Black Dog 24

ScaredyCat You write such lovely, caring posts to us all. Hope you've been ok today.

Doodle Cockerpoos are such pretty little dogs. Son1 has worked from home today, so was at home with his daughter (GD1). She and I text a lot and she's been feeling a bit better today and was going to have a hot bath.

I saw a Nurse Practitioner this morning. After lots of questions and an examination, she said I've got a chest infection and prescribed antibiotics. No inhaler, she said it wouldn't be useful. No peak flow readings. I'm not convinced but we'll see.

Hope ALL BDers have a cosy evening. x

Lucyd hope your son can help you sort out things at the caravan soon. How nice to be able to borrow a little dog for cuddles, our sons have 3 between them and they are all lovely but I’m not allowed a dog here plus they are all big dogs and I couldn’t walk them.
I can thoroughly recommend getting the engraving done, I love looking at my bracelet and seeing the words my beloved wrote in his own handwriting is very special,, I also have one with a photograph of us engraved on it.
HVDY our son has a cockerpoo. Really lovely and cuddly. Curly hair and sad brown eyes.
It’s good Little Girl eats so well. So many children are very fussy what they eat.
Hope your GD1 feels better soon. Perhaps a good nights sleep will help.
Good you’ve got an appointment, hope they will sort out your inhaler. You really ought to have two. One for taking round with you and one at home for backup in case you lose the first one.
Sweetpeasue I didn’t know fluffball was a cockerpoo too. She looks so much smaller than our sons. How’s your DH been today. That pain in his arm must be awful for him.
Wyllow I really think you should talk to your sister, Your tummy situation isn’t right, there must be something that can help you.
Have you been out at all today.? I’ve been shopping but it was bitterly cold.
Scaredycat yes I’m looking forward to art starting again. And out Wednesday and Thursday church activities, as you say structure to the week is helpful. Going out keeps me distracted which I need. Have you stayed in today? It’s so cold outside you can get quite chilled even with several layers on.

Hi all
SweetPeaSue- it sounds like your worries are just going round and round in your head and won’t give you a break. No wonder you feel as you do. Everything you read magnifies your concerns - I know how that feels as have done it a lot in the past myself. I hope you manage to have a chat alone with your GP soon but in the meantime as Doodle suggested write everything down and insist it’s all on DH records. They have to take notice of you and start coordinating his care.
Doodle- So glad DH tree is a strong little one and is unharmed by those awful winds. The new term of classes will give some structure to your week and things to look forward to. Wonder what the Art Class will get you doing this year.
Your friend must be so precious to you and you to her- a good friend is a wonderful gift to be treasured.
Panto should be good fun- oh yes it will!!!
Fancy that old lady being at your hairdressers too- maybe she is stalking us!!
Lucyd- that was a busy day. I would like a Rent a Dog too. He,ll be your neighbour soon won’t he.
Hope the horses will still be there when you move in. So lovely to be able to see them every day. When we had our 2 at home the horse next door used to jump into our field to visit them. Then our neighbour would come and fetch him like a naughty boy!
I think you’re brave to be in the caravan in the Winter- take care in the snow if it arrives.
HVDY- what a good little girl she is to have such varied likes with her food. Hope you,ve had a nice time with her today.
Her sister sounds like a typical teenager.
Poor GD1 - all that time waiting when she felt poorly and then getting no treatment . Can’t believe the Doc couldn’t spare 5 minutes. Hope she didn’t pick up any more germs in A &E.
But at least the NHS turned up trumps for you this morning- hope all was ok.
Wyllow- yes DS visit is so very much wanted- I miss him a lot.
He needs to be there though for his wellbeing.
Hope you,ve taken the plunge and rung the Doc today. At least you will have been up early for the cleaner so should get through OK.
Being an Ostrich is not always a good idea but so very understandable. HVDY had some good ideas - have you tried massaging your tum or maybe having a warm bath.

Hope everyone is managing to keep warm and that the weather isn’t as mean as predicted.
Warmest thoughts for all - those mentioned and those not.
May the night bring some peaceful rest.

