park today, or will it be too hot?

Doodle What a shame your art class is finished for a while. Will you keep in touch with some of the people who go?

SweetpeaSue You and your husband have been through such a lot of medical troubles, and you fought so hard to get him seen by doctors. I hope he gets a diagnosis for his aches and pains soon. As for Ukraine, it's all so awful, but those things are beyond our control. Like you, I despair of all the bad and sad things that are happening all over the world. It worries me that the grandchildren are growing up in a world like this. I keep telling myself that there are so many good things in life, and to limit watching mainstream media. I never watch the news on TV, but read it online.

DH and I saw Son1's ex yesterday, with her husband and son. Her parents live next door, so we saw them as well. We had a delicious lunch - homemade sausage rolls, quiche and pizza, with salad and pasta. She's always made us very welcome.

No day centre today - some of them are going on a trip to a farm (I've been there a few times with LG). Hope ALL BDers have a relaxing day x

Im feeling very low indeed. Dont think Im coming over as myself.
Im so worried about DHs pain all over his body. I know others are much worse, though Im also concerned about our own lives being so affected. My DH is only 71. I feel Drs aren't doing as much , as we're older, though not very old.
Just so fed up of this world we're in.
So upset about Ukraine. I get regular reports about the Ukrainian people and its so disgusting how they are living with no help from America.
Sorry, not helping others on this thread I know.

34 is really hot, Doodle. No wonder you are wilting. there is no easy answer for you as your flat sounds a bit of a heat trap. Even the hospice doesn't sound very cool. I would miss the art group so much. ]

I always hated that things stopped over the summer. Sometimes if it's a group that has some members who want to meet together they can meet up in someone's home, but the trouble with an art group is space and table space.

*Sweetpeasue the more I interact with D the more I realise how all over the place she is emotionally. She wants to sort of justify what she did because she is unhappy I "outed" her and frankly still has sympathies for "poor MrA. We can get on in other ways and it's clear I have to set boundaries and thats it, but not only that, I have realised that other Q's are not happy with what she did - but took time to reach that conclusion and didnt want to rock any boats until I forced the issue.
I dont think I have in y life ever managed such a challenge - and won out in the end as I persisted.

I've run away from a couple of situations with this level of challenge - left a well paid job as it was a knives in the back situation, lies spread - this time, at 75, I didnt.
Live and learn.

I hope BD's sleep as well as you all might. xx

Wyllow Yes, it was stifling in the car going to book group- takes a while for air- con to kick in. Sorry, must have got it wrong about Quaker D . I thought she was trying to make amends . Seems she may just wanting yo go over and over stuff and you dont need that.
Doodle Our book group ended today for the summer hols too. I hope you can find something to do instead - some other meet ip with friends perhaps. My book group friend that I met last week suggested we meet up again week after next. Thats the end of that boring book now thank goodness.It will be going straight to a charity shop. Hope you manage to sleep tonight . Maybe with the ice sheet?

Sorry the remarks about your eyes and Mr A we’re for you Wyllow somehow your name went missing.

Thanks Scaredycat for starting us off again. So relieved someone was on the ball. Thank you for being brave.
Your day sounds nice but rather hot. Yes a walk near water would probably have been better. Another scorcher here again today. I’m wilting. We went to the hospice for lunch which was cooler but still overpowering. I’m so drained.
Yes the party was lovely and cool in the shade.

Your eyes sound so painful. Hope you get some relief soon.
I’m glad you are trying to out and end to D’s conversations. You need to be able to converse with other Quakers about something else now. This Mr A business has taken over your life. If only they’d sorted it out properly at the beginning.
HvDY yes we’ve been 34 today I think. Blinds shut but still so hot. I’ve got an ice pack on my feet and two fans on but I’m still hot. Did you have a nice lunch? Hope you found somewhere with air con.
Ellie Anne sitting in the garden reading sounds very pleasant without the heat we’ve got here. Trouble with comfort eating is that the weight piles on. Bullying at school makes things worse. Could you take your DGD shopping and buy her some healthy snacks that she could eat instead of the junk food?
Sweetpeasue yes still baking here. I’ve got an ice sheet for my feet which helps. Sorry you felt so bad yesterday. Hope today was better how did book club go? Are you still reading the book you didn’t like?
It’s art tomorrow. Our last one of the term. I will miss it and the company over the summer holiday.

Oh thank you Scaredycat.
Now be good and back to the lovely beaches and paddle, because I suspect all of us would find it far too hot. May be evening drives for "the sights".

It's the secret eating that so hard to stop EllieAnne and of course if she gets bigger she will hideaway more. She could do with some help really but I don't know whats available. Its meeting some emotional emptiness thingy but all are so different? Can you have a google of where she lives and see if there is anything going? a nice peer support group?
The temperature where you are is a bit desirable:

I did go to the gym but much watering is needed with no energy I overdid it.

