Hand hold from me too. Sound advice about not involving SS, they are overworked and will just tell you to fund it yourself anyway, the days of local authority funded home helps are well gone! Ask around neighbours would be my advice, that is what we did when looking for care for my late DM, we found an excellent company who employed lovely staff, paid them well, visits minimum of 30 minutes, none of this 15 minute box ticking nonsense. One tip; so many older people are very set in their ways and their meal times, if you can go outside these times ( 12-1.30 lunch, 5-6 evening meal) you will find they can fit you in more quickly. If you need any more help, please ask!