Wyllow Thankyou for keeping me 'in heart and mind' - a lovely thing to say. Your gym is such a great place for you and a real help to keep your body and mind together.
Your words to Nadateturbe from that song 'I am safe, I am safe' helped this morning - was on a knifes edge waiting for GPs call so I kept saying them to myself. Hope today has been OK for you.
Doodle I can only echo the sentiments of everyone here about your church break in - such a despicable act- just cant understand those people. I do hope there wasnt too much mess left to clear up or precious and loved sacred things taken. Hope youve been OK today - its s warm here this afternoon - 20deg - but nothing like where yourself and Scaredycat are.
Scaredycat Yes it was a milestone birthday for son yesterday ( me too in September!) Im like everyone here, still talk to son's like theyre little-' make sure you put suncream on' ect when theyre off on holidays. Though we need it here this summer dont we. I am sorry about your friend having bad news from consultant - shes been through so much. Its would be so good if her new treatment works , I do hope so.
HVDY Jaffa has only 2 fangs . Oh dear ,those menacing looks. The friend I visited a couple of weeks ago was looking after her DDs cat and she just sat in front of me staring without blinking. I was a bit nervous then it came over and rubbed itself against me purring. My friend said she must like you as she's been very shylike and doesnt normally do that. Oh my that was a bad night for you wasnt it. Wonder why you had the coughing but also the palpitations? Are you still checking the BP- hope thats dropped a bit. Nowhere DHs not as bad a hoarder as your friend , goodness - all thise wage slips and bank statements.
EllieAnne Hope youve been OK today. Are you getting warmer weather yet? We could do with some more rain here - had some showers this morning, the first for weeks.
So we actually got a F2F this afternoon. GP is writing to this Vascular dept and making sure theyre aware that DH has had pain ever since the stent op and his past history. She says theyll have his records ( those that were from out of this area when he went to York) though the Rheumatologist didnt when we saw him last. Anyway ,feel better that the Vascular dept will have more info though still anxious that they will be dismissive as they were initially - which caused us to go private. GP said we should be hearing from Vascular soon since the radiogist had said it was urgent.
Hope everyone has been OK today.
Love to all.x
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(537 Posts)Welcome. This thread is in support of those who wish to share their mental health problems as they affect their daily lives,share aspects of our lives supportively and give and take support. And is a continuation of Black Dog 29.
It’s been going for some time, so this is a jump in at the deep end.
All are welcome- don’t be put off by some of us being here long term - people come and go
SweetpeaSue Oh dear, your dinner didn't go to plan. Is your husband a bit of a hoarder? DH's sister is - she's kept every one of her bank statements and payslips for 25 years. Cats can give menacing looks - Jaffa bit me last night! He's only got 2 "fangs", so it didn't hurt. I hope someone from your surgery rang you back ok.
Wyllow3 Good job you got the car query sorted out. I bet the gym is fairly empty at night, is it? We haven't had any rain yet either.
I was awake a lot all night - palpitations and coughing. DH went to feed the cats, so I went back to bed - and didn't wake until 10am!! I hate being up so late. Back later x
Hi all
Wyllow- yes DD is only 5 minutes walk away- well 10 now as I am turning into a snail - a fast snail but a snail nevertheless!!
Moving has been the norm forever in our family too but doesn’t make distance any easier does it.
The rain has disappeared off our chart too and none forcast for the foreseeable future🥵
Hopefully those niggling thoughts that plague you will fade away- you have much to look forward to not back.
Glad you got out in the evening - it’s so much cooler and quieter then.
HVDY- Radar keys give you that bit of confidence don’t they- toilet planning has been top of my list for so long😩 I got mine off Amazon.
You did a lot of work yesterday- I feel guilty . I had to stop after a while yesterday and DH did the rest. The heat is wiping me out.
We had the same tea as you yesterday - thank goodness for salad.
Maybe your Son1 dog is just feeling fed up with the heat- I do hope no one scared her.
Perhaps we should all do a rain dance- everything is crispy now and it’s flippin hot again today.😩
Doodle- How wicked are some people- I,m so sorry about your Church break in- it’s beyond belief.
