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He’s done it once before years ago for a few days. He’s microchipped.
I will put something on the local fb page tomorrow if he’s not back.

Ellie Anne I’m so sorry you must be so worried, hope he turns up soon. Lovely photo. Glad you had a visit from family.
Jonah I think you’re posting on the wrong thread. Try one of the weight loss ones.
Scaredycat sorry you’ve been so affected by the jabs. Hope you feel better after a rest.
HVDY LG must love her time with you. You always do something fun with her.
Sweetpeasue yes I had a lovely lunch with our son. I love little lambs. Sounds a nice relaxing place. Hope you enjoy it.
Busy morning at church today so nice to have someone else get my meal for me.
Wyllow I’m hoping all went well at Quakers and you’re ok

EllieAnne has your cat gone missing before? One of ours went for 5 days. I was so worried, rang every vet within 10 miles, also PDSA, council, printed flyers with his photo and details on and posted them through doors and on lampposts. I even took out an advert in the local paper. She turned up wet, cold and hungry, early one morning. I hope your cat comes home soon.

Wyllow I am watching country file and it’s in the Peak District and the high peak. Is that where you go? It’s amazing.
Still no cat.

Has anyone tried the slimming patches?

Scaredycat Oh, sorry you're not well after the jab- resting up is best thing for you right now and hope tomorrow sees uou better. I wasnt sure if to have mine so I didnt but DH has had his.
HVDY LG has had another nice day with you. Understand about bladder wakes in the night - so blooming inconvenient. Yes, newborn lambs are so sweet and it takes them so much effort to stand up. Then it seems like no time at all that they are doing little skips.

EllieAnne What a handsome boy. Is he home yet? If not, could you ask around the neighbours, go and look if he's in anyone's shed/garage? Is he microchipped? It's so worrying when they go missing.
Wyllow3 How's your day been?
ScaredyCat Have a rest, see how you are tomorrow. How's your sister getting on?
SweetpeaSue How wonderful to see lambs being born! And little fawns, too. Beautiful. Jaffa woke me at 5, so I left him downstairs and went back to bed. I always get up between 7 and 7.45 anyway - my bladder wouldn't allow me to stay in bed any longer!

LG was here until 5. We played, went to a park (where she got nice and dirty! but enjoyed herself), and had an ice cream. We didn't see Son1 and the girls - he came to borrow some of DH's tools, to do brake pads on DIL's car (he rejected DH's offer to do it at 10am, so we left him to it.

EllieAnne Oh I do hope your vat has come back by now. He looks a beautiful little thing.
Unbeknown to you I joined you for a drink last night and thought of you.
Doodle Hope you had a nice time with your son for lunch and enjoyed church this morning. I understand a little the pattern of remembering whole scenes of the before and after of those sad times when one becomes ill ( in my case , my mum, though I know it must be so different with your own DH) Hoping tonight , after your company, you can remember some of the good times. X
HVDY You are an early riser - is it Jaffa again? Have a great time with LG this afternoon. Yes, lots of lambs!
Purplepixie Hope today has felt a little better. Its ok to pop in and out or whatever you feel. We often do the same. I do feel for you with the estrangement of your DD. Its not always easy to maintain relationships with our AC when they move away I find the same.
Wyllow Hope youve managed to show the vulnerable side at your Quaker meeting. You shouldn't feel the need to cover up the hurt that Mr A caused you and the aftermath- you have been hurt so much. Sorry for your bad night - hope tonight for you is better.
Scaredycat It is such a lovely place isnt it. Did you have walking holidays here? We used to be able to walk some of the fells but have to be content now with our gentle strolls .
Yes, the nurse will get back, Im sure - I know the consultants are so busy with so many patients these days. Hope your sister is feeling much better now.

Having arrived yesterday within first few hrs saw 2 lambs being born in the field next to garden plus 2 baby deers! The deers visited over the garden wall today too. Not sure if theres anything I could put out in the space they like to come.
Had a little walk out today down the lane from back of cottage that leads through a wooded area. So quiet here. Chilly wind but I think we might be lucky with the weather later this week.

Hi all
Little post as I am not feeling too good after the jabs. I was fine til midday and had a lovely chat wit( my sister. Then tiredness overwhelmed me so just having a feet up rest.
Ellie Anne so hope your dear little cat comes home soon - you must be devastated.
Wyllow hope the meeting wasn’t as bad as you feared and mr A
Behaved .
Love to all and see you teomorrowxxxxxx

Oh Ellie Anne I'm so very very sorry, and I hope he returns soon. What a lovely chap he is. You just be very anxious x

PurplePixie, understood. They can be an umbrella to shelter under until you feel your life has improved, but it's not everyone's choice on BD's either.