SweetpeaSue I do hope you and your husband have a better day today. I'd suggested to GD1 that she had a virus, advised her to drink lots, take Paracetamol, etc. That's all the hospital told her to do (and they must see hundreds of people like it at this time of year). Mum was trying to score Brownie points (GD1 lives with Dad, my Son1).

Wyllow3 Please do talk to a GP. In the meantime, I expect you've tried more natural ways to get your bowels moving - coffee, liquorice, sugar-free chewing gum (anything sugar-free with Sorbitol), walking about (even in the house), hot water bottle?

Just did an online form to the GP, asked for an inhaler. Got a text 2 minutes later saying they'd made me a face-to-face appointment for 10.20. NHS working well in this instance. Back later x

I was sorry to read of your night, HVDY. Not sleeping till 5am is horrible. Glad you had a little pampering. I hope you get a new inhaler asap. Littlegirl is an unfussy eater which is great. Five hours in causally - ouch!

I hope your 2 week wait passes quickly, Scaredycat. Wanted so much! Well done for getting the walk and nice to see the hairdresser. (I never look in the mirror!)

It seems like there aren’t many [laces left to look in, Doodle. Aw, really upsetting to lose it, yes do get another. You’ll b glad when things all start up again.

I’m glad to see you in some more today, Sweetpeasue.Hugs for having hd a bad time. You’ve had to try so hard to get reports and appointments. I hope the test results do get there in time. Of course it’s on your mind as it’s all so uncertain and going on for so long.
Its a good idea to go in and share concerns with your GP, I think.

So nice to have son over to help out, Lucyd That little dog sounds just the ticket for cuddles.

My tummy problem no further on. Just ate very little. Yes I will try and make myself ring my docsis tomorrow. Being an ostrich. I do find it hard to drink a lot as it is painful to be so full. and of course I know I should walk. Tomorrow is my cleaner very early which I find difficult rushing first thing but couldn't do without her. (fortnightly)

Doodle Thankyou. So glad your DHs tree survived those winds. That's wonderful. You are right about NHS dysfunctional. Mostly no fault of nursing staff I'm thinking. DH has app on his phone and I notice he gets feedback from appts . GP records our feelings. I noticed he recorded we didn't believe DH had COPD. He's a v young GP and not a lot of experience but only one we can make a FTF appointment with.
Understood about recording appts and what we consider bullet points. You are so helpful.
LucyD My son and DiL have a little dog, cockapoo, and we share it when my son is away working on rig.Its just incredible how much comfort they give. I'm so glad you can have your sons dog company at times . Best of all worlds to be able to choose when you feel able to have him/ her.
HVDY So glad your GD1 managed to get help at casualty. What an awful long wait for her though. I know these waits in A&E are so horrendous. I'm quite sure no one would put themselves through such an ordeal unless there was other help available. It's truly awful.
Have fun with Littlegirl tomorrow.

GD1 was diagnosed as having a virus.... no treatment. Surely the GP could have done that. Anyway, she had 5.5hrs at casualty amd is home now. Will see her tomorrow but we've got Little Girl 10am for a few hours first. Goodnight, all x

SweetpeaSue Got my inhaler back, but now it's empty, so I'll contact the GP tomorrow. It's no wonder you're so anxious about your husband. Things have been overlooked, not communicated, misdiagnosed and not listened to. I think it's a good idea to write (bulletproof points) notes about your husband's condition and tell the relevant medical people. The NHS is wonderful when it works well, but awful (as we know) when it's not running properly. I really do hope things improve for you and your husband soon.

ScaredyCat It always feels good to have a haircut. I wish I could blow-dry it like they do. I don't like sitting looking at the fat old boiler who stares back at me . The lighting in there isn't flattering at all.

Doodle Little Girl eats paella, chilli, fajitas, whatever they eat. Her 14 year old sister only likes chicken nuggets, jacket potatoes, pancakes, NO vegetables at all. I hope you find the heart but if you can manage to order another, perhaps you should. Enjoy your shopping trip tomorrow. Take care.

