Depression

It's good to see the banter pompa.

How are you doing Mishap?

Granjura, don't worry I was quite aware that it was friendly banter, if you get to know me better, you will see that I deserve all I get. A bit of light hearted banter cheers me up no end, as it does others I hope.

granjura, we weren't actually talking about depression then - it was a light interlude. You are right, of course, though.

Depression - sadly- does not need excuses

You're still only 69 Pompa! No excuses!

what do you expect at 70.

So I got the emoticon wrong!

Don't you both mean the shortest day? [confused[

Longest day I will be three score and ten on that day

Good for you pompa. I don't know about snowdrops, my winter jasmine is flowering and some of the garden shrubs are growing away! Only 20 days to the longest day, always a moment of relief for me!

Anniezzz09. These dark grey days depress most people. However, it will only be another 6 weeks or so until we see the first snowdrops and can look forward to spring. If you have a garden, now is the time to start planning for next year.
Mishap is still poorly, but I'm sure she will improve as her hip heals. All we can do is support her with positive chat.
I am fine now, all my problems are on the mend, still grumpy, but I do have a reputation to live up to ! (If I was too cheerful, Mrs. P would be suspicious that I was up to no good)

Feeling miserable and down this morning, hate these grey skies and the doom and gloom of the way this country is strangling itself in stress, over work, traffic congestion, loneliness, whatever and I came and had a peep at this thread and I feel upset on behalf of those of you who are suffering in various ways, looks like especially mishap and pompa, sorry if I have missed others.

So I've got myself by the scruff of the neck and said 'it could be a lot worse so stop moaning'. Instead I want to say thanks to everyone who takes the time to post and to create a lively online community and I can't offer anything specific to the problems people have at the moment but I do want to send hugs and healing for what that's worth.

Hope things improve for you soon. Having just looked it up, I understand this { } is the smiley or emoticon for hug, so here's one of those { }

I've nothing to add to the posts above but I hope anyone suffering feels better soon.

Oh mishap I am so sorry you are having even more to deal with. How much can one person take?

If only those of us who are former nurses could descend on you and give you some TLC and first class care. We used a mix of olive oil and meths to rub into pressure points, to stop the skin drying out which leads to pressure sores, something that has probably changed now but rubbing some olive oil into those areas would keep your skin moist.

The memory foam mattress topper pompa has recommended is an excellent idea for comfort and avoiding pressure sores. Another suggestion is a medical sheepskin mat which would also help against pressure sores and lastly, a foam heel support which can be bought in Boots.

I am sending you the strongest healing vibes and sincerely hope you have a better day

Mishap

Oh, what a shame , just when you seemed to be improving. Today is just one day, tomorrow will hopefully be better. Keep posting.

I have a hip bursitis that is painful to lay on, I got a 50mm memory foam mattress topper that has helped enormously until they can come up with a remedy. This may help your bed sores.
As Eloethan says, there are quite a few products available to help you to sleep sitting up without sliding down.

Here is just one company that has such aids (there are many more)

www.essentialaids.com/bedroom-aids/bed-assists.html

Mishap Is there something you can sleep on to alleviate the pressure on your bum? Oh, I've just seen that pompa suggested something. But surely there is a commercial product that prevents pressure sores - would the nurse at your GP surgery be able to advise?

What a shame you are going to miss the evening out that you'd been looking forward to. I do hope you soon feel better and start to make a steady recovery.

Mishapsorry you are feeling down again and have so many other problrms adding to your troubles. As annsixty said it will pass. You will feel better again and hopefully very soon. Lots of ((huggs)) in places where it doesn't hurt.

So sorry Mishap, I know how grim depression is. Try to hold on to the thought that as surely as it comes it does in time also lift.
Sending ((hugs)) and best wishes x

Mishap, I wish I could help, so cruel that you are suffering so much.

What i may be able to help wth is your pressure sore.

I had a similar problem many years ago when I was in hospital for many weeks. The sister made what she called a donkey. You need a strong (double preferably) sheet and a firm pillow, wrapt the pillow in the sheet so yo have a firm sausage with two long ends. Put the pillow at the bottom of the bed where you can push your feet gainst it nad tuck the two ends under each side of the mattress. This will stop you sliding down the bed and should help your bum & heels.
This is what you are trying to achieve.

www.welcomemobility.co.uk/images/products/medium/NR_M82734.jpg

There are a number of commercial products available, not sure how expensive they are.

I assume you do not have a footboard on your bed, if you have it ie easy to put a support in.

Mishap Just try and get through today and maybe tomorrow will be a bit easier. You're having such a tough time, it must start to improve soon (((hugs)))

So sorry Mishap I can't offer any solution,I just hope you soon see some light at the end of that long dark tunnel. My own mantra is "this too will pass". I hope this is true for you.

Oh Mishap I wish there was something we could do other than send virtual (((hugs))). I suppose it's bound to be a case of two steps forward and one back - you had been sounding so much better - well not so down.

Can you bring yourself just to go for a little while? If only to sit at the back and slip away early? Just to get out may help even if it exhausts.

Well here I go again. I have been not too bad for a week or so, but yesterday felt that horrible sinking feeling again and went to bed feeling grim. Woke up today with a pressure sore starting on my heel - I am having to sleep sitting up (heart problem) and my broken foot has impaired circulation. I also have a sore bum from sleeping in that position.

My hip is giving me more pain; as is my knee. And the last straw was my IBS - sitting on the loo in pain and feeling sick as a dog.

Some days it does not feel worth even trying to keep going.

This evening I was meant to be going out to the pub to an event that I had been invited to and it was to be my first proper outing since the op - there is no way I can go as I am just a weeping heap; but not going will make me feel even worse as it was to have been a landmark step back into some sort of normality.

I suspect that the beta blockers might be aggravating the depression - and I can't take an anti-depressant because it irritates my heart. I can see no end to all this.

Gripe over.