It sounds like a super day to have LG and see family and my you've got going promptly, HVDY

I had a terrible night, and didnt think I would: I had to take a good chunk extra meds to sleep: well it just shows how troubled I am about today. I shall be very careful for the cheerful hiding it all Wyllow not to step in: people need to see a true state.

Hvdy he’s still not back.

EllieAnne Did your cat come back?
SweetpeaSue Hope you're both having a nice time. Many lambs around?
PurplePixie Sorry, I think I was the one who assumed you were on them. Might it be something you'd consider?

Bright and sunny morning here. Hung bedding on the line, so it should get dry today. LG here at about 12, for a few hours - parents have got a voucher for a meal somewhere. Might see Son1 and the girls this afternoon. Hope everyone has a decent day. x

Thank you for your kind words. They mean a lot. A bit of a misunderstanding though - I’m not on antidepressants.

Ds2 and family were here today. They were talking to Dh about his brother dying and it came out that he’s having a pure cremation. I think he’s known for a few days at least. Never thought to mention it to me.
I don’t know if there will be a memorial service sometime.
I was a bit upset about that and Dgs wouldn’t speak to me. I know it’s because he’s on the autistic spectrum and mum and dad try to encourage him to speak to me. It got a bit better as the day went on but he’s very demanding and has a meltdown if things aren’t going the way he wants.
My cat didn’t come home this morning. I keep checking round the garden but still no sign.

I'm glad you had a decent day, Doodle. It's so hard for you, but you have the sort of character that people warm to, and I'm glad you have a lunch to look forward to.

Yes there is a Q group, a big one, at the centre of town, and I'm not good at getting into town, and not ready to face a whole group of mostly (but not all) new people, some of whom will have been involved ad "know" - like the Safeguarding people! but OTOH has the benefit of possible people I "click with".

Will have to see how it goes. Atm I know I'll be very freaked out in anticipation - things seem unreal - and it might or might now be easier than thought! Again, I have th option of exposing him, but guilt and expectation of disapproval will get in the way unless it's very obvious he is out of order. But others might reign him in not me.

You do well on Vinted, HVDY. It must be quite a lot of fun in a way. And you've found an author you really like - thats great too. when I was really withdrawn all I did was read nearly all day and got attached to David Baldacci, a very good thriller writer.

DGD got butties and lots of her favourite fruit (blueberries, which are restricted at home due to having to share with 3 others) and dipping in mayo carrot and other sticks. I knew she would be getting "a proper dinner" later.

ScaredyCat I must get around to buying some plants soon. What's the RSV jab?

Wyllow3 Glad you had a nice time with your granddaughter. What did you do for her lunch?

Doodle You had a good day and plenty of friends for chats. That's what life is all about, I think - company, chatting and food.

I photographed a lot of clothes (13 dresses, 2 swimsuits, a few tops) and uploaded them to Vinted. Time-consuming, but I sold 3 things within 2 hours. Read another Bob Mortimer book, "The Long Shoe". Chatted on the 'phone with 2 different friends - one for 30mins, the other for an hour!

Scaredycat I hope you have no unpleasant side effects from your jabs. I haven’t had my covid yet but have had the RSV. Hope you had a nice time un Costa.
Wyllow I hope your dear Quaker friend is sympathetic to your need for support. Please try not to go on the downward slope with all this Mr A business. I don’t know much about Quakers but is there another group you could go to if you find you can’t tolerate being with Mr A in meetings?
Ellie Anne I do hope the walks continue and you find some companionship there. It’s a good idea.
Purplepixie what is the problem with your Dh? I understand you’re missing your friend a lot and the relationship with two of your children must be difficult. Why does your Dh not help?
HVDY I can’t believe it would take so long for that service to take place. Your BIL needs to have some Ceremony much sooner than that. I wonder why it will take so long.
I hope your exercises help. I must admit I am useless at doing exercises. I give up too easily.
Sweetpeasue hope you’ve had a pleasant day and DH’s pain has been minimal
I went to meet up with two friends this morning and had a surprise visit from another friend. The four of us had a most enjoyable morning chatting over coffee. And then lunch before weekly shop and home. Church for me in the morning then going to DS1 for Sunday lunch

Thats actually a pretty demanding day, Scaredycat.

Isn't it great to have the sun? and tomorrow too, I hope you are able to do a little. Have your Covid and RSV jabs affected you? My Covid arm was a bit sore was all. a not too busy costa on a sunny day is generally very pleasant - I

like the way they give one space around chairs and have a choice of chairs. dont you find a garden centre full of temptations? You did well to restrict yourself to the gravel you went for - it's very timely to get the gravel down before the weeds get a grip.

Hello to absent BD's, and any readers who may encounter this thread.

(I mean above I was the one with the severe depression in that time I describe)

I'll be back in later, a lovely time with DGD but I need a sleep.