Yes we all miss GD2 - she is a dear soul. Thankfully she has a really kind MiL near her so DD knows she has support.
Wow you had 2 Furry Grandogs to see after- what a lovely thing to do. The cat was only doing what cats do and checking you out. Don’t think she could swallow a whole Doodle.
Nadateturbe- so good to see you posting. You bear your illness with such courage and have a very big heart to think so kindly of others.
I,m another one who speaks to my children ( in their early 60s)
With the Are you warm enough - don’t do too much etc etc
Those Radar keys are very handy . I got one last year from Amazon as sometimes urgency is a problem.
SweetPeaSue- Oh dear you are exhausted. In this hot weather cooking is just another stress we can do without isn’t it.
As for the paperwork I sometimes think men are on a different planet!!
Waiting for a phone call from the GP is torture isn’t it. I do hope you are treated kindly when it happens.
Hope Aunt enjoyed her Birthday also your Son. That’s a milestone Birthday for him.
Take care of yourself .
EllieAnne- what a beautiful peaceful scene. You have a good eye . I think the clouds make the picture. It is a lovely hobby to have I,m sure you could make a great photo book with some of your shots.
Went to see my friend yesterday afternoon - not great news from the consultant but hoping that things will improve with some different treatment. I feel so sad for her.
Love to all - mentioned or just reading xx
Doodle What kind of people break into a church
. Was there much/any damage done? I like dogs but am wary of them. The dogs who were guarding/looking after you sound gorgeous. Alsatians and Retrievers are both very nice family dogs.
(I like the way he says, "*I am safe, I am safe* it makes one feel secure, nadateturbe.)
nadateturbe, I have found the meditation you mentioned, and listened to a bit. spot on, calm voice, taking us through the body bit by bit by bit and peace and calm. its good, I have bookmarked it.
www.youtube.com/watch?v=391iDzaNUAU
you might like this one too its similar but of course stick to what works for you.
www.youtube.com/watch?v=cRlE0HwVcj0&t=10s
Sweetpeasue you in my heart and mind right now. I hope you get what you need today ❤️
I'm rather tired after last night's gym! But glad I got out in the evening which isnt normal for me.
Nadateturbe Thankyou ,I did eventually. Sorry you too were up in early hours. Not good for your illness.
Just waiting for call back from GP .Stomach churning as have to beg for F2F and DH will answer it and dont want him to get dragged in to saying everything on phone- they try that.
Back later.
Oh you poor thing Sweetpeasue. I hope you got to sleep again.xx
Yes I adore iced coffee HVDY. I have coconut latte. I’m glad you have a radar key for emergencies. TMI I can squat easily….I don’t think I will watch “filthy House”, however I have decluttered to move so many times and its a wee house….well done on the clothes there tho. That was a good day there getting things done.
Rain! Well, we were supposed to be having it for 2 days this week and it’s gone!!! 2 hours in the night is all! It was too hot. In fact, it’s going to be hot as the day wears on instead. Grrrrrrrrrr. I was so looking forward to to it for the garden..and me
I shall look him up, nadateturbe. He sounds great. In the day I listen to a guided meditation which helps me relax and sometimes doze. Aw….its maybe a matter of finding the right cleaner? It is such a relief to know things are taken care of and above all releases what tiny energy you have to do what you possibly can. Do you feel they might meddle or things are sort of..too personal?
I love Leonard Cohen. “Healing” is wonderful, and “Anthem” which has once of the best lines ever….
*Ring the bells that still can ring
Forget your perfect offering
There is a crack, a crack in everything
That's how the light gets in*
Here is “healing” for everyone
www.youtube.com/watch?v=MUB1O2cT2gM&list=RDMUB1O2cT2gM&start_radio=1
You are right. 17 degrees is nice. Pop a cardi on weather and not too hot to sleep.
I bet your children smile at the advice 😉
That is a wretched day, Sweetpeasue - crawling through the paper work when it was on the mobile. I think A Would Have Had a Word or Two on that. Shut down, distract gently, spot on.
