Prostatitis

Yes. Well, I'm not sure it's 'chronically' exactly.

Id be really grateful to hear anyone’s experiences/ advice. Husband has had flare ups since we met approx 20 years ago. In itself it’s not worse now but despite countless med visits/ consultant etc no one seems to be able to help. It now flares up each time we have sex with obvious result that he hardly wants to at all, despite us having a good relationship in every other way.

Can anyone tell me what the symptoms are? My partner seems to be having pain/uti's but hasn't yet seen a doctor...#bitworried.

The Prostate cancer people have the most info but it’s NOT cancer so dont get spooked by that- it’s just they do a leaflet that goes into great detail.
I am new to gransnet but surprised not to have more replies- it’s meant to be very common...

I think I have it, but probably like most husbands/partners am reluctant to discuss it in any great detail with my wife, so they may be in the dark. The symptoms are similar to prostate cancer, e.g. needing to pee frequently, sometimes uncomfortably. I have had two blood tests in the last 10 months so it's not cancer. I just live with it as it's not getting any worse, although I should see my GP at some stage again. btw I've had it on and off through the years, usually brought on by stress, the latest onset when I was retiring last year.

I've had prostatitis or enlarged prostate for a few years,symptoms were struggle to pee loss of libido etc,last April my urethra closed up leading to retention and lots of pain, so I had a catheter put in.so since then I've had biopsies and tests to be sure there was no cancer, anyway this Jan I had an operation called Holep laser surgery, basically hollowed out the prostate, 3 days in hospital, I'm a new man ! I pee like a youth and my libido is coming back.
So an enlarged prostate isn't cancer but does affect your life and is treatable, get your husbands tested, first step is a psa blood test.

Have you tried tamsulosin it can help relax the prostate

Thanks Tommy16 and RD001 but we are miles down the road than that.. he’s been on Tamsulosin & cymbalta for years for it. Has a PSA test every year & an exam. Has been to the consultant numerous times/ done Pilates etc.
I suppose the fact that the libido is affected more these days is partly age as it wasnt an issue before? Or is it an indicator of another problem? He does get a lot of urethral pain now?

My prostate was very big ,and as I'm 66 thought losing libido was maybe down to age but I don't have any other health issues and I'm quite fit and still working, doctors were non committal on the libido side of it but I had the laser operation at the end of January ,the results have been brilliant after 7 weeks I'm returning to my old self a d my wife is pleased with me as well!
It took a lot of consultations with the hospital to eventually get referred but it was totally worth it. I'm happier and my self confidence is coming back.
In my experience the struggle to pee and the pain alongside the loss of one's desires drags a man down,I'd highly recommend looking at the op , if not NHS it costs about £6 k privately

Mm thanks. Glad it helped you. Tbh though his prostate always appears normal as are the PSA tests. Im really not sure even after all this time that they really know it’s prostatitis- it seems far more bladder related.
Hes having another scan soon & am just hoping we get somewhere..

I've had the best news this week- OH was diagnosed with the big C in September after 2 cystoscopies- but recent MRI and biopsies show he is all clear. It has been very worrying and stressful, especially as we thought we would lose reciprocal health care just when we needed it.

Don't believe in miracles- but will take this one without hesitation. What a relief.

jura, dh had a bladder tumour removed about a month ago. He also has a small tumour on the prostate. So, we have been going down the bloodtests, biopsies, scans etc route too. We are still going to the hospital on an almost weekly basis. It is soooooo stressful but the NHS have been wonderful!

So sorry to hear kitty- so we've been going through this at the same time. We were expecting invasive treatment and possible chemo and radiotherapy- but he seems to be clear now. No idea how and why as the diagnosis in September was clear- but what a relief.

Hope all goes well for your OH and that will be the end of it. So glad to hear the NHS has been great- as we hear such awful stories (like poor Lucky at the moment).

Unfortunately DH's problems turned out to be cancer and has now started eight weeks of daily radiotherapy.

I am so sorry to hear this harrigan- hope the treatment will not be too stressful and will bring great results and relief for you and family.

Re my post above, diagnosis in September was 'clear' as in c cells clearly present. There seems to be none currently- somehow.

The NHS is generally working well jura, I think. We have had a few experiences lately across the whole family and have few complaints.

There do see to be issues with some hospital stays though. Hopefully things will improve.