Just to say, Purplepixie, there are a lot of triggers in there and of course as we get older there is well, what of life to come, it's been often very sad, how do I find hope?
The biggest trigger is the dear friend, isnt it?

I wish for you that you felt DH could meet your needs more. It's a difficult one. I certainly had lived with someone in the past in a severe depressive episode who couldn't fill the gap of enough love - but then, I'm not sure at that point, what could. its worth thinking how that might be made better...

What comes to mind - because it's been key to me getting somewhere (I'm bi-polar2 and do have MH support) has been counselling/therapy. Sometimes with the best will in the world we cant work through things alone.

BTW, it's OK to come in and say stuff like that"I'm having "whats the point in all of it - dont feel can take a lot more" moments - we do, and understand whats meant, for sometimes the best we can do is sometimes "keep on keeping on" and people on here have all had periods of that.

Back later to catch up fully, must lie down.

EllieAnne- I meant wasting his life in so many ways.

Hi all
Wyllow- hope you are having a lovely day with your DGD. That’s a great thing to do together. What a beautiful lasting memory she will have of her “Gran” day.
D,s idea is really pants - just play it cool and other people will see that she’s not as kind or thoughtful as she makes out. The older gentleman sounds like he could be a calming influence for you and a good confidante. Mr A is not worth a minutes thought - you have so much to look forward to so keep looking forward.
EllieAnne- well done with the walking group- the more things you try the more there is a chance that one will be just what you need. So glad you will go next week.
You sounded cosy in bed with tele and a drink. It’s a pleasure you can enjoy at the end of the day.
Your DH needs more to do - unless of course he is unwell. He seems to be wasting his ways.
SweetPeaSue- by now you should be in your little cottage. Hope there’s lambs already. Wishing you a happy and relaxing week. The Lakes are special and one of our favourite places too.
It’s a familiar place which lessens the stress about where to go and what to do. The hills will bring you peace I,m sure - just soak up the beauty and tranquility.
The cardiac nurse sounds like she is on your DHs case and a very thorough person wanting to help your DH as much as possible. Don’t worry if you don’t hear from her straight away - as you say the consultant will be busy.
Doodle- I,m so sorry the days at the moment are full of such sad memories. You are riding those waves of sadness with much bravery.
Your hair must be lovely to cut- I remember you said it is very thick. Hope you are pleased with it.
It’s lovely how your walking group has grown - more new friends.
Hope you are doing something nice today.
HVDY- I,ve never made a rice pudding either . Neither of us like it so it’s not going to happen any time soon.
Dental visits are never fun are they. It’s so expensive too - talk about adding insult to injury!!! I have a check up next week.
Jaffa under the wheelbarrow- trust a cat to find the daftest place to sit.
Sunny here too today. We walked to the surgery today for my Covid and RSV jabs. Then had a Costa visit. Went to our little local garden centre to get some gravel for the rockery as well.
Very tired now.
PurplePixie- so pleased to see you here - I think I remember you too from way back.
Hope you will come in whenever you feel like talking - there’s always someone around.
Ah no wonder you feel so lonely - and sad too. Being estranged from your DD must hurt so much.
Are you able to visit your Sons at all?
I,m sorry too that you have lost your dear friend. Some friends are so special - like Sisters. You knew her a long time so she’s left a big gap.
Is your DH in good health?
It might be worth you seeing your GP in case a change of ADs would help.
Take care of yourself and don’t forget we are here.
Nadateturbe- always in our thoughts and hope you,ve had a few better days.
Candy- how are you. Have you moved now?
Love to all present and pastxxx

It isn't the same as having a "real" friend, but there's a scheme called Re-engage that puts people in touch for a weekly telephone call. I used to ring one lady, for about a year.

PurplePixie You sound very depressed but also lonely, and it's no wonder. Your friend died fairly recently, and your family is a bit fractured. Do you and your husband go out together at all? Have you got any hobbies? You say you've been on antidepressants for some time, but perhaps you'd benefit from being on a different one? I was on Citalopram for many years then came off that and started Mirtazapine about 8 years ago, which suits me.

Thank you for being so kind and welcoming. It brought tears to my eyes but anything does these days. Yes, I have posted on here before and it was a while ago.

I won’t bombard you with all of my misery but here are a few things

DH - retired in 2019 - we met 2005
Me - retired 2014 - I’m now 74 - black dog days all my life - long story
Daughter - estranged 11 plus years
Eldest son - blows hot and cold but I try and keep that bridge open
Youngest son - lives/works 100 miles away but he does phone once per week. He is such a lovely person and we are very close and I miss him so much.
Best friend from school - died in December - she had been really ill for a long time with complications with MS. Miss our chats on the phone. She lived 200 miles away and hadn’t seen her since 2019 because she was prone to picking up infections.

Thanks for reading. Today I just want to stay in bed.