Doodle, that is dreadful! Your church broken into - I hope there wasn’t a lot of damage or items missing. Oh how can some people 😡. Glad they will resume on Wednesday, but still… how did you find out - get there and be sent home? I find I stay up late when its the cool of the late evening but I don
I don’t really want to wake up too early either so we seem to be night owls.
Goodness me. Please don’t get eaten! This would never do, lack of Doodle.
Today has been altogether strange.
I got to the Park to meet my CPN at 10am for stroll and chat: then was going to gym necessary exercises. (I have to do Kegel ones as well)
A no show. Get on the phone.
No, no appointments this week, it’s next week.
No no I say I would not have booked next week I am coming back from family and it was a phone call when I was at my calendar. And the lady I spoke to had actually arranged for the appointment by coincidence! Tell my psychologist pease I said - it worked, plus of course an error made. 1pm
I have to acknowledge however that with the MH system in the state it is, I am incredibly fortunate in the little corner I find myself in. Its rare. And yes nadateturbe things are easing post the assault and all the wretched ho ha. And reflecting, why did I let them get away with not dealing with it for so long, why was I not more assertive, why did I let D deny it had happened and not shop her to Safeguarding blah blah, but one is afraid of being criticised yet they had denied my very integrity. For months. A faith group that should have known better.
I had to drop by the garage as a warning had come up, on the motorway on Friday, more hassles, and just went to sleep after that for 2.5 hours.
But the good bit was I then got going and went to the gym!
Had a nice sauna too and then even better found I am just down to a weight that I’d put on earlier this year. Not a lot: enough. So of course I ate choc at home. 🙄
In tomorrow morning to see how folks are getting on x
Wylliw Hope the early MH support call went well. Also that you continue to get that support as long as you need it. X
Doodle Im so tired. Just crept downstairs to let DH sleep Thankyou for that hug. I know you understand so well about health worries.
Glad you had those beautiful dogs to look after you. Tbh , and I whisper this--
I think some cats can look at you a bit spooky.
HVDY We had chicken and salad too. I cooked chicken crown in air-fryer ( over cooked and tasted like rubber!). DH overturned our own bucket of potatoes - not enough so had to trip out to Aldis for some tiny new pots. Boiled altogether and our own turned to sludge! Fished out the Aldi ones to serve ( all 6 of them) and they were raw inside!
Yes, DH keeps everything in huge folders in wardrobe. Its a nightmare. ( think hes on autistic spectrum actually).
Can't sleep. Come downstairs and had another alcoholic drink. I wish I could just zonk out and have some peace.
I know many of you will understand those times, which is why I can say it.
Tomorrow is another day ( as Scarlett said in Gone With the Wind).
nadateturbe I don't know how some people can live in such filth - I feel so sorry for any pets that those people have. You're right, we're always going to mother our children, no matter how grown-up they are. I changed the beds, did all the washing and got it dry. I'll go and see to Son2's cats at about 10pm. You seem to be a bit brighter in yourself. I envy you having some rain. I can't remember when it last rained here (a month, I think).
SweetpeaSue That must have been so annoying. My husband not only keeps letters from anywhere, but also the empty envelopes. I can't abide lots of clutter. Sorry your tea was ruined. Best to have salad! That's all I did for our tea, with quiche for me and chicken for DH.
It's been too warm here today. Hope it'll be cooler tomorrow. Love to all x
Scaredycat no service on Sunday our church was broken into so the service was cancelled. Wednesday service is taking place though.
Your DD must miss her DD being close by..nice she’s gone for a visit. Farmers market sounds fun. Not being very rural we don’t have anything like that round here.
Sweetpeasue you sound overtired and exhausted. Worry does take its toll. Glad you found the dates you wanted even if it took a long time. Hope you can get some more help for your Dh. We all ruin dinner or tea sometimes. When I think of the things I’ve dished up 😱
Big hug. Sleep well.
Ellie Anne well done for going out for a walk. It looks lovely despite being muggy. You do have some lovely places to visit.
nadateturbe lovely to hear from you. No need to mention everyone just pop in and tell us how you are, ME is such a dreadful condition to cope with. Lack of energy affects every aspect of life. I’m like you too. Always a mum checking up on our sons.
wyllow I stay up too late as well and then I’m tired all the next day. Glad you made it out for a coffee with a friend. That will do you good. Hope things went well with the MH support and gym.
