Mothers Day - interested in opinions

While I am a mum, I am a Gran too, and there is now a Grandmother's Day.
My children do pop a bunch of flowers in, but DD and DIL get the rest of the day, and I am more than happy with that. (MILs and DM are both gone, but would have been invited to come for lunch in later years.)

Loaded question from OP with predictable results.
Hope all the Mothers Day stuff is now safely behind us.

@Chardy I wouldn't want to spend Mother's Day without my babies (besides one was only 8 weeks old on Mother's Day so it was my first Mother's Day with her and she is exclusively breast fed). Only my 2nd Mother's Day with first born daughter.

@Grannieinatwist her behaviour has been dreadful and has proved she can't be trusted when it comes to the well-being of my children. Myself and my 2 children are no contact (with full support from DH) and he is very low contact. He dropped a card off for her on the Tues and spent the day with me and his children, it was lovely.

You know hardly anything about the mother Grannieinatwist apart from her not liking her d.i.l. You don't know why she doesn't like her, she may have a good reason, she may not.

If the son loves his mum and doesn't want to estrange her, why should he?

I think that when I become a grandmother, I take a step back and priorities the women who are raising children right now

Of course I'd like to be thought of but wouldn't expect to take any of the day from them really

The son has picked a woman he loves, married and wants to spend the rest of his life with, yet his mother chooses to voice her irrelevant opinion of not liking her? So much so that she won’t spend mother’s day in her company?!

The mother sounds absolutely dreadful, so yes I absolutely would not blame the son for estranging her. How dare she treat his son’s wife like this.

Oldnproud

Astitchintime

Why can't his mother behave like an adult and spend the day with her DS, DIL, and DGC?

If she is invited to do that, I imagine she would be very happy to do so. It does require the other adults in the equation to act like adults too, though.

Of course Oldnproud, I just read the following: (and his mother doesn't like his wife so there's no option of all being together) and misinterpreted.

Astitchintime

Why can't his mother behave like an adult and spend the day with her DS, DIL, and DGC?

If she is invited to do that, I imagine she would be very happy to do so. It does require the other adults in the equation to act like adults too, though.

Why can't his mother behave like an adult and spend the day with her DS, DIL, and DGC?

Dad takes his kids and mother out for brunch so his wife gets a lie-in

Grannieinatwist

Honestly, option 3

If his mum doesn’t like his wife he should estrange his mum.

Seriously? I hope you’re never disliked by an inlaw. 🙄

You'd better hope if you have a son and you don't like his wife Grannieinatwist that your son doesn't estrange you. That would really put you in a twist wouldn't it.

Oldnproud

nightowl

Grannieinatwist

Honestly, option 3

If his mum doesn’t like his wife he should estrange his mum.

What a world some people live in! So glad I don’t know anyone like that.

Hear hear.

Just to make other clear, in case it isn't obvious, I was agreeing with nightowl.

I certainly don’t agree he should enstrange his mum just because she doesn’t like his wife that’s ridiculous. He can marry who he chooses. Not his mothers buisness. Wow!

The mother of his children should take top priority so she should come first! But he should go visit his mum If at all possible take or send flowers or phone call

nightowl

Grannieinatwist

Honestly, option 3

If his mum doesn’t like his wife he should estrange his mum.

What a world some people live in! So glad I don’t know anyone like that.

Hear hear.

Grannieinatwist

Honestly, option 3

If his mum doesn’t like his wife he should estrange his mum.

What a world some people live in! So glad I don’t know anyone like that.

Well said nightowl and Rosies .

I’m sure it is possible to see 2 people in one day, or speak on a phone or video linkup .

Honestly, option 3

If his mum doesn’t like his wife he should estrange his mum.

I think it his wife’s day, she is the new mum and his first loyalty is to her. My son did visit with a card and flowers for an hour or so which was lovely though and he also brought my DGD which was lovely. My DD just sent a text message! My own late DM used to create hell if we didn’t send a card and I am determined not to be like her. The word narcissist was created with her in mind.

What happens on Fathers Day? Do we fairly reverse the priorities and celebrate our husbands as fathers first and foremost and give our own fathers a wee phonecall or text.

If local, do a visit with the mom on the Saturday and have the Sunday with the wife and kids.

No reason if local not to do both.Your son is still your son and you his Mum.The children should make a card for their own Mum.