LucyD Our Son1 sorts out our broadband/computer when things go wrong. What would we do without our sons knowing about technology? What breed of dog has he got? It would be nice to have a little furry friend to cuddle up to - my Jaffa was with me all last night .

Hope ALL BDers have a relaxing evening. GD1 texted me at 3.30, she was at A&E. Her GP advised her to go there as he couldn't see her for 2 weeks but thinks she's got Laryngitis/flu. She was still there (with her mum)at 9.15. Back later x

Evening everyone. Been a gloriously sunny but cold day here. My son came across to help me sort out some wifi/ WhatsApp related issues and to check out how he is going to fix the part of the caravan that doesn't haven't the wooden "skirting" round it. Hopefully he will get back up and get it done before the snow comes. He also confirmed that the pipes under the caravan are lagged which was a relief! He brought his wee dog and we went for a walk. He said I can borrow the dog whenever I want for a "sleepover" which would be lovely as he is a very affectionate wee soul and better company than my two cuddly toys! Then drove to town and helped my friend sort out some things for the charity she supports. Felt my day had some structure and purpose and not much time to worry and stress about things.
Sweetpeasue - is there anyone who could go with you to medical appointments to support both you and your husband? Doodle suggests writing your concerns down and giving it to the doctor which is good advice as it is so easy to forget something important espwhen you are feeling stressed.
Doodle - ordering another heart is definitely the thing to do. I did think of having the inscription from the first Christmas card my late husband sent me engraved on a piece of jewellery but never did it. Now I think I will. He had beautiful handwriting.
Scaredycat - yes, I love horses but have never had one. Luckily we have a paddock and it is rented for part of the year to a young chap with ponies. Prior to moving to the caravan I would go down and see them every day. I do miss them but am hoping they will still be there when my new house is finished.
Willow- hope you are feeling better.
I am working the next three days which will fill my time. There are still a few people around the caravan park but I imagine they will all be gone in the next couple of days. Mind you, my caravan is in a sheltered spot not up in the main parts of the park so I wouldn't really see anyone even if they were here ( just comforting to think someone else is in the vicinity).
Take care everyone.

HVDY thanks yes I’ve checked the hoover bag and the bins. Cost pockets and jumpers to no avail. Just another search of my craft boxes and I will give up and order another.
Can’t imagine Little girl eating curry but I expect children eat whet they’re used to. If she enjoys it why not,
I’m sorry to hear you had trouble breathing. That’s really nasty. Could you ask your GP for another inhaler you can have as backup if the other is missing, Hope you’re ok now

Lucyd how lovely to have your son and family close by when your house is finished. To have a new build of exactly what you want must be lovely. Nice to get a walk in the beach too. I love the sea.
Wyllow well if that combination of drugs doesn’t work I don’t know what will. Hope you feel better soon. Glad you got a walk in.
NannyG4 hope it’s not too cold in Cumbria and you are enjoying your visit.
Sweetpeasue sadly no luck with my little heart, It has upset me but these things happen. Art classes and church activities staring up in a couple of weeks as is seated exercises. That will certainly help. Been to visit DH’s tree today to make sure it had survived the recent winds, looked ok which is a relief.
Scaredycat yes o was with my friend and neighbour(same person) . I don’t know what I’d do without her she’s been so good to me. We’re going to Bracknell tomorrow shopping. Then to the pantomime Sunday. We certainly know how to live it up 🤣
I hate looking in the mirror when I get my hair cut too. I don’t know who that old lady is but she certainly gets around. She was in my mirror at the hairdressers too.
Glad you had a nice walk.
Sweetpeasue so sorry you have all this worry. Of course you can’t stop thinking about it you’re worried about your DH’s health.
Hope you get an appointment for yourself too. I know I’ve said it before but it would be a good idea to write down all your concerns about your husband and what’s causing his problems and give it to the doctor. Ask for your concerns to be recorded on your husbands medical record,
They do need to take notice. nHS is so dysfunctional these days.
Take care all. Have a good nights sleep.x

