Please tell me that having a 1st grandchild due shortly will take my focus away from.my general anxiety.

You need to go back to your doctor. Also please try joining the Black Dog Gang on GN - lots of support and understanding for people with depression and anxiety. People who understand and don’t judge.

It’s trying to find the right help. I do appreciate all your posts.

You may need a higher dose or a different type. I’m on them too and the type dosage have changed over the years.

I am already on antidepressants.

Well said Serendipity. I completely agree.

I've just become a step-great-grandmother, and already worried about the state of the world ahead for this little one.
But we have to keep things in proportion and not let it ruin everyday life for us, or for them.
I do hope you are starting to feel better now, and if not then seek help.

It is too much to put onto a baby the responsibility of keeping you free of anxiety, even if you are not actually telling them that you hope that will succeed. In time he/she will feel guilty about doing or being anything that might cause you stress and make you anxious again, and that could start him/her on course to become anxious themselves.

Fix your own problems for yourself (with help) and just enjoy the little mite when he/she arrives. It won't be a sudden recovery, but wanting to be more relaxed with your grandchild will encourage you to work towards it. Good wishes.

Without sounding awful, you need to need to focus on the anxiety rather than your new GC. I have anxiety and sought help the moment it started.

In my view, hoping to throw yourself into something ( in this instance, your new GC ) is only similar to 'putting a plaster over the problem to hide it', you need to address it face on.

Wishing all the very best. X

You may also need medication. Talking therapy doesn’t work for everyone.

Thanks for all your posts. I am already seeing my gp and having talking therapy but still lots of ongoing anxiety which won’t go away anytime soon.

My GC range in age from 19 down to a 4 year old , I love them dearly. However I do worry about them and want life to be kind to them . GC are a delight but with that comes a level of worry ! Please please see your GP , take the help that is offered , that will support you in your goal to be a wonderful GM . Good luck and congratulations!

I do hope you are able to overcome this and enjoy your new little baby grandchild.
I am certain this baby will bring so much joy to your life, as any grandparent will tell you, so it would be such a shame if your anxiety stops you getting the most out of this wonderful stage of your life.
Yes of course you will worry when the little one is unwell, just as we all did with our own children, but as others have said, the baby is the parents’ responsibility, so that should help a bit with any anxious thoughts.
It really is the best feeling ever, to see your own child holding their child.

The new baby will distract you, but you will have one more little person to worry about.
I am a worrier as well - a headache is a ‘tumour’, an itchy skin is ‘skin cancer’ - so I understand.
But if its really interfering with your life, you need to see your GP.
Congratulations grandma-to-be !.

As someone with severe anxiety... Get help for you, there are lots of ways to cope with anxiety. Putting that on other people, especially a baby wont help you or them.

Fix this for you so you can reach your full potential

My son and daughter are parents and I worry about them still as much as I worry about the lovely grandchildren. We wouldn't be human if we didn't but anxiety is a different thing. I reiterate please speak to someone about it.

the solution for your own issues is yourself and what you can do about it with the help of others

A baby won't help your anxiety, may make it worsr

Unfortunately if you are an overanxious person you will just become anxious about the baby if it cries too much, holds it’s breathe, doesn’t feel well, falls over (when bigger of course)a 101 different things
Deal with your anxiety separately and hopefully be able to handle the many anxieties that come with a new baby

I worry about my GC all the time,worries ,in my case expand to include each one as they arrive .They dont get easier as they grow up either

No, a baby is not xanax that will fix your anxiety issue.
Babies are not born with a job

Please go to your GP to get it addressed and drop your unrealistic expectations for thi baby

Its great news that first grandchild will soon appear and I hope that you are receiving some help with your own anxiety separately from this.
Grandchildren are great source of joy but also another worry about their welfare and their development. Its natural for grandparents to worry but if you are anxious anyway it would be good to make sure this doesn't get out of control. As others have said if you are not already having some support then please see you GP (if you can) and get some. If you cannot get help by this route their are a number of charities that can offer advice and support.

Do you know the reason why you are anxious is it just age maybe? You need to speak to someone about your anxiety. The sooner the better and it will improve your mood. It will brighten your life having a first grandchild.

Congratulations. I think it may help. I suffer from general anxiety. It's horrible. I hope you feel better.

The first grandchild is very special and I do hope he brings you great happiness. But you can't depend on him for that.
Others above have given good advice.
I'm sorry about your anxiety and hope you get treatment for it.

silverlining48

I understand as I am a worrier but you need to focus on your anxiety because though small people bring joy they also add to anxiety.
Just heard my gs is unwell today, plans have had to change and will be glad to know when he is better.
Congratulations and good wishes

As above. Good advice here, focus on your anxiety.

It may be that the arrival of the baby will help to give you a different focus but from my experience the new baby could bring new anxieties. As others have said a word with the GP to start with might be a good idea. As you don't really tell us much it is difficult to judge how outside "normal" your worry is. The lockdown has left lots of us with general anxiety.