BUT - told Quaker D no more talking or WhatsApping it over after she suggested an hours meet up (shudder) this morning and suggested she take "stuff" to a mutual friend she utterly trusts and will put her as right as possible. And will stick to it HAD ENOUGH. And she reacted well by next WhatsApp total change subject (I'm OK about her sending loads of stuff as fair do's she is having check ups in hospital nothing serious but her imaginings we can be besties round her place - well, planet Zog time!

Aw Sweetpeasue I'm amazed in this heat you got to the book group at all...the heat takes its toll. Makes me frustrated as at 40 would have been bouncing around but there we go - any vulnerability the heat will just make it stronger. Lying around is necessary?

HVDY at the end of thread 29 you mentioned you were going for lunch with previous DiL and family - I hope its gone well and natters were good.

(No, anti b's are out. Blepharitis is nether an infection nor viral)

We have sun today but it’s not too hot. I sat out reading all afternoon and did a bit of weeding.i hope we get a few days at least. It’s the
Son and family do have an ok diet but it’s the rubbish Dgd eats in secret that is the real problem. I’m not sure why her mum has put on weight.

Hi all
I,ve cooled down a bit - still frazzled though🥵
Wyllow- So glad you,ve booked a hols. Yorkshire is such a beautiful county - my DH is from there.
Walking by the river and having a coffee sounds perfect. I love to hear you doing happy things like that.
I feel as you do sometimes- much as I love company there sometimes comes a point when enough is enough.
Your Zoom meeting sounds like it helped and gave you food for thought.
HVDY- a nice day with LG -does she get on OK with the heat.
My DS hates it and he has to work all day in it as he is a sports coach.
What a shame your DGD has problems too. Your DS does his best by the sound of it but I guess sometimes the other girls all go to the shop after school. I remember being 15- it’s so in between neither adult nor child.
Hope you have had a nice day- you sound very fond of your DS ex. You have a big heart.
SweetPeaSue- Sorry about your lack of energy and low mood again- at least you rallied enough to get to book club. The heat is so draining though isn’t it.
EllieAnne- I,m sorry your DH isn’t well - hope he soon gets the haematology appt. But he does have to help himself as well - you have too much on your plate.
Ah bless your DGD she is so young to feel as she does. It shows what regard she has for you to confide such intimate thoughts and share her worries with you. Yes it would help her if her Mum could join her in a bit of healthy eating.
Doodle- the party sounded wonderful. A lovely day in a lovely place. Glad you enjoyed the food too. Just what you needed.
It has been so hot here today. We went out to a town that has a wonderful castle/fortress but oh the heat was awful. I felt about 150 when we got back in the car.🥵
Should have walked on the beach in the water instead. Never mind I,m terrible at trying to squeeze as much out of our days as possible.

I wasn’t sure whether to start the thread again but got brave and just went for it.
Love to all and take carexxx

Oh no HVDY Those sort of temperatures are not normal at all. We shut the curtains at back of house on a morning where the sun is, then close blinds/curtains at front on the afternoon. I think its best way.

Thanks for starting the thread Scaredycat

I cant 'see' your posts on other thread until I come out of this one so sorry if Ive not replied to questions.
I know one was how I did jacket potatoes. I dont think I do them properly either but I put a couple in microwave for around 4mins then finish them off in air fryer for about 20-25 mins to crisp up skins.
HVDY I do feel sorry for you and anyone else where its hotter - I cant bear the heat and its 24 here. I hope your DH goes on ok with the enlarged prostate - good they are monitoring it.
Doodle Hope you're managing in this heat - awful for you. Heard someone on TV say they put ice cubes in hot water bottles. Hope youve been with friends today too. Not sure if its your art day.
Wyllow Glad there might have been a breakthrough with Q D . I hate atmospheres. Pleased youve arranged a holiday- sounds really nice and Im sure it will do you the world of good to have a different place to explore. Oooh those eyes sound really horrid. Do hope theyre a bit better today- must make you feel very miserable. Will antibiotics help?
EllieAnne Hope youve got some warm dry weather where you are by now.

Been to Book group today. I was so down yesterday and so tired I wanted to crawl back into bed as soon as I got out. I lasted till afternoon then I just had to relent.
Hope everyone is ok.

Thanks for starting the thread, ScaredyCat. I didn't know how to. It's boiling hot here (32). We've got all the blinds shut to try to keep the house cool. Have you had a good day?

Hi all
Just come in from a tiring and mega hot day and hope you don’t mind me starting
Hope you are all keeping as cool as possible- except Ellie Anne who I hope has warmed up a bit!!
See you laterx