Scaredycat Excellent idea - St Anthony for Doodle's lost silver heart - hadn't thought of that. Think I'll have a word too. Oh I do understand about being plonked what seems like forever in front of mirror at hairdresser! Used to leave me so depressed afterwards.
HVDY Hope you've got your inhaler back and you sleep better tonight , you must be exhausted. I'm sorry your DH's father died New Years Eve - that must have been very hard and must have affected New Year ever since.
Thanks for asking - been so hard. I feel unable to do much but rest though today's been a bit better. Couldn't sleep most of last night thinking of the mess up with DH's care. We've rang hospitals and secretary's twice before Chrisas to send test results to hand surgeon so he can give DH appt. Found out 27th no results at hand surgeon's hospital still. They couldn't make an appt with hand surgeon before appt with Vascular , and Vascular need hand surgeon's opinion so tried to get private appt with hand surgeon but still after other appt. Finally have one but it's day before Vascilar still.
Also read about heart problems caused by Large Vessel GCA that causes breathlessness so think that's possibility. I know GCA can cause problems with vasculitus and arteries . I know it's not COPD or Asthma - GP on wrong track.
Sorry - just can't stop thinking about it and am so anxious about lack of health care - I've no faith in system at all and am convinced people die needlessly.
Oh dear - I'm all over the place and think it's making my various pain and Fibro worse.
Haven't seen GP for myself for a while so prob try and get appt for myself next week and go in alone. I'll tell him again my DH doesn't have COPD or Asthma.

Sorry for going on.
Really hope you get your rest tonight HVDY.🤞

SweetpeaSue The cold air does affect my Asthma, and the wheezing was so loud! It's when I exhale. It seems to affect me mainly at night. Hope tonight will be ok. We don't go out on N.Y. eve either (we used to but all the queuing and struggling to be served in a pub doesn't appeal). DH's dad died on N.Y. Eve, 1995, which put the damper on things for quite a number of years, as you can imagine. How are you and your husband today?

Hi all
SweetPeaSue- glad you were able to visit your Son - it must have been an effort for you although you love to go. He will have been happy to see you. Hope the awful fatigue and woolly head will lift soon.
Doodle- you don’t moan or whinge but just share your feelings with us as friends do.
Well done for staying up- was it,your lovely friend who you talk about sometimes?
What a shame about your silver heart - have you had a word with St Anthony who helps find lost things?
HVDY- you are right home is home and where the heart is.
We had an outside toilet too- so cold in the winter . Your DH had an interesting house to grow up in - hide and seek must have been fun.
I love that Little Girl likes curry- she’s brilliant.
So sorry your great evening turned into such a bad night. You must have felt awful - I would have panicked! DH saw after you well though and alls well again.
Lucyd- thank you and the same to you.
Another lucky lady who lives by the sea. It must have been rough yesterday. So beautiful to see horses in the water- I love horses and both my DD and myself had our own years ago. Nice to meet someone new to chat to- chance encounters lift your spirits don’t they.
Your 2 houses sound wonderful - what a brilliant plan that was.
I would love that - I hope you will all be very happy there.
Candy- that was a great post. Ha ha another pair of lightweights- don’t know how we used to do it.
My Son won’t be here for a couple of weeks sorry if I misled anyone.I can’t wait to see him.
It must be so full of memories to visit such an emotional tie.
We never stop missing our Mum and Dad do we.
Wyllow- oh that must have been a bit of a surprise! Hope you enjoyed the walk and her company.
Poor old tum. Do you drink plenty during the day it does help
also plenty of fruit and vegetables. A daily walk really does help. Sorry if I sound preachy but all those things helped me in that dept. We need the TMI in case we can help

Today has been so cold but had a walk while DH was at gym. Could hardly move for clothes. Then this afternoon a visit to the hairdresser for a cut. DD and I have had him since he first started and he’s like an old friend. Just wish you didn’t have to sit opposite a mirror- who is that old woman sitting opposite me😩 where has the time gone? Feeling a bit old.

