Bittersweet first Grandchild

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My Dil is very good at sending photos and videos. We talk online about once a fortnight. My DGS is 9 months old now and so has only just started taking an interest when his parents talk to us. We were really lucky to be there for the birth last year, and we will be over there for 4 months this year, so lots of bonding time! I'm sure that as he gets older we will send him little gifts throughout the year and communicate online. To be honest, we will be seeing more of him than my other 2 GC, who live in the UK but 300 miles away. It's not easy, but knowing that your DC have a good life and are bringing up their children in a good place helps enormously.

grandmakt how do you communicate with your grandchild during the year? Do you send many things? Was he born in NZ and if so did you feel involved?
I would like to feel included with photos etc but I’m wary of overstepping the mark as I have been a bit too much in the past and I’m very thankful for my fellow gransnetters for steering my ship safely through all the changes in dynamics in my family.
I think we could afford a yearly visit to both sons, although thinking I may visit the elder son twice next year to see dil whilst pregnant and then see baby once he or she is born.

I do sympathise Dilly, I have a baby grandson in NZ. We get lots of photos and videos and are off for cuddles next month! It must be even worse for you if your family have always lived close together; we have always been widespread.

Regarding voting for Brexit, I know one family where the son works in the city and is having to move his company to Germany now and his mother voted for Brexit because she was annoyed that the EU had outlawed powerful vacuum cleaners!

I know a number of people like Dilly who regret voting out, and by the same token know outers who don't regret it and would do so again.

We all have to live with our political decisions but it must be hard on those who are immediately and directly affected by a regretted vote.

Brexit has thrown up a lot of problems for many families with ties to the EU either through work or marriage - I doubt if Brexiteers gave them a second thought.

This is just so sad. Really sorry Dilly.

We are all heartbroken and all voted for Brexit how on earth did you not know this would be the way forward If the reason we are in this hideous pickle is because people discounted it as not being a problem at the time God help us I don’t mean to have a go dillythegardener but this country is broken into fragments because people didn’t think or bother to find out
And sorry to say your kids are right you did vote for it and have lived to regret it a hard thing to live through and hard for all of us to be dragged into this hideous turmoil
I m sorry I really am because no it isn’t the same, I m a long distance Nan NZ and Europe (nothing to do with a Brexit long before that) and you just have to get on with it, visit when you can, there’s nothing else to it
What a big shame and I really am sorry I haven’t been as gentle as the others on here I was about to write a really empathic post until you added your part in it all I still do feel empathic towards you, but puzzled and frustrated too

Thank you all for being so kind. grandmakt my children did warn me about the impact, but tbh I discounted it at the time. I didn’t realise much of the money paid in went back into programs throughout the U.K.
I just can see how each new milestone I miss out on in the flesh is going to hurt, first born, first steps, first words. I’ll see them in video, but there is nothing like baby cuddles and the next generation at family milestones and events

Congratulations Dilly but I do understand your sadness.
Yet another negative facet of Brexit. I hope you will have some nice visits to look forward to and lots of FaceTime exchanges.

Good heavens! Knowing your children's situations, can I ask why on earth you voted for Brexit?

Mixed emotions for sure dilly. Congratulations on the news, it is wonderful news, and a hug if you feel sad.

Oh Gosh, Dilly, I see your difficulties.

Dilly, I'm sorry your DC are moving so far away. I know other people who have lost jobs, including close family, like your family due to Brexit. This is one of the expected results from Brexit and one of the reasons I find it difficult to understand why people voted for it.

inkcog my children are in very different professions, younger son is a city worker and his company has moved it’s base out of London to an EU country as many businesses in that field have. The few jobs left are very insecure so he’s moving to Canada where there are plenty of jobs in his field and great pay and lifestyle.
Oldest son and dil both work in the arts, and their work is funded by eu grants, the Tory government has slashed funding for the arts so there are no new avenues for funding for them. They are both moving to a country on the other side of the world. (Don’t want to give too much identifiable info on here)
I doubt either will ever come back, the countries are beautiful, great schools and lifestyle.
Many of my friends children are moving post brexit, to South Africa, NZ, Canada and Australia. We are all heartbroken and all voted for brexit. It’s a hard situation as if we complain the kids just say, mum you voted for this!

Many congratulations DillytheGardener, what lovely news for you. My own children's grandparents lived quite a distance away and it made the relationship between them very special. We saw them as often as we were able, shared holidays and the children stayed with them from an early age. I think they all got much more out of the relationship than if they had lived closer.

I know it's sad - I married and left home to move overseas. My poor mother practically brought up my oldest daughter. It must have broken her heart to see us move thousands of miles away. But she waved us goodbye, with tears ofcourse, but knew we we were leaving for a better future.
All the best !!

Sorry dilly, why are they emigrating post Brexit?

Congratulations! How lovely for you and its sad for us long distance Grans but never know what life will bring- I hope you get to see the baby lots and lots.