HVDY that’s what I was doing over the weekend. Getting rid of all the things i won’t fit into again. The opposite of you in fact. 🤣 I was looking after (or they were looking after me! ) one large German shepherd and one large golden retriever. They were perfectly well behaved and all three of us had a good sleep til the cat came in. Dogs fine I’m scared stiff she’s feral and keeps looking at me like she’d like to eat me. 🤣
Thankyou Wyllow for that link to relaxing sounds- it was good of you to think of me.
Unfortunately been a very tiring day today. I wanted 3 dates from DHs NHS phone app to name the lack of responses when told of DHs chest pain ( not the angina one) . DH handed me nearly 100 pages of paperwork from last 3yrs. I waded through them , found the ones then DH went on his phone app and found them in less than a minute!! Grrrr! He keeps even the letters giving him an appt plus blank ones! Took F back ready for son 2 coming home.
Then I ruined tea. Just so very tired - cant take in anything on my senses- just have to shut down.
Be back tomorrow.
Love to all.xx
Scaredycat and Doodle hello. Talk soon.🙂
HVDY you made me laugh watching Filthy House SOS.
. I'm sure your bedrooms look lovely now, all spick and span! As regards skirting boards, I have an extendable feather duster and I dust them every week, and thats it. The radar key sounds good, I must investigate that.
I too still talk to my children like that. My 54 year old son just went on a cruise and I sent him a reminder about packing his inhaler, and my other son is constantly told to wear a hat. We never stop being mums.
I'm glad your headache has eased, I'm sure it was worrying, it's difficult sometimes to get the medication that works for you. The readings sounded better yesterday.
I do puzzles too. The 1% Club is good. I love Nerdle. A couple of us on GN do it.
Hope you're relaxing now after all that hard work. 
Wyllow3 the new hat with ties sounds lovely. You sound so much more cheerful nowadays, in spite of ongoing problems at Quakers, I'm glad the zoom worked well for you.
It's good to have calming peaceful things to listen to. I usually listen to a guy called Chibs Okereke on a 20 minute vagus nerve meditation. Sometimes I drift off to sleep after five minutes, his voice is so soothing. But I'll have a listen to your waves.
I hope the chat with the MH person went well this morning. Your relationship with your cleaner sounds wonderful for you both. I'm afraid I would be like your mum, following them around, which is unfortunate, as I would love to have a cleaner.
You mentioned a Leonard Cohen song some time ago, and I just wanted to say I'm a great fan of his. I've seen him 3 times.
I hope your hip has eased, and that it's not too hot for you at the gym. Our weather in County Antrim is just nice, 17 degrees and light showers. So glad.
Wyllow3 Iced coffee is perfect for this weather. It's 29 degrees here. Finding a toilet is a nightmare for me - I bought a Radar key (£10), and it opens all toilets. I got mine from The Blue Badge Co., but they're available on Amazon as well. Hope you haven't done too much at the gym, although it's nice and cool in there.
I fed the 2 cats at Son1's at 8.30. DH went later to fix the front door, which had dropped, and to fix some wiring in the garden. I watched "Filthy House SOS", and it spurred me on to clean up - all 3 bedrooms have been hoovered and tidied. Lots of clothes that I don't/can't wear have been bagged up for the charity shops. Too hot now x
And.. all the best Sweetpeasue if there is anything you intend to do today.
Morning - fresh here atm but it could go up to 26 or 27. I have an early MH support person (atm, its every 3 weeks, likely to get less as I get better in that department) then the gym which is aircon. Nothing after that but a siesta.
Yes HVDY when it got cooler and I had a sleep it was Costa iced coffee and a park stroll with a friend. Only snag - they close the toilets a bit early so one has to calculate drinking water and wee timing! It's rather short of suitable bushes.