Love to all those mentioned and those not. Take care everyonex

Candy We are certainly lightweights when it comes to being out late , which we hardly ever need to do these days anyway. We were in bed before midnight. Although my parents died many yrs ago Christmas and New Year always seems extra poignant. I've heard that saying too - about only being as happy as your unhappiness child- so much truth in that. Thankyou for your caring and wishes for 2025. I hope they come true aswell. X

NannyG4 I hope you enjoy your break in Cumbria. The scenery there is just so beautiful. A lot of our holidays have been there - you'll need to have your thermals on I think.
Elveral Hope you can find some time for yourself in your busy life. It must be so very hard to keep all those plates spinning and to be there for everyone. When my sons were teenagers ,walking was never their thing either - that made me smile. I'm so sorry you're having to go through all this. Hope you have some good friends you can talk to aswell.
Lucyd I hope it won't be long before you're new house will be built. It must be very cold right now in the caravan . Now is definitely the time to have those fleeces up at the windows and to have your new heater. We are about a 3mile drive from a beach though we prefer to travel 5ml to the one further up. A walk often makes you feel better even if we don't feel up to it.
Doodle I hope your silver heart turns up - I can see that would be very upsetting to lose. How have you been today- I hope some of the things you go to will soon be starting up. It must be good to get the holiday out of the way though I understand the sorrow also of leaving last year behind.
Scaredycat You have such lovely posts to everyone and seem to find the right words to say. I'm so glad you will see your son this month. You'll be counting off the days. It will be a relief to you to know he has a good life in another country and to realise he is loved by a lovely wife and his pets.
Wyllow Oh I'm so sorry about your tum. No of course not tmi - you'll be concerned it's not from past bowel issues. Hope the Movicol is helpful - I hate the taste of it but it usually helps if I take it regularly.Oh I really find my oomph is running low lately too. Hope today has been better.
EllieAnne I always feel worse when one of my sons have been going through a lot. My youngest has had a lot of sorrow in his life but is in a good place right now. I can understand how worrying it must be for you when your DD is so bad with her MH condition. Hope you can see her soon to get a better understanding of how you can help or , if she prefers, not, and just be there if she needs to talk.
HVDY What an awful night for you. I wonder if the colder air affects your asthma too. It sounds really frightening, not to be able to breathe properly and to know your inhaler wasn't at hand would make you extra anxious. Hope you can re- schedule the .meeting with your friend.

Try to come in later. Love and thoughts to Nadateturbe, Allsorts , Whiff and so sorry to have left anyone out.

LucyD Another one who lives near a beach - how lovely. I expect it gets very busy in summer but seeing someone on a horse there. It's nice that you had the company of a couple of friends when you got back. Seven months is quite a long time to wait, but it'll all be great when it's completed. Your son and his family are lucky to be able to live in your existing house. I bet they really appreciate that.

Candy6 Like you, my parents died many years ago - Mum 1995, Dad 2000, but my brother lives in what was their house (he took a mortgage on it when they were alive so it's actually his house), the one I lived in from aged 11 to 20.

Wyllow3 I imagine the problems you had previously with your bowels (operations) have left you with lasting troubles. Best to get medical advice. Hope you can pluck up the courage to do that soon.

I had a terrible night - after getting home from a very enjoyable evening at Son2's, I realised I'd mistakenly left my inhaler at his (it was too late to go and get it). I was wheezing and coughing all night, didn't get to sleep until 5am! Got up at 8, fed Jaffa, texted my friend to say I wouldn't be meeting as planned (shame as it's a lovely day) and went back to bed. DH bought me cereal, coffee and tablets at 10. Perfectly ok now, anyway. Hope ALL BDers manage to have a decent day x

❤️ all. I've read all the lovely long caring posts but cant find any ommf to reply properly tonight. I had a surprise today as I thought my carer was tomorrow but she came at 11am and I rushed to get dressed and out for a walk.
Having real tum probs. Last night took 4 dulcolax and today 3 movicol and really very little, also I get acid reflux. It's all the meds I take.
If I cant sort something I will have to get medical help which I find difficult/scary. (I've had 3 bowel operations in the past so there are other factors)

What a post to have here lots of TMI - bear with!

