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Elizabeth27 Thu 17-Feb-22 12:40:17

It does seem that the paternal grandparents often miss out. I do understand how disappointed you must feel but would advise treading carefully.

It would be better to speak to both parents together. If your son has to go to his wife saying’ my mum says..’ it will annoy her.Do not point out the unfairness of the other relations seeing him more often.

You say that you see your grandchild once week, that is more than most grandparents that I know. As the child gets older maybe there could be outings with just you and possibly overnights in the future, but that is for the parents to decide.

Be grateful for the time you are given and keep things cordial or you may find you have less time with him than you do now.

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Willow73 Thu 17-Feb-22 12:33:55

I have the same issue, if you live near then why not just pop round? I think if she doesn’t like you doing that then you can ask to see baby more often. Once a week is quite good compared to a lot of grandparents.

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BlueSparkle41 Thu 17-Feb-22 12:28:40

Daisend1 - we have briefly discussed my feelings but our son is quite stressed with work in addition to the arrival of the baby so we don't want to pile it on! A more in depth conversation maybe something to consider though.

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Daisend1 Thu 17-Feb-22 12:20:10

Have you discussed your feelings with your grandchilds father?

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KimGransnet (GNHQ) Thu 17-Feb-22 12:19:24

No problem - we've fixed the title for you now, BlueSparkle!

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BlueSparkle41 Thu 17-Feb-22 12:12:24

Apologies- should have read Paternal Grandmother!

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BlueSparkle41 Thu 17-Feb-22 12:10:29

After many years of thinking we would never be blessed with grandchildren, our beloved grandson was born 4 months ago. However, what I envisaged versus reality are very different. My DIL is exceptionally close to her mother and sister although we live nearer than her mother does. Her mother has baby-sat twice and sister a couple of times for short periods but we are yet to have the pleasure although we are booked for April after a quiet word with our son.
DIL is also very close to her aunt who is visiting from abroad this week so they are out every day. We do get to see our grandson on average once a week but as my husband says it feels 'like an appointment' with start and finish times given to us.
It doesn't help that I lost my mum when she was 35 and I was 14 (sister 10). My MIL was not particularly interested or helpful in any way. I keep making offers of help but they are never accepted. I would have jumped at the chance to take up the type of offers I make. I feel wretched and consumed with envy during a time I was expecting to be joyful. Has anyone else been through similar? Any advice would be most gratefully received.

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