OH has fractured femur - not a good situation

Lucky I was thinking about you earlier and am sorry now to read your latest updates. I cannot offer any advice but just wanted to send you hugs and . Take care of yourself.

I agree with maw and also send you lots of love and hugs.

I wish we could do something to help.

Can it not be argued that DH's primary level of care is a health need and therefore paid for by SSD?

I am sure I remember he developed pressure sores and that is nursing care would you not agree?

It is a nightmare for you.

It's so awful, Luckygirl, I really feel for you. When DD was having hallucinations due to toxins building up in her system, the need to go to the loo increased and as she insisted on walking, I had to juggle the drain bag, drip (sometimes) and syringe driver. This would sometimes go on all night so by the time she agreed to go into the hospice I was exhausted.

They're not themselves but no matter how often you tell yourself that, you just want it to be over no matter how much you love them

Thinking of you every day.

I'm also thinking of you and sending kindest thoughts

Oh Luckygirl ??? and heartfelt good wishes.

Might it be worth getting in touch with either or both of these charities to see if you could get some help with the cost of Carers and general support? doctorshelp.co.uk and the Royal Medical Benevolent Fund. Thinking of you and hoping you have a quieter night.

Thank you for that chloesgranny - I tried the Med Benevolent Fund and they only deal with practising doctors still on the GMC register. I will take a look at the other link.

I’ve no words to help lucky but do think of you often and as ever hope that there is help for you both. Sending love.

No advice Lucky but still thinking of you. ?

Thinking about you Lucky sorry I can’t help.

I am so sorry to read how things have deteriorated xxx

lucky, I am so sad reading how things are going for you at the moment. I can’t imagine how you are still managing to cope with such an awful situation. Thinking of you

I just feel like giving up here. Just been to GP to get results of right knee MRI and I have a fracture of base of femur in the knee joint + inflammation + osteoporosis + arthritis. I ask myself did I need this just now on top of everything else? No wonder I am in such pain. If I finish up not being able to drive I might throw in the towel.

Oh dear, Luckygirl that must be the final straw. You simply cannot struggle on like this. Is this an old fracture which has re-set wrongly and what does the GP recommend?
As the saying goes 'put on your own oxygen mask before you help someone else'.

Just a gentle hug lucky, I'm lost for words and so sorry for your situation. Hope the GP washable to offer intervention options as of course he/she understands your situation well.

Surely this is is the last straw? How can you possibly be expected to carry on as you are? What would happen if you just gave up? This must be an emergency! Where are your daughters? Where's the SWD? What's the GP going to do about the situation?

And what treatment has the GP suggested for your knee? Also, is there not some sort or sedation that your husband could have?

oh my- not been on GN due to visitors and OH in hospital again - I am so sorry to hear that.

Yes, you need a meeting with daughters and GP and care team - you can't go on like this. Hugs xxx

How are things luckygirl?

Lucky - I'm so sorry that life is so difficult for you just now.

This is shocking, Luckygirl. I'd like to say it's unbelievable but having just gone through the experience of my sister's illness and death from brain cancer, I am not surprised. There was nowhere to turn. It's as if once the NHS has decided you can't be cured, you're an embarrassment to them and they want you off their books.

My sister spent her last weeks worrying that she would live longer than six weeks and have to find the money for her own care. It's inhumane.

I'm so sorry you now have more concerns about your own health, too. I wish I could do something to help.

I've only just caught up lucky. Can your dh go back to the hospice while your leg is sorted out.

A discussion with your daughters sounds in order. It is probably impracticable for them to give you much in the way of help but a bit of brainstorming wouldn't go amiss!

((((hugs))))

Oh heck, Luckygirl You must dread what each day might bring.

Hopefully, there will be a glimmer of light at the end of the tunnel soon.

It may be impracticable but this is their parents in a time of dire need. Sorry to sound harsh but it's time for those girls to get going and help them in whatever way they can.