Best nights all xx

Evening all
Tried to get in yesterday but was busy with my DS going back home after Christmas and then spent the evening with DD. We were back home by 10. Lightweights!
Ellie Anne sorry to hear your DD is unwell. If she’s taking medication then perhaps it’s the case that this takes a while to kick in and she will feel better once it does? At least she’s sensible and seen her GP but it must be a worry for you. I’ve spent years worrying about my DS and still do. Isn’t there as saying that goes “you’re only ever as happy as your unhappiest child”? Something like that anyway. I hope she feels better soon and you are able to spend some quality time together.
Doodle I hope yesterday wasn’t too difficult for you. An emotional few weeks for you I’m sure. Don’t apologise for venting on here, you are not moaning, just releasing your difficult thoughts and emotions in a safe, caring place and you must continue to do so whenever you feel the need. I’m so sorry about the loss of your silver heart. You never know it may turn up. If you’re on Facebook, or know someone who is, ask them to post on a local community forum and enquire if anyone has found it. I see posts like that all the time on mine. You never know, it’s worth a try. Good luck.
Elveral glad the get together was ok for you. I understand how it can be difficult for you to get some “me” time but could you get out daily for a half hour walk? I’ve mentioned on here how much I love my walks as it’s a time for me to enjoy. It may not be your thing but for me it’s a priority and I make it part of my daily routine. I’m better with a plan for the day too. I like routine and am glad now the festivities are over and things will get back to normal.
Scaredycat lovely post. I hope you have enjoyed special time with your son. Although it must be comforting for you that he has a good life now, it must still be difficult for you. I understand. Enjoy your special time together ❤️.
Lucyd how exciting for you! A new house being built! I’d love that. I can imagine how difficult it is living in your caravan but I’m sure it’ll all be worth it. So gracious of you to let your son live in your house too, I’m sure he appreciates it very much. Lovely to live by the sea too. I don’t but have a holiday caravan a little over an hour away. I love the sea, so calming. Lovely you saw the horse too. I sometimes see them from my caravan. Such a lovely thing to see.
HVDY nice pub lunch for you and poignant for DH. I drove past the house I was born in on Christmas Day - I’d been to visit my Mum and Dad’s grave which is in the next village to where I was born. It made emotional. Sounds like LittleGirl had a lovely Christmas too. Special times. Your own family home sounds pretty much like mine. We weren’t well off but had lots of love. My Mum died nearly thirty years ago and my Dad nearly 20. I still miss them. Lovely meal at your son’s. I love curry. We had pizza from our local co-op while we watched Vera. Very pleasant especially not having to cook.
wyllow hope your tum is better today. That’s the problem with ready meals as you don’t know what ingredients are in them which may upset you. Perhaps just stick to those you know. I’d not heard of Baldacci either but it’s good to find an author you like and you know you’re going to enjoy their books. I hope today has been better for you.
Whiff nice post as usual. You’re very organised and have some nice things to look forward to in 2025.
NannyG4 nice you got to spend the evening with friends. I hope it wasn’t too difficult for you. Enjoy your time with your family. I’m sure the break will do you good.
Nadaterturbe* hope you have enjoyed your time with your family and you are feeling more energised now. I’m sure it will have done you the world of good just seeing them. Sending ❤️
Sweetpeasue I hope you are feeling better now. You are always under so much pressure with your own and DH’s medical problems. Thinking of you and sending ❤️. Take care and I hope 2025 brings you some much needed answers.

