Do you worry about your health?

If you are suffering from anxiety your doctor can prescribe medication to give you back your life. Do confide in them Kate I hope you get help.

I am like your b-i-l Esspee. It's a complete nightmare to be honest.

Worry is like riding a rocking horse, where does it get you?
But I know it's hard to switch it off sometimes.
I do have various niggles about my health, which is fairly normal at 83, but I try not to let the future spoil the present. There is just no point..
I do hope you can find a way of dealing with this as it's making you unhappy. 63 is comparitively young. Perhaps allow yourself ten minutes every morning to worry and then
determinedly switch it off for the rest of the day and just get on with living. Good luck and best wishes.

I'm 72. I take care of myself but I don't worry about my health at all. I've had two episodes of cancer ( ovary and breast) and in both cases I trusted my doctors and was fortunate to come through with a good recovery and no relapse.

I do all the right things with diet and exercise, get all the screening tests that are available, and I test my BP and blood sugar once a month with my home equipment -- diabetes is in my family so I like to keep a check on it.

Life is too short to be stressing about every little thing - my advice is to enjoy every day that is given to us. Take reasonable care, but otherwise put your health status on the back burner of life .

I have a b-i-l who has spent his life worrying about his health. It saddens me that he has lost so much time which could have been spent enjoying life.

I’m more like Maggiemaybe, I always assume whatever the problem is , it will eventually go away
Of course I realise that one day it won’t, and I’ll have to deal with that when it happens.
I have the odd ache and pain, but I just put it down to an ageing body.

Maggie I have been ill since I was 29. Went to bed normal woke up unable to control my limbs. I am now 63. Because of my darling husband we had a normal family life. I assumed I would die first. Unfortunately he got cancer and died 17 years ago aged 47.

I take every new illness in my stride as there is nothing I can do about it. So why worry . Last year at the age of 62 found out I was born with a heart defect. It made me laugh in my lifetime I have had 5 operations under a general. Last one lasted over 4 hours and had to have 4 bags of blood. All with a dodgy heart. So every new illness annoys me but don't make a big deal about it. I could have popped my clogs years ago.

My late husband made me promise to live the best life I can and I do. Life is to short for what ifs. Don't worry about what could happen enjoy the now.

There are only 2 certainties in life we are born and we die. The rest is up to us.

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I too have various health worries, and have had for years, involving medication and regular hospital visits
but try to keep things to myself as much as possible,the main reason is I have a friend who ‘enjoys ill health’ and loves to tell you, it gets to the stage that I never say how are you today! Mean I know but sometimes it’s better not to know. On the other hand sometimes there is nothing else to talk about!. I really think it’s a hobby with some people??On the odd occasion I’ve tried to put in my two pennyworth it falls on deaf ears. SoMaggie you are between a rock and a hard place, just do the best you can with what you’ve got. x

Calendergirl
I am pleased you are not my friend. You certainly do not understand this horrible anxiety. If you did you would not be so quick to hand out your advice.
I don’t think for one minute the anyone with HA takes appointments of people that need them..

I think that many people just hope for the best as far as their health goes. It’s the unknown for most of us isn’t it. For the last 3 years I’ve been on a whole foods plant based diet and also get some exercise every day. As we age things do change for us so it’s up to us to educate ourselves and do our best to look after ourselves. I read lots now about health,partly because I’m fascinated by it. I feel great since this new lifestyle and I’ve lost weight too. PM me if you would like any tips but anyway this has definitely helped me. I’m 70 and take no medication.

I have thought for some time that when you are young and you get an ache or pain you immediately think “What have I done!” Whereas when you grew older this changes to “What have I got.” I believed that getting older I would be just the same, but a bit slower. How wrong could you be!

No I don't worry about my health, it is what it is. I was fit as a flea until I hit 58, then I had the first of 3 strokes which eventually led to the diagnosis of my auto immune condition which had caused the stroke. I was put on blood thinners with an ever increasing Inr but that didn't prevent two further strokes or a massive bleed into my pelvis caused by the warfarin. The auto immune condition has caused my ever increasing disability and I just take each issue as it comes. I refuse to let it take over my life. My life has become more limited and restricted by my disability but my disability doesn't define me, it's become a part of me but that's all it is just a part of me. I'm still me and I still have all the same dreams and wishes even if I am in constant sodding pain. No I don't worry about my health I refuse to waste time on things I can't change.

Shropshirelass
“What will happen, happens, we just have to get on and deal with it.”
Well said Shropshirelass there is no other way.

As my dear father always said, life happens and you have to deal with it. Just do it. I have had to deal with a lot in my life, not with my own health, that fortunately is very good (I have strong genes!). I looked after my first husband when he had cancer and passed away at the age of 40. A very close friend had a stroke two years ago at the age of 62. Many other things have happened round me and it has made me worry less and to make the most of each day. What will happen, happens, we just have to get on and deal with it.

MaggieTulliver To manage health concerns, I largely ignore them, Covid situation means shelving them anyway and I cope with being older (73) by doing exactly as I want! So try and really enjoy yourself, doing the things you love.
A friend once told me to take the word ‘should’ out of my vocabulary, so apart from the things I can’t get out of, I’m a hedonist! (When Covid allows me...)
If you have lost your faith, which I assume you mean organised religion, you are probably spiritual in some way, most people are. You can have a faith in humanity, your children’s lives, if you have them etc.
Classical music brings out my spirituality.

Everything that lives, dies. There is nothing you can do about it. Oddly enough I find the belief that the end is the end more reassuring than believing in an after life.

I think that’s probably what’s at the heart of my health anxiety hollysteers, a fear of death. I often look at my happy go lucky little dog, who at age 13 can’t have many years left but who has the same love of life day after day. I wish I could learn from him. You’re right about acceptance and I would find it easier to accept the reality of death if I had a faith but I lost it a long time ago.

As a young woman, I used to wonder how we all live with the certain knowledge of death without going crazy, unlike animals.
Now, after life threatening illnesses I strangely have no thoughts in this regard. Acceptance helps so much.

I worry about my hubby`s health. This is because I have chronic MS and he is my main carer.

If anything happened to him, God knows what will happen to me.

There was a man on TV a couple of weeks ago who was 88. He hasn't visited a doctor since 1950. He is in good health. He doesn't smoke, drink, he eats what he called 'plain' food - roast dinners etc. He exercises daily. He realises he's been lucky.

I worry about my health, but I was born with a heart condition that was misdiagnosed by GP's and in the end had to undergo an ablation. I think when you have suffered a life changing illness it is natural to worry.

M0nica
“Concentrate on the things you can do in life to support staying healthy and well and stop worrying about things you can do nothing about.”
That’s about it M0nica!