I have an early start for me. Tomorrow, BD's. x
Doodel I'll have a look for one of those gadgets. Thanks for that. What a great place the hospice is. It's obviously very important to a lot of people. What type of dog have you been looking after? Son1 and family have got a Husky/Collie dog, aged about 5. She's gorgeous and very well-behaved, but for the past week or so has been reluctant to go for a walk with anyone except him. She goes a few yards then wants to go back home - she usually loves going out with the children or the gran, so they think someone or something must have frightened her. She feels safe with Son1 (perhaps as he's 6ft 2 and broad).
ScaredyCat Your GD2 must take after you for staying cheerful and not complaining about things. You've been looking after your GrandCats too, then
. How's your SIL's dad getting on?
Wyllow3 A day of not doing much is fine. Did you manage to go to the park?
SweetpeaSue Thanks, I'll probably need to take an extra BP pill - the GP has tried me on 5 different ones already. The readings have been around about 155/78 today. Did you feed the ducks? We buy some pellet things that don't sink to the bottom of the water, from Amazon. Your aunt will enjoy going out, but may be unsettled again when she has to return to the home. It'll pass. I bet she'll love her presents. You've got a middle-aged son, like me
. I still say daft things to mine, such as "Aren't you going to wear a coat?"
EllieAnne Lovely photo. I'm glad you're having warmer weather there.
nadateturbe Good to hear from you on here. Life must be difficult with M.E. Hope you have some better days soon.
Fed the 2 cats at Son1's, watered his plants (he grows vegetables and herbs), and am going to bed soon. Hope everyone has a restful night x
Oh my brain, EllieAnne should read
"EllieAnne Actually that photo was delightfully atmospheric. The sort of mist clad island…
The light streak across the sky, and the foreground balancing well with the sea. You have a good eye for a picture.
It's hard to get going when you have been sleeping badly, but pictures like that are good to see. Soft, calming. I just wish you well, in such a difficult patch.
What a lovely day in here to come into.
nadateturbe it is lovely to hear from you. Never forgotton, as with others and you are right it is horrible living with your levels of M.E and the unpredictably makes it hard to plan.
HVDY you are certainly having to balance your meds all the time, as in more of this means that, then more of that, this happens..…you do very well. Well yes, there is no skirting board inspector in BD land
Well done with your brother. That was hot out!
It is an energy drainer Scaredycat you are right. I pick up when it gets cooler too.
Farmers markets are delightful - it’s the ambience on a sunny day, children running, and all. Oh, this distance thing, when there are jobs to have to move to and many got to uni and end up somewhere or other or end up marrying someone from somewhere else…normal in my family. So glad for you DD is local. I hope.
Ah, the slowing down thing. Well the hot weather sort of forces it which is a Good Thing for me.
EllieAnne Actually that photo was delightfully atmospheric. The sort of mist glad island…the light streak across the sky, and the foreground glancing well with the sea. You have a good eye for a picture. Its hard to get going when you have been sleeping badly, but pictures like that are good to see. Soft, calming. I just wish you in such a difficult patch.
Dear Sweetpeasue - just wishing you well for getting some of the help you need this week. I’m glad Fluffball is still with you even if you had to prevent him going after ducks rather firmly
. I hope you sleep as well as you might. There needs to be a gransnet overnight thread, well there was one for a bit. I have wave sounds on at night generally, I find them calming.
This one I like as its even waves and lapping not crashing and you can set a timer if you want. I think it’s a non advert one except the start, but there are some def non advert on u tube after the first ad..
www.youtube.com/watch?v=1Ef9CAZ3OrQ
Yes, craneflies I think, as I did go for a Costa with a friend then a stroll in the park when it was cooler, good natter, and the same flies were over the river.
Oh it made such a difference, the temperature! Just people watching and the kids running round.
But today was a lesson - if I want to do something, do not do a lot in the evening and stop staying up late listening to music and poddling around (maybe as its cooler then - but has its costs).
EllieAnne Thankyou for that photo its really beautiful with the hills in the distance. You did well to get out for a walk despite the tiredness.
Nadateturbe Lovely to see you in - it must be so hard to live with all that ME takes away from your everyday life. Its kind of you to think of us all and read up the posts. Thankyou for the anniversary best wishes and so much for those hugs- always lovely to receive. Hugs to you too and hope your night is peaceful too.x
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