Night all. Wishing everyone a peaceful night xx

Wishing everyone all the very best for 2025. You are a wonderful bunch of ladies and I so look forward to reading your posts and picturing what you have been up to.
I was tucked up in bed well before the bells but am not good at getting to sleep ( brain just keeps churning round) so I did hear some fireworks go off at midnight. Went a walk down to the beach today, only about 10 mins away but only the second time I have been as am usually at work or it is raining! Was delighted when a girl came down on her lovely pony and they have a trot in the waves (am a total animal over). Also had a lovely chat with the girl's Mum which was nice. Then, unexpectedly, two friends turned up and we spent the afternoon chatting. My son is coming up tomorrow to fix some wooden "skirting" to one end of the caravan to protect the underside and then I am off to help a friend to some RNLI stuff. If I have something planned I feel a lot more positive and I know I will need that this month as it a month of birthdays and anniversaries for my late husband and late Dad.
Howverydareyou2 - the house will be another 7 months but I
cannot say progress has been very speedy so far! I will be tempted to move in even while the builders are still there!
Scaredycat- the house is for me. I wanted something on one level (planning ahead) and bought a farmhouse with a derelict cottage/barn that is being converted for me. My son and his family are now in the house which they love ( I never loved it but it is an ideal family house). I just hope hope they will be good neighbours! As a precaution all my windows face away from them!
Doodle - I am glad you got your haircut and can now see where you are going. I must admit I tend to trim my fringe with the manicure scissors! I am very short sighted and have to take my glasses off when I am cutting it ... I am keeping my fingers crossed your missing silver heart turns up.
NannyG4 - I hope you have a lovely time in Cumbria. I could see the lights from across in Silloth from the headland this afternoon as am on the other side of the Solway.
Take care everyone.x

Scaredycat My husband remembers the house. It was a 5 bedroomed place. At one time, they had a couple of lodgers there, Mormons. He had a very different upbringing to mine - my parents rented a 2-up, 2-down house, no bathroom or indoor toilet, no garden, etc. It was still home though. I hope you've had a good day today, whatever you've been doing.

Doodle I hope the part of the bracelet turns up. Could it have been vacuumed up? A quick rummage of the hoover bag might be an idea.

SweetpeaSue Do you feel unwell? Perhaps you're coming down with something? Hope you have a good sleep tonight.

Went to Son2's for dinner, he'd cooked 2 different types of curry, which we all love - Even LittleGirl likes curry . She's 18 months old now. That time has gone by quickly. Hope ALL BDers have a restful night x

Wyllow3 What a shame those meals didn't agree with you. What will you do about food now?

Whiff That's great that you've booked a holiday. Where are you going? The concert - is it one musician/singer? I used to love going to live concerts. The last one was Paloma Faith, a good few years ago.

EllieAnne It's rained just about every minute of the day here. Being able to go to a beach must be so good.

Elvera1 Glad last night went ok for you. You've got a lot to keep you busy. Hope your mum feels better soon.

NannyG4 You've got quite a week, by the sound of it. Hope the Cumbria break is nice.

Whiff thank you for your nice message. How lovely to hear of all your plans. Things are looking better for you which is good.
Ellie Anne I do hope your daughter has some help with her MH problems. I’m sure you don’t mean to annoy her and at some level she must know that you care for her. Depression makes people too exhausted to be bothered a lot of the time and that’s how she might feel. All you can do is tell her that you care for her and will be there is ever she wants to talk.
It’s hard to stand by though.
Elveral I think you can get family membership for the NT. 2 adults and 2 Children. You have a lot to do with your family and businesses. Just don’t forget you need time yourself to grieve. You’re doing so well.
NannyG4 glad you’re getting away for a few days. That will be nice also to see your mum and your sister.
Christmas and new year is a struggle for all those bereaved but it’s done now and we need to try and settle into doing things to keep us distracted, hope you have a good trip.
Wyllow sorry your meal didn’t agree with you. You could try taking a Movicol every day till you get into some sort of regular habit. Haircuts good thanks easier to manage.
Scaredycat I don’t blame you for not staying up. I was very tired last night but was with a friend so couldn’t leave till we’d seen the new year in. Thank you for your very kind and undeserved message. I feel I’ve done nothing but moan since DH died. You must all have been fed up with my whinging but have been so kind and Supportive to me.
Sweetpeasue you sound a bit like I feel at the moment. Not with it at all. Lovely message though.
Thank you all for your good wishes. Happy new year to you all. I’ve managed to get through it but here I am moaning again. Bad start to the new year, I’ve lost a silver heart from my bracelet. Really upset me. Don’t know where or when. Searched high and low but can’t be found. It wasn’t one DH bought me but one I had made with his writing on.
Hope the new year brings answers and help for all those with health problems and peace and support for all with MH problems.

