Apparent Lack of care shown

You’ve put it so much better than I did Marydoll and BlueBelle. If I don’t mention it, it’s not real.

Don’t know if this might help, but the DDs and I had a family WhatsApp and I posted on DH’s condition regularly, especially after Hospital appointments and various treatments. They then used to text/ring/visit depending on my bulletin.

I agree with GSMand marydoll she may not know what to say and if you don’t acknowledge something it ‘may not be true’ she may be very frightened to hear of her dads frailty and not know what to say and by saying nothing she’s swept it under the carpet and doesn’t have to think about it
It may not be thoughtless or unkind she may be trying to preserve herself

Perhaps she is afraid to ask, because she knows the news may not be positive.

I'm not saying I condone it, but sometimes our children don't want to accept that we will eventually not be here.

She may find it difficult to process and not mentioning it could be her way of dealing with it, almost pretending it’s not happening.

Some people are just like that sadly. I don’t think there is much you can do apart from asking her directly why she seems not at all bothered. Take care.