Paternal Grandmother

BlueSparkle I think you are looking at this wrong

It is not down to your son and DIL to do what you need to sooth your envy, it is down to you to find a way to move past it

I know you are offering help but too many offers are going to come across as needy and badgering

Bring invited over once a week is fantastic, even if you feel that time is too scheduled the important part is that they are making that time for you.

Please stop pushing to have your grandchild alone, it's not necessary for you or for your grandchild and it is not what the parents want.

Maybe focus on offering something once a month on your terms, a picnic in the park, a day out somewhere, a meal at your house where they don't have to play host.

Treat them as a family unit and don't push for separating them before they are ready and I think things will change for the better

It does seem that the paternal grandparents often miss out. I do understand how disappointed you must feel but would advise treading carefully.

It would be better to speak to both parents together. If your son has to go to his wife saying’ my mum says..’ it will annoy her.Do not point out the unfairness of the other relations seeing him more often.

You say that you see your grandchild once week, that is more than most grandparents that I know. As the child gets older maybe there could be outings with just you and possibly overnights in the future, but that is for the parents to decide.

Be grateful for the time you are given and keep things cordial or you may find you have less time with him than you do now.

I have the same issue, if you live near then why not just pop round? I think if she doesn’t like you doing that then you can ask to see baby more often. Once a week is quite good compared to a lot of grandparents.

Daisend1 - we have briefly discussed my feelings but our son is quite stressed with work in addition to the arrival of the baby so we don't want to pile it on! A more in depth conversation maybe something to consider though.

Have you discussed your feelings with your grandchilds father?

Apologies- should have read Paternal Grandmother!