Just wanted to wish everyone a happy new year and to say I've read all your posts. So much caring from you all to each other and support.
Seem unable to overcome the extreme fatigue and cotton wool thinking.
Was able to visit son just for an hour today but unable to 'be there' properly.

Thankyou for caring words and wishing all who are lonely and and in pain a much better year and strength to keep going. You are all wonderful people.x

Hi all
HVDY- that pub sounds interesting - can your DH remember his time living next door?
Those little kitchens are so nice for little girls to play with aren’t they- my DD girls all loved theirs. Funny though none of them are that fond of cooking now!! But my GGD loves to bake and is really good.
You have done so well with Jaffa he sounds such a happy boy.
We didn’t stay up last night- such lightweights now😩
Wishing you and your family a very Happy New Year.
Wyllow- what a pity that meal didn’t agree with you - try something else next time. It’s trial and error isn’t it after not varying you food for a while. You need to take Movicol daily to really help - you can take it for a long while .
I think our life experiences affect our MH very much but the relentlessness of an unhappy mind is so very hard to overcome and medication helps us cope. But you do so well Wyllow and persevere with courage. I really hope this New Year will bring some light into your life so our old Wyllow can be with us again.
Doodle- the biggest New Year hug coming your way. You have been an inspiration to us all and you are such a good friend for everyone.
Whiff- Happy New Year to you too. You are another example of dealing with what life has thrown at you and making the most of it. Such lovely plans for this year . Glad you had a good Christmas too.
EllieAnne- your DD must use a lot of her energy just to get through her working days. Maybe she just needs to have quiet at home. I don’t think you annoy her - she’s tired and struggling to cope. Just knowing you are there and you love her will be a comfort for her.
Be careful on the Beach today the wind and rain here has been mad. Hope the New Year brings New Hope for you.
Elveral- you managed to get through last evening very well.
Companiable Mum and Daughter time. I,m sorry your Mum is not well that’s an added stress for you . Your employees must so appreciate your kind caring attitude when they must know how difficult it is for you at the moment. Do try and take a rest when you can.
NT membership is very reasonable and so is English Heritage. Nice that your Mum could join in too.
May the New Year bring you and your girls some better times.
SweetPeaSue- wishing you a Year when your troubles lessen and you and your DH start to enjoy better health. Hope you’re having a good rest and getting your strength back a bit.
NannyG4- thank you a peaceful year is what we all need isn’t it. Nice to have your quiet corner but hopefully as this year progresses you can venture out into the world more.
It,ll be lovely in Cumbria with your Sister and Mum - beautiful scenery with those you love. A wonderful start to your year.

Best Wishes to you all and whatever you,ve done on this day which for many can feel too much to contemplate I hope you all experience some light in your lives in the months to come

Hi NannyG4,
Good to hear from you. I too, never thought I would’ve on my own, I’m only early 50s, it’s just so hard to take isn’t it.
Keeping busy is good isn’t it. I took our decorations down today.
I spoke to my mum and other family too as well as picking eldest daughter up.
I feel better if I’ve got a plan for the day, even if it’s only one thing.
Glad you had some company last night.
Hope you’ve got some nice friends at Church.
A break away and change of scenery sounds good, Cumbrias lovely isn’t it, been there a few times. I love walking up there, will you be doing any walking? When we went away recently it felt strange going away without DH, but I’m so glad we did it, it was lovely to get out of the house.
Take care