Husbands and healthy food.

Oh dear Shizam that's hard on you. I wonder why we're supposed to feel sympathy for people like that? Good on you for speaking the truth.

Same here. Had heart attack, stents, gall bladder out, type2 diabetic. Still gorges on cakes, white bread, pork chops, fattier the better. Oh and smokes like a chimney. So glad he's away for a month now. But also feel he is a selfish lard-arse who could actually try a bit better to stay alive for his kids. For me, I'm not so bothered...

djen I agree

My BF always ate healthily, her DH not at all, never a vegetable if he could help it, guess who died in her 60s?
And, when you get to a certain age, why not eat what you want anyway.
Who knows what tomorrow may bring.

My husband was diabetic type 1 from when he was 11 years old.
All the time we were married we ate healthily. We became vegetarian over 40 years ago, ate far more than our five a day, mostly organic. At the diabetic clinic he was always held up as an example to others by the doctors. Cholesterol was always low, blood pressure perfect.
He died of a brain tumour when he was 65. Nothing to do with lifestyle.
Let them eat what they want, I say.

My DH will eat anything I cook. So mainly (fairly) healthy and always home made. I can count on one hand the amount of fry ups we have ever eaten although I suspect DH has one on the odd occasion when he is working away from home. He could eat "two tatties more than a pig" and still never put an ounce of weight on. Grrrrr. He thinks nothing of finishing a meal and then hunting around for the DGC's chocolate bars and could polish a huge bar of Cadburys Dairy Milk off in one sitting.

I think I've seen goldengirl posting on some other threads too (I think!)

I suspect that the post on Sun 19-Mar-17 10:55:55 was advertising. Or has anyone seen that poster around elsewhere? If so, sorry.

My OH seems that he CBA to cook for himself if I am out or doing a 5:2 fast day. He will open a tin of soup. He is so unresponsive to sensible comment on his diet. I have stopped bothering. He gets fads about what he eats and lies to himself about it.
God knows what he will be eating when I am away next week. There is plenty of food in the house and freezer. He knows where the shops are.
The Aspergers bit tends to mean he has trouble stopping what he is engrossed in to get a meal in the time before he has to go out. For me it's CBA NMP.

Elegran

A food diary is a good idea - I like that one. Though it could not include anything scoffed in secret!

Keeping a food diary together for a month may offer a reality check about what/how much is really being consumed. Might be worth a try.

Too late now, I ate it!

My DH is 77 now and has been eating a high-fat diet all his life. We now do our own cooking (I'm a veggie and he's a meat fiend) so it's up to him what he eats. Bread and butter looks more like butter and bread and the frying pan can be out twice a day.

Some years ago I wrote to the Guardian personal page and asked whether I should be doing anything about it. The best response (I thought) was the advice to me, "Get a life".

Not sure about the cheese scone Jamina - too many carbs!

I'm with Anya on this one. I also suspect that the whole 'let's all lower our cholesterol' thing is probably based on the flimsiest of evidence and jumped on by all the producers of cholesterol lowering foods. Profit is usually at the bottom of most of these campaigns.

And thanks Anya - I had a cheese scone with butter and a latte in M&S (I need the calcium )

Thanks MargaretX that has cheered me up no end!

Now, I must go and ask DH what he had for lunch today whilst I was out

Nothing wrong with butter and cheese.

I think that at the end of the day they're adults and we shouldn't be treating them like children,My OH was put on statins after his heart attack,he had awful side effects and his GP changed the brand...still no help with the muscle pain ,fatigue and mulytiple other side effects so we did some research online and bought ubiquinol ,a form of COQ10 thats easily absorbed ,has no side effects and kept his cholesterol level low ,as I said before he is active walks miles every day is doing the Kiltwalk in April ( a walking marathon in a kilt) and has cut back the things he loves like cheese .If he wants to binge on chocolate now and again I dont say anything .The one thing in my favour is that he has always been image aware so the belly is an issue for him.

If DH was left alone ,he would eat toast and marmalade,toast and jam ,and toast and marmite ! I despair when I go out and come home to find he has not bothered to eat the casserole nicely bubbling away in the crock pot . I eat no butter except when baking and I have to buy two packs a week as it's about an inch thick on all this toast ! He had a stent put in after a heart attack ten years ago too. If there is no butter in the house he will pop up to the corner and buy more at great expense . He also eats miniscule amounts of veg and just the odd piece of fruit . I have given up now as it irritated me so much and caused dreadful rows ?

My DH has heart problems, type 2 diabetes and high cholesterol amongst other things. He has been told by 2 different specialists in the last 2 weeks that he is dangerously overweight, must lose weight and exercise. He has always been a very fussy eater and everything he likes are the wrong foods, chips, bread, biscuits, cakes, crisps. He will eat sweets non stop. I've tried not buying junk food but he just gets irritable if he can't have what he wants so I've given up!

Whats all this about cholestrol? Its now not so bad for us after all just good for the pharmacutical concerns! Apparently we don't need it lowering and its better for old people to have some .Ask you GP if he knows his cholestrol level. Most doctors don't take statins, but they like to have something to prescribe.

Thought I had got mine eating healthily after his heart attack, but I was bemused by the consumption of mints and the number of times he was having to go to a local DIY store for bits of wood, screws etc until I accompanied him one day and he was greeted warmly by the owner of the fast food van in the car park! Have started a diet myself now and he is blissfully unaware he is eating Slimming World recipes at the moment!

Egg and Bacon are one of the best breakfasts a diabetic can have . It doesn't spike the sugar levels like bread and cereals .

My DH was I'll with a gastic bug in Jan & blood tests showed his blood sugar was very high. He is type 2 diabetes & has always ignored it eating total rubbish despite all my efforts to feed him healthy food. He eould keep a supply of today drinks, sweets & crisps in his car. This was a wake up call & he agreed to go on low carb diet. This is the man who refused to eat any veg except peas & carrots. Never salad at all. He has lost 3 stone & is now eating salads, green veg, cauliflower rice etc. He has had to agree he feels great & is wearing clothes he had sorted out for charity shop that he thought he would never get into again.
Sometimes they need a kick up